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[velkoria.livejournal.com]

Ok here's somethign I need opinions for... My mother and I were speaking and we got on the subject of adoption and I mentioned how I've always wanted to adopt a child and she thought it'd be a sweet idea... now I've always wanted to adopt a 1 year old or 2 year old, in other words not a newborn. ow do you feel about changing this child's name? I know some people feel strongly about this so try and be polite. I wouldn't change the name of a child that is old enough to speak and I am not even sure about the changing name bit but hey... asking for opinions.

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[arbus.livejournal.com]

to take away a name the real parents gave, and give one the adoptive parents choose

"REAL" parents, imo, are the ones who raise the child, not the ones who give birth.

[bouncepogo.livejournal.com]

+1.

[velkoria.livejournal.com]

exactly... I think that bit was what was the most offending...t he adoptive parent has exactly the same merit as the bio parent if not any kind of more merit as the adoptive parent is there to raise them.

[juniorfan29.livejournal.com]

I second this. My little cousin is four, and she is adopted. When my aunt and uncle first got her, as a foster child, she was 7 months old and weighed 11 lbs. She was within a week of dying (according to the doctor her treated her in the ER/hosp), and so weak that she couldn't even hold her own head up. My aunt and uncle got up every 2-3 hours AROUND THE CLOCK to feed her, so that she could get the nourishment she needed. She is now a happy, healthy, and beautiful little four year old. So, who are her REAL parents? The ones who gave birth to her, and nearly killed her with neglect? Or the ones who saved her and raised her? My vote is going on my aunt and uncle.

And, as a note to the original question in the post, when they got her her name was Lily Renee, the Renee being after the bitch who gave birth to her. Her name is now Lilyan Faith because my aunt and uncle didn't want that woman's name in any way, shape, or form attached to their daughter. They chose Faith because it took a lot of Faith in God for her to become theirs.