I can't make up my mind!

[stacilia.livejournal.com]

So, for the past four weeks, I had decided that I wanted to name my upcoming little girl, Ava Isabella. Now, I know everyone is going to say "ava is so overused, etc", but I live in a very, very small town, and I don't know of a single Ava here. However, I've recently also fell in love with two other names. Evangeline and Adeline. *Squinches eyes shut* I already told everyone I was going to name her Ava, but now I can't decide!! I really like all three of these names. I'm also having trouble with the middle name. I want to name her Isabelle or Isabella (thats the only stipulation that the father had..he wanted her named after his grandmother if possible...) Which sounds better? I need your help girls! Else, I'll go nuts trying to decide what to name her. Would it be considered bad taste to change what I was going to name her, or should it not really matter, since its my baby? What combination would you use with the names provided? Help!

Comments

[patheticinvader.livejournal.com]

She could always have 2 or 3 middle names. My neighbor has 4 boys, and they all have 2 middle names (one even has first name, middle name, middle name, last name, hyphen, second last name). So you could do Ava Evangeline Isabella, or Adeline Evangeline Ava, or Ava Isabella Adeline, etc.

[in-the-starlite.livejournal.com]

If you stick with Ava, I would say Isabella is fine.
With the other two, though, I think it's too many syllables.

I'm not a big fan of Isabella myself, just because I think it's too long. My cousin named her baby Isabella Michelle Delarosa. Wow. What a mouthful.

[bloomingtulip.livejournal.com]

i like all those names too, so i'm not much help there lol

BUT people do change their babies names all the time right up until they have given birth so i wouldn't worry about that. plan it as much as you can and then if you look at her and go "you know, she seems more like and Adeline than an Ava" go with that :)

[stacilia.livejournal.com]

That is very true. I'm sure once I see her in 9 weeks, I'll know!

[polkadotskirt.livejournal.com]

I love Adeline! also love ava... she is your baby, don't see why it would be bad taste! and middle names... not sure if Isabella goes with the longer two, but isabelle does, as it's a syllable less. All nice though, let us know which you choose!

[stacilia.livejournal.com]

Oohh! Thank you all. I didn't even think about giving her two middle names. Alot of my family does that though. We like to try and keep things traditional.

[elemmennope.livejournal.com]

I think when it comes to popular names, the fact that you don't happen to know any right now is irrelevant. Your child will not live within your same social circle their entire life. You and she could move, other people could move to your town, she'll grow up and go to college in another state etc etc. Ava *is* popular and that is something to consider, for her sake.

Evangeline is one of my least liked names. The association with evangelical shove-it-down-your throat christianity is so distasteful, I just can't warm up to the name at all.

Adeline I nice. I prefer that to the very mainstream Ava. Though with Addison and Madeline, Adeline isn't much more uncommon.

How about Ada? It's kind of a nice blend of Ava and Adeline imo, but much more uncommon than either one.

[patheticinvader.livejournal.com]

Who cares if Ava is popular in 19 years when the girl goes off to college? Bread could be a popular name in 19 years for all we know. If she grows up with that name it won't bother her that *God forbid* someone else has her name. It's not embarrassing or mean to the child to give it a name that other women have named their children.

[elemmennope.livejournal.com]

I'm speaking from the perspective of someone who *has* a popular name and does *not* like it. Popularity is something that should be considered when choosing a name, and you won't convince me otherwise. I've dealt with the problems my entire life.

Your comment is unnecessarily abrasive. Where did I state "embarrassing" or "mean?" I did not.

[patheticinvader.livejournal.com]

Other people lash out in this community when people suggest names that are "cutesy" or "popular". I understand you did not, and I apologize for that. It just irks me. I could understand with names like Ashley, or Brittany, or such like that. But if you name your kid something that you like, even if it is Brittany or Ashley, why should anyone interfere and say, "well, what if it's popular in 20 years?"

I had people tell me stuff like that when I was pregnant with my daughter, and she died. So she never got to experience "embarrassment" from a possibly "popular" name growing up.

[sayga.livejournal.com]

she's not saying it WILL be popular in 20 years. she's saying it IS popular now, and when/if the child leaves the town in 20 years, she will encounter a lot of people her age with her same name...

being named Sarah, i understand this concept. i have always hated my name and how many sarah's there are EVERYWHERE. i can't even call friends on the phone without having to give my last name, because they might have any number of Sarahs calling them. it's very annoying. i'm deal with having a very common name nearly every day, and i'm 25.

