"Destiny"

[imthelonely-one.livejournal.com]

My best friend is pregnant, and I really want to support her, but she is seriously considering naming her daughter this and I just... It seems awfully trashy to me. Her family and aquaintences like it, but that doesn't surprise me seeing as how she lives in a super white trash housing complex. I really want to convince her that naming her kid something like "Destiny" "Kaighlee" or "Mercedes" etc. will NOT be doing the poor girl any favours. But at the same time, I really don't want to seem pretentious? 

It's not that, I just know that name descrimination is real, and I don't want my best friend's little girl to be held back in life because she thinks it "sounds cute". Should I just butt out? I keep suggesting alternatives but I don't know. Maybe I should just leave it alone.

Oh, and sorry if anyone here happens to love that name, or named their daughter that!

Comments

[imthelonely-one.livejournal.com]

Oh and it's not just me. A lot of people think that way about this name. Just a few of the less than kind comments on a babyname message board. (and the majority of the comments were negative.)

"I know some of you think it's a really cute idea to use this name, but just take a moment to imagine that your daugter will, indeed, live past the age of 17. Now, I bet you haven't even considered such a wild idea as this, but try to imagine that your daughter might even want to get a higher education, a well-paying job, and a high position in life. If this is, indeed, her name, it will make her seem somewhat uneducated, superstitious (the name itself is a clear statement of that), and immature, as it doesn't suit a grown woman at all. The name sounds like a tacky pseudonym, and it's not even original anymore."

"This name is tacky and low-class."

"Cheap, common and trashy."

Simply naming your child 'Destiny' may not be enough to show how trashy and poorly educated you are. Why not name her DesT'Nee or Desstynii to really show them?"

So you can think I'm a bitch for thinking it, but realize there are tons of other people with the same opinion as me. People who could be deciding between a "Destiny" and a "Marie" for a job interview, and who do you think they'll pick?

[blosmbee.livejournal.com]

Well if other people on message boards say so....

Hey! Guess what? I don't really like he name either. My posts hae not been about the name, but about your terrible classist attitude.
Guess what else? I never called you a bitch, but these posts kind of make you look like an asshole!

[cerceau.livejournal.com]

It doesn't matter what you or anonymous stranger on the internet think though. Only your friend's, and possibly the child's father's, opinion matters. What the name is is irrelevant; beyond voicing your opinion once or maybe a few times, unless your friend asks you, it's none of your business what she names the kid.

[imthelonely-one.livejournal.com]

she has asked me. she said my opinion is really important to her. i'm going to be the godmother, and the baby's dad is not in the picture at all.