When parents disagree...

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

I'm new to the community and I joined because I believe naming a child is a very important process and shouldnt be just blown off. I am not planning on having children until I am married, but the problem is that my parents hate every name that I like. My boyfriend is African American and has lived his whole life in Mississippi, and I was born and raised in Europe and have lived in New Hampshire for the past 8 years, which obviously poses a few cultural differences. My boyfriend and I have come up with several potential baby names, but my parents are having trouble accepting names other than John, Peter, Catherine, or Ann. I want to find names that I different and special, but at the same time, not too "out there"... basically, I like unique names and spellings and here are my current favorites. Let me know if you know any other good ones, or if you like or dislike these:

Girl names:

Amaiia Marlee
Delanii Viera (the middle name is my mothers name, pronounced riVIERA, LOL hard to explain, its European)

Boy names:

Atreiiu (can't come up with a good middle name at the time, it will most likely be a family members name)
Aliijah Michael (middle name after my grandfather)


WDYT?

Comments

i hope you aren't serious

[lustdumpster.livejournal.com]

how can you say you don't want the names to be too out there but then continue to post these? they're not even real names.

the double I HAS to go. it's confusing, completely pointless, and your kid will resent you because you're pretty much making it so that if they have to spell their name for everyone. it's seriously such a pain in the ass.

the names themselves, for the most part, are not that bad. but:
amaiia: amaya. i still don't like the name, but that is how it would be spelled.
delanii: delaney, i believe. i don't like this either, it seems like more of a surname.

atreiiu: is this said like a-tray-u? if so, there's already an awful band by that name, atreyu. i don't advise you name your child this, ever.
and finally, elijah is a great name. aliijah, completely destroys it.

Re: i hope you aren't serious

[janelleandheart.livejournal.com]

Yeah I pronounced it like the band too.

Re: i hope you aren't serious

[sian-y.livejournal.com]

i was gonna ask if it was prononced Atreyu.

maybe they're big fans of their music :p

Re: i hope you aren't serious

[freezemyazaleas.livejournal.com]

IAWTC

Re: i hope you aren't serious

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

The double i is actually very special to me, and as I commented on another post, no matter what your name is, you will always find people mispelling your name and you having to correct them.

As for Atreyu, I have never heard of the band, but this name is from the Neverending Story and it is significant from my childhood.

Re: i hope you aren't serious

[queenb833.livejournal.com]

lol thank god someone said it.

[pythianlegume7.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you found us :). I do think you'll find that here though, most people don't like weird names or spellings. I think there is a way to find names that not everybody has and that are special without making them up. But in the end, it only matters what you think about them!

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

it also matters what the kid is gonna think and what kid is gonna like having to spend a lifetime spelling their name for people?

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

I noticed lol, people really dislike the unusual nature of the names I put up. My feelings aren't hurt though, because I've heard alot of this before from my parents and it really is about what me and my child's father think about them.

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

those spellings practically made my eyes bleed. i'm sorry but they are TERRIBLE. why oh why would you want to set your kid up for a LIFETIME (yes, lifetime) of correcting people on the spelling of his/her name?! omg. those look so tacky.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

I know for a fact that a Katie and a Jonathan will have to spell their name just as often as an Amaiia or an Atreiiu so I'm not feeling too bad about that

[istytehcrawk.livejournal.com]

Marley, Delaney, and Elijah are fine names. Amaya and Viera are ok.

Amaiia Marlee, Delanii, Atreiiu, and Aliijah are atrocious.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

Marlee is actually the name of my best friend (it is spelled with the ee at the end, so I did not make that up and I would like to respect the spelling of her name. But basically you dont like the double i

[fullofgrace40.livejournal.com]

You say you aren't going to have kids before you're married, but yet in your bio you say you love your baby girl Amaya?

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

it's a long story, she's not mine by birth but I have been raising her because there is no one else in her life

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

I like the sound of Delanii a lot. I like Atreyu as well, but it is hard to separate from the never ending story.

What is the significance of the double i?

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

The double i is something my grandparents started with my name, they would call me Zuzii and they were the only ones who ever put that in my birthday cards and letters and such, so its sort of something that I remember their love and affection by.
Atreyu is from the Neverending Story, its a thing me and my dad have had since I was a little girl. He actually loves that name and it is one of my favorites no matter which way it is spelled.

[schexyschteve.livejournal.com]

John, Peter, Catherine and Ann are leagues better than these double-I names.

Giving your child a misspelled name that still has a regular, easier pronounced version does nothing but set the child up for lifetime of hardship. I'm serious. How often is a name written compared to called out? Amaiia is said the same as Amaya, so why bother with the "ii"? Same for all of them.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

There is a reason for the double ii, but I do see your point and I have thought about the potential hardships. My name is not "regular" by any means of the word because it is foreign, and I do know alot about how annoying it gets when people keep asking me to spell it. However, I love not having a million other girls with the same name in class, and I know that when people hear my name, they know me. There are positives and negatives to everything, but I do appreciate your input

[stillimage.livejournal.com]

The double ii's make me feel like it is a screen name. I do kind of like Viera although.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

It means "Faith" in Slovakian (that's where I am originally from)

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

I absolutely agree with all you have said, and I am taking all the comments into account, especially these are the things people will say in the future (to me, our kids, or behind my kids backs) and although some of the reasons behind these names are sentimental, some things just arent worth the "look" and the questions. All the constructive criticism has been very much appreciated.

