I wanted to ask the opinion of people who appreciate names as much as me

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

Okay so question.....

My husband is adopting my son. We are going to change his last name of course and his middle name. I really want my husband to help me pick a name. He loves the name Alexander. I love it too. But....he has an ex girlfriend whos name is Alexandria. I hate her. Those names a real close to each other and she is the only reason why I am refusing to use Alexander. I also like the name Nathaniel and since I'm being stubborn about the closness his exgirlfriends name we are leaning towards Nathaniel. Now the question. Am I being stupid? I should just get over it right? Alexander is a great name, I think.

Comments

[trissyd.livejournal.com]

I don't think I'd want to name my son (if I had one) a name so similar to one of his ex's either...
I don't think that you're being stupid at all...

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

thanks. :)

[thepastperfect]

I guess it depends how long ago he dated her, and how serious it was. For example, if she was a girl he dated freshman year of college, or if they were only together for a few months, I think the associations would fade as it becomes your son's middle name. But if it was a serious relationship, then I think you're pefectly justified to find another name you both like. You can't go wrong with either Alexander or Nathaniel.

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

He dated her before we got together and they were together for like 2 years. He wasn't serious about her. I've asked him before if he never intended to marry her then why stay with her for so long? He just says stupid stuff like,"Because I was trying to pass the time before i met you." or "I thought i loved her but turns out I didn't love any one until I met you." *puke* haha! I just tell him to shut the f-up! Dork! But seriously he doesn't know why he stayed with her for that long. They had been broken up for like 4 or 5 months and was considering getting back with her and then he met me and he never gave it another thought. She did stupid stocker stuff for a few months but has left us alone for a while now. I probably don't hate her she was just an annoyance for a little while. You know.

[thepastperfect]

Okay. Yeah. You're totally allowed to reject Alexander on that basis.

He just says stupid stuff like,"Because I was trying to pass the time before i met you." or "I thought i loved her but turns out I didn't love any one until I met you." *puke* haha! I just tell him to shut the f-up! Dork!
Heh. That's hilarious. I think that's about what I would say if someone tried to use those lines on me.

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

haha yeah.....he can be romantically impared sometimes...but he tries. :P

[dingo83.livejournal.com]

I prefer Nathaniel anyway, but I would probably be the same way as you. If my husband ever liked the name Christian for a boy, since it is way too close to Christine (his first serious girlfriend), I would reject it.

What is your son's first name if you don't mind my asking?

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

His name is Draven. Well right now Draven Micheal....Hopefully Draven (new middle name) soon.

[dingo83.livejournal.com]

I prefer Draven Nathaniel.

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

I think so too. :)

[ifancylust.livejournal.com]

you're not being stupid. i would feel the same way.

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

cool thanks :)

[composure.livejournal.com]

No, I don't think it's stupid at all. I absolutely will not name my future child anything that even remotely resembles any of my SO's exes' names... it's so freakin' hard. I've ruled out sooo many decent names on account of that.

If there's a bad association, pick something else.

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

yeah your right. It sucks how good names can go to waste. :)

[babyhoyt.livejournal.com]

How old is your son? Is he a part of the decision?

And no... it's not stupid to hate alexander for alexandria

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

He is going to be 5 years old in a week. Unfortunatly he can't be part of the decision making because he doesn't understand what's going on. He's autistic. Man I wish he could be thought. It would be cool to hear what his name choices would be. He might pick something from Dragon ball Z, Foster's home for imaginary friends or SpongeBob...haha! That would be funny.

[smasharash.livejournal.com]

I think it's fine not to name him that. Would Alex still be too close? You don't want to name your little boy something that you associate with something negative and therefore makes you feel uncomfortable. You want to associate him with good things. Go for Nathaniel.

[mysticamor.livejournal.com]

Alex is to close cuz she would go by the name Ally. I am leaning towards Nathaniel. :)