SO issues

[opalfirefly.livejournal.com]

ok so ladies--- what do you do when you finally start narrowing down your list of names and then your SO turns down almost every single one of them???
Every time i start to fall in love with a name he's like "no"
I mean I feel like i should be able to name one boy and one girl anything i want b/c i compromised and said the first boy and girl are names he and HIS family like....
I like them ....now.. but i would have NEVER chosen these names on my own... none of them were even on my list---ever!!!
argh

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[k-t-bug.livejournal.com]

I don't know what I'd do. My husband was more than accommodating. He said, "I'd like some input on the middle name if that's okay." Granted, he also hates to make decisions...

It's real easy to shoot down others' ideas, but until he comes with his own list of names his loves, then he's not really participating in compromise.

I say, they already got the fun part, we do all of the work, let us have this. Good luck!

[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

I'd probably tell him what you just posted here. Especially the part about YOU compromising on the first set of names.

I'm not even pregnant and I went throught that with my husband. I'd be finding names and EVERY single one I really liked he'd shoot down. I finally decided that 1.) I'm not pregnant so it's not urgent that we agree and 2.) I told him if he wouldnt come up with names that he liked, he didnt get to tell me he didnt like the ones I did =) He's a lot more mellow about not immediately jumping back with a no now. He'll think about them at least, which is all I really wanted to begin with.

[mrsduryee.livejournal.com]

I have to remind myself of #1 all the time. I say, "I have a new favorite name," and he says, "okaaaaayyyyy," and I say (without his asking for it), "It's Susanna," and he says, "Okaaaaaayyy."

I know for sure he's thinking, "we have two cats that already have names and we're not having children yet. What are you thinking about that for??!"

So I don't tell him anymore. When we do get preggers though, he'll hear them all and I'll probably cry for days. He likes Katelynn, Austin and Madison. :/ I love those too, but I want a way less common name...you know...below the top 20. lol.

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

Not that I'm pregnant or TTC or anything, but my bf hates most of the names I've suggested for girls. He likes Isabel... and that's it. It definitely bugs me. I think he liked Sydney, too but I was joking when I suggested that. I don't tell him names I like anymore, really, cause he'll ruin them for me!

[heyitsrebecca.livejournal.com]

That happened to me twice. Except the part about the boy and girl already named beforehand.
The first time, I just kept throwing out names until he got tired of it and agreed to one randomly just to shut me up. =X That's how I got Ivy.
The second time, we made huge lists, and vetoed, and added, and fought, and cried.. and ended up with a comprimise. Neither one of us really love it, but we don't dislike it either.. and that's how I got Leah. I'm sure if I were still pregnant, she wouldn't have a name.. she was only officially named less than 24 hours before she was born, and I was 8 days overdue.. LOL
Good luck! =D

[in-the-starlite.livejournal.com]

It's only really a problem when it gets down to the all-time favorite name.

Me: "If I have a girl, I want to name her Lily Katherine."
Him: "I don't."
Me: *pouty face*

I still have time to win him over, though. lol.

[poespretty.livejournal.com]

kill him? lol jk.

mine is so the same way. when I was pregnant w/my daughter, I'd throw names at him every day. and sometimes he'd say a name was ok, then the next day, decide he hated it. So I felt like I couldn't get attached to a name since he'd go and ruin it five minutes later. after he'd veto every name I'd say, "how about Amelia" which was my favorite & the one he said he hated more than words could say (supposedly) and he'd get mad.

my daughter's name is Amelia...

I've heard that there's really nothing they can do but give in when you are squeezing the crap out of their hand & screaming at them during labor. it's the least they can do. :)

I'd put my foot down though this time if I were you esp considering he already got to pick two...

[cassandrakfreaq.livejournal.com]

you don't give him a choice....lol j/k

[cherryrider.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend had no say in either of his kids name, but we decided the next kids that come, I name the first name and he names the middle.