[queenb833.livejournal.com]

the double i, IMO, is the stupidest thing i have ever seen. it is completely unnecessary and unless you are a 13 year old girl writing in ur XANGA, there is no need for any name to have a double i.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

well, I don't know what a XANGA is, but you are entitled to your opinion (keep in mind, I do come from another country where names and spelling is alot different, so I wasn't exactly expecting everyone to embrace and love these name, as weird or silly as they might seem. But again, your opinion is your own and that is why I posted)

[cxtxc.livejournal.com]

Lol wow, people really hate the double "ii" thing. You'd think you were naming their kid.

The misspellings aren't that bothersome, but I do prefer the names spelled the way they're supposed to be. Viera is beautiful, as is Amaya. The combos are nice too even though I don't care for Marley or Delaney.

I don't like the boys names at all. Elliot is better than Elijah, and Atreyu...well, I just don't know.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

hmm, you inspired me (and my boyfriend who is making funny faces as I read him most of these responses). He likes Elliot ALOT (he almost fell out of his chair, because that is his grandfathers name). Thank you!

And I totally hear you when you say that people seem to be really worked up about the ii... it's ok though, some comments are more constructive than others. Thank you for your opinion and honesty.

[countesscain.livejournal.com]

Wow, everyone seems so agitated~

I love Marlee and Viera, though!

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

yes, unfortunately. I feel almost guilty for posting, because alot of folks seem almost offended by these names. I really am surprised though that most people seem to like the name Viera. It makes me feel really good inside, because it has always seemed like such a "foreign" name to me (maybe because it is my mom's name and I hear it mispronounced all the time).

[0o-faerie.livejournal.com]

Most people in this community are big opponents of unusual spellings, but I guess you know that by now ;)

I must say that I, too, feel that the double 'i's are a little redundant, but if they are important to you, I'd say keep them.
I love the sound of Amaiia Marlee, by the way =)
Some other (somewhat) unusual names:
Milou (Mee-LOU)
Anouk
Geneva

Finley/Finn
Audric
Guido
Moritz

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

Oh, I love the name Milou, that sounds beautiful to me, thank you for your suggestions

[the-fishery.livejournal.com]

All I have to say is once you are ready to have a baby, you will most likely change your mind and name them something totally different than you plan on using now. Believe me I did it three times. Thank God people change their minds or I'd have a niece named Taquilla Sunrise.

Also, I try to keep it simple because I have a horrible maiden name, not horrible, just nobody has ever heard of it and nobody can spell it even when you spell it for them *idiots*. I was never so thankful to marry my husband who had a very simple simple last name. Not only do I not get writers cramp signing my name now but I didn't have to spell it 4 times and still get the 'wtf' look after because they still didn't get it. Yeah my simple last name is mispelled because there are two natural spellings for it, but all I have to say is "No C" which is better than getting pissed off by spelling my maiden name 5 times and still have to say "ITS C-O-C-K YOU KNOW LIKE A DICK!!" Yeah, odd names and odd spellings are a complete HEADACHE!!

sigh

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

your post made me smile. I guess you are right, my mother also went on brainstorming baby names with my youger sisters and changed her mind the minute they were born.
But I hear you on the writers cramp and having to spell your last name over and over, I have a crazy last name too (and a pretty foreign first name as well), so I feel your pain.

[coutureable.livejournal.com]

So who told you that "ii" is pronounced as a "y"?
I'm just wondering where you got that idea from since, I have no idea how a double-i would be pronounced that way.

[chocolatee136.livejournal.com]

it's not, it's pronounced as the letter "e"

[sheshellabella.livejournal.com]

I'm dating a black guy as well (*shrugs* - he prefers to be called black over African American, to each his own). He's mixed with Mexican too. Neither of us like the double I's but he likes these names:
Anysa Aniah (Uh-nee-sa Uh-ni-uh)
Traziel Atreyu (Tray-zee-el Atreyu)

I completely detest his tastes in names and he knows it.

Amiah Marley and Delany Viera are pretty but the double I just doesn't sound or look right (English major here). Alijah Michael is cute but I prefer Elijah.

[sheshellabella.livejournal.com]

PS: Forgot to give you our list of names for our theoretical children.

First boy will be Clarence Otis Douglass Riley V (V as in the 5th)

Boys:
Henry Oliver
Elijah Cain
Eliot James
Charles Rhys

Girls:
Hannah Naomi
Mia Harper
Bonnie Jael (after my grandmother, middle name is biblical)
Zephyr Wren