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[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

It's been awhile since I've posted in here due to us having our names picked out or at least half decided on early on.
Anywho, we still are decided on Lyric Marie for a girl and we had agreed on Matthew Allen for a boy but due to recent events I have changed my mind.Any of u who haven't read any of my posts lately my babys dad and I aren't together but had been making a lot of plans and suddenly a couple weeks ago it just went down hill and because of his actions I have decided if we have a boy to name him after a friend of mine from childhood who passed away a couple years ago.
So if we have a boy his name will be Joshua Allen after my friend, but we will still put the Allen part on there. Allen is the owner of the bar we met at thru friends and are regulars at which to him kinda makes us family.Sooo since it's an important part of how we met we thought it would be nice to use his name for a middle name.

My SO doesn't understand why I would want to name my son after Josh no matter how much any of us try to explain it.Anyone have any ideas?All he says is that I better not think we're naming our son after a dead person as if I'm just picking a name randomly from a tombstone or something.grrr

Enough rambling, sorry.lol
So what does everyone think of the name Joshua David Allen?Honestly, no hard feelings if u tell me u don't like it. :)

Comments

[glitterberrys.livejournal.com]

Uh, your SO's kind of being a douchebag. Since when is it "bad" to name a kid after a deceased loved one? I seriously don't see how you could spin that negatively, unless he's somehow jealous of your dead friend (which...I don't know the guy, so I guess it's possible, but that seems like a reach!)
Joshua is a beautiful name, one of my favorites.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

He's not kind of being a douchebag right now, he totally is one!!
Exactly, we've all tried to explain to him that there are plenty of deceased Matthew's/Matthew Allen's around the world.

Hmmm, drew a blank for how to write what it was I was going to write.lol But anywho, the guy I was sleeping with before dating him was a friend w/ benifits and I think he may think that because I've had relationships like that with a couple guy friends I probably have w/ them all and therefor he doesn't want our son named after one.I also think it may be because it's not someone he knew or a family member thats deceased but when we started talking boy names I asked him if he would like to use his dad/grandfathers names as a middle name and he was VERY against it so tough luck i guess, I tried.But the way I see it, his behavior lately is kinda saying he doesn't care about much other then himself therefor it's been decided amoung my girls, mom, and I that his name will be Joshua. :)

[krazyhippie.livejournal.com]

"our son"

So by SO you meant your baby's dad that you're not with anymore? I was assuming you meant someone you were actually in a relationship with now. That was kind of confusing.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

Sorry to be confusing...we're not actually together right now but still call each other the SO.It's just easier that way I guess since we're still very much in each others lives for our child thats on the way.

[krazyhippie.livejournal.com]

Gotcha.

[crazy-confuzled.livejournal.com]

i really like that name :)

i don't understand why he doesn't understand that you want to name your child after a close friend of yours...if you name your child after your friend then part of him will always be with you (not saying that it isn't now)

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

yup yup, Jim is just being stubborn.lol

As I said before I asked him about using his dad or grandfathers name(s) as middle names before because I know how close he was w/ them growing up but he was against it more so then he is against naming a son after my friend.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

I agree he should have a say also but he's just being a total ass about it and won't listen to the reasons behind it as honoring a friend etc.

I've already told him my mind has changed about the name we agreed on and that that was it.

[mom-o-cass.livejournal.com]

bah!! on your SO - people have been naming babies after loved ones that have passed on forever!!!! great name choice. if our was a boy, his name would have been Elliott after a musician i knew that passed away.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

yes they have.but he doesn't see it that way for some reason even though i repeatedly brought up using his dad/grandfathers name(s) since I know he was close w/ them.
I thought he would like the idea since I know it really hit him like bricks when they passed away like 2-3 months apart shortly after we met.

[dionysia.livejournal.com]

I think Joshua David Allen is a great name.

You are honoring a beloved friend; that is a fitting tribute.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

thank you :)

[pale-september.livejournal.com]

I've never been a huge fan of Joshua. Not because it's not a nice name, but I seem to know 10,000 Joshua's. lol

As long as you're positive you want to name your baby after a deceased friend, go for it. Just make sure it's what you really want. :)

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

I was never really fond of the name growing up before I met Joshua either but then it kinda grew on me. I know for sure 100% that it's the name I want for a son, at least my 2nd choice anyway.My first is Christopher BUT I'm leaning towards using the dads last name which is Christobal so it wouldn't go.lol

[peach-rose-girl.livejournal.com]

It has been one of the most popular names (in the top 5) for the last 30 years or so. But then, so has Matthew.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

I've been noticing where it's been on the lists, but oh well. :)
He will have 2 middle names and can go by one of them if he would like.

[iwanttobemyself.livejournal.com]

your SO needs to chill out! it's not like you're naming your son after a dead LOVER. and there really isn't anything wrong with honoring a friend who has passed on by naming a child after that friend. if he can't understand that you should tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine! :P otherwise...I'm not a particular fan of David as middle name because it's so over used but I like the combination. :)

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

EXACTLY! We've all told him this.
It's a set in stone deal about the name if we have a son, no ifs, ands or butts about it! I kinda set it aside before when we were talking about names to see what else we could come up with but I kept telling him how important it was to me. I know it's not so much because he's deceased but because it's after a guy...he has no problem if we have a girl for her to have my best gf's middle name.

[the-theorist.livejournal.com]

I completely understand nameing the baby after your childhood friend!! My childhood best friend died at the age of 14 from a heart defect and when ever I have a baby I want his name (Brian) somewhere in there.

I know like 3 different people who have the first-middle name combo David Allen! That's the only thing agianst it... and Josh is one of my all time favorite names.

BTW, I love your idea for a girls name.

[akgothbitch.livejournal.com]

I don't really know what made me think of nameing a boy after Josh in all honestly because unfortunitly I have a list I could choose from of friends I've lost and they're all guys.Just something really stands out and I feel that from all of them he's w/ me the most.

Thank you.We came up w/ Lyric cuz u don't hear it and our love of music and Marie is my best friends middle name.