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[sleepy-tears7.livejournal.com]

So, a friend of mine just had a baby.

He named her Abigail.
I love that name.

Is it tacky if I use it also?

It's not after his child.. My ex's grandmother's name is Gail, and I would consider using her name, however I wouldn't name my baby Gail. Abigail is perfect.
Its a very classic, sweet name, I think.


So tacky, y/n?
 

Comments

[jordle.livejournal.com]

Abigail is my absolute favourite girls name and it would take a lot for me not to use it. I don't necessarily think it matters. My friend's kids are in my life but it isn't like I see them everyday and I don't see there being a real issue if your child had the same name as your friend's child.

I understand if it was a kry8ve name but Abigail is popular so it isn't like you stole it.

[sleepy-tears7.livejournal.com]

I don't know if its my FAVORITE girls name, but it seems to be one of the only ones I can think of actually using for my daughter. Although, I still have time to decide.
I mean, their daughter is Abigail Morningstar. I guarantee, I will not be naming her that ;-)

[wistfuljen.livejournal.com]

I do think it's a LITTLE tacky, to be honest. There are billions of names out there to be used, but if you REALLY feel it fits your baby, then go for it. That's the most important thing.

[sleepy-tears7.livejournal.com]

It was a name I had thought of BEFORE he named his baby that... But now that he has... IDK. =[

[0o-faerie.livejournal.com]

I don't know how close you are with this friend...I do think it's a little strange to name your kid the exact same thing, but on the other hand, it's not a super unique name, so it's not like your copying him. Besides, you have good reasons to use it =).

But if you're super close with this friend (see eachother all the time, kids will grow up together) then I'd reconsider, or make Abigail the middle name, I think.

[sleepy-tears7.livejournal.com]

Well, I am in Buffalo, NY.
He is stationed in Korea.
And his wife & child live in Alaska.
I don't think there is any problem regarding the kids growing up together LOL.

[0o-faerie.livejournal.com]

Hahah. Well, in that case, I'd say go ahead and use the name you love!

[adamant-turtle.livejournal.com]

I was just going to ask how close you and the friend were...if it was a super-close person, it might be a little weird...not that they invented the name or anything, but just because it might be kind of confusing. But under the circumstances, sure, go for it :-)

[cherryboomstick.livejournal.com]

Not tacky. I believe you should name your child whatever you want, regardless if it's already in use by someone you know. :p

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

It depends on how close you two are.
If you're close to the extent that you're gonna bring your kids together to the park, then I discourage it, because it would be unpractical

If he's your ex, then it would be tacky.

[2morrows.livejournal.com]

i'm not a parent, but i dont think i would mind if i were him. i guess it depends how close in proximity you are, etc. id also explain to him beforehand why youre picking abigail...

[lilacmermaid.livejournal.com]

I think it depends on several factors, such as how close you are with this friend and whether it might get confusing.

But I would also think about timing ... are you talking about a couple months from now, or five years from now? If you gave the same name within months of him doing so, I think it would look sort of odd, whereas if it was several years later it looks less like you got the name from his child. Furthermore, a lot can change in a few years, and maybe your friendship will have changed in such a way that makes this no longer an issue.

Either way, if you explain your family connection to the name, I can't imagine that he would mind (not that I think you should change it if he did). In my mind it's just a matter of whether YOU feel comfortable with both children having the same name, not whether he or anyone else would consider it tacky.

[satunian.livejournal.com]

If you were like my best friend and we lived close, and you gave your child the same name I gave mine, I might be a little annoyed, but if it's a long distance friendship or you guys are not super close, then it's fair game.

[arbus.livejournal.com]

i think its fine. personally, i would just explain to him before you announce the name to everyone that you had abigail picked out and why it has meaning to you. just out of respect, and so he doesnt think you are naming your kid after his kid. or whatever. if that makes sense? :)

[sleepy-tears7.livejournal.com]

Makes sense to me. =]

[home-to-me.livejournal.com]

I like it a lot. My best friend is due this month and is naming her baby Abigail as well! :) I don't see why you couldn't use it too

[giveitfullheart.livejournal.com]

I personally don't like using names that people I know have or have used. I'm pretty bad about it. It's not because I think it's tacky though, I just don't feel like hearing people say "You know that's what soandso named her baby?" over and over again. I saw that he lives absolutely nowhere near you though so I say go for it. Abigail is a beautiful name and it would be a shame for you to not use a name you really liked because of someone who lives in a different state! Either way though, it wouldn't be tacky...just maybe awkward for you to constantly be told he named his child the same thing :)

[ifancylust.livejournal.com]

if you're really close, i'd say yes.