[patheticinvader.livejournal.com]

Yeah well my name's Elizabeth, and that name has been popular and used for how long? I know how it's like having a popular name, but it's never once "embarrassed" me or made me uncomfortable. My mother in law is named Elizabeth, as well as her mother and grandmother. I don't find it annoying or a hassle, it's just a name.

[patheticinvader.livejournal.com]

And as far as how harsh people are on LJs, I'm in a support group community and I've got more than one person making comments about getting an abortion to feel better about myself, and, "
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hahahah, did you get kicked in the stomach?
i hear [info]dead_babies is a good support group", or, "Oh, so she croaked after she oozed out of your gaping vagina? Sorry about the misunderstanding.", so at least my comment wasn't something damaging.

[elemmennope.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry you're going through some very hard stuff right now; I can't even imagine. Take care of yourself.

No hard feelings, your little comment wasn't a big deal. :) And try not to take rude comments from other people hard either. Internet interaction is just bizarre and largely inappropriate at times and usually has way more to do with the person giving than the person receiving, KWIM.

[elemmennope.livejournal.com]

Ava is ranked #9 in the country by the way. It's not a question of will it become popular. It's already there.

[arbus.livejournal.com]

i like ava isabella, and i dont really like evangeline or adeline.

perhaps an alternative could be isabel evangeline?

[lavandersparkle.livejournal.com]

1. It's your baby it doesn't matter
2. Personally I think you shouldn't put a long middle name with a short first name. So Ava Isabelle would be okay, that's what I would use.

[k-t-bug.livejournal.com]

Also, you don't have to decide now. It's not written in "stone" until it's on the birth certificate. You can always have a few names ready and see which ones suits her best.

[dancing-crazy.livejournal.com]

It DEFINITELY, definitely doesn't matter at all if you told everyone you'd name her Ava and change it. It's your baby, your call, don't even worry about it.

I personally love all three of those names, but I like Adeline the most. It's unique, classy, and SO pretty. I'd go with Adeline Isabella. Ava Isabella is lovely as well, but I can't get over how insanely popular it is most places now.

[sayga.livejournal.com]

you could always tell people you told them her name would be Ava to take pressure off you while you decided what her REAL name would be. i know i got asked nearly every day what my daughter's name would be, and we didn't name her until a week after she was born!

[ouronlylight.livejournal.com]

I like Ava Isabella best, but if you wanted to change the name, I wouldn't think it would be in bad taste, as long as you tell anyone who might have been purchasing personalized gifts for her.

[stacilia.livejournal.com]

Ooh. I didn't think of that! I should probably request that they didn't personalize anything. I have a feeling I won't come up with a name until she's actually born.

[holly-megan.livejournal.com]

I don't know if it's in bad taste or not to change her name before she's born, but I say, who cares? It's a name you and your husband have to live with for the rest of your lives, you should love it, that's all that matters.

In that same respect, if you love Ava, then name her Ava. Having a popular name isn't the end of the world. It's a beautiful name IMO no matter how popular it is.

I agree with the suggestion above, why not use 2 middle names? Ava Evangeline Isabelle/Isabelle sounds lovely. Although, I think you should use the true version of her name (Isabelle/Isabella) if she's a namesake, but that's just something I'm a stickler on.

[trissyd.livejournal.com]

This is why you shouldn't tell anyone her name until she's born ;)!

I like 2 middle names, but all your fav's have 2 if not 3 syllabel's and I personally think it's a little excessive.

Ava Isabella is beautiful, but it is common. I'm anti-common names because I never want to have my kids be "Ava H." or "Aiden J." is class... but that's just me.

Congrats!!

[maude.livejournal.com]

I vote against Ava because it's soooo popular. My mom didn't know anyone named Erin either when she named me, but I'm Erin K. at work, at school, and even in my little group of friends. It gets really, really tiring.

And on that note, I like Adeline Isabelle.

[sayga.livejournal.com]

just found this one on the social security website. #850 in the 1880s: Evalena
I think it's nice, and a little simpler (and less religious) than Evangeline.

[trissyd.livejournal.com]

Evalena... that's beautiful!

[thunderofsins.livejournal.com]

Do not name your child what other people want you to name her or what others are expecting you to name her. She will be YOUR child for her entire life, make sure that you are certain of the name.

(Also, I was going to be named jennifer lynn. Everyone knew this, my mom had decided when she was only about 3 months pregnant...I was born and she decided I didn't look like a Jennifer and changed it to Jeanette Nicole. Everyone else just had to get over it.)

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

I totally vote for Evangeline. Ava is so dull and overused. Your daughter may not live in a small town forever.