too late to change it?

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

hey all...my baby girl will be 12 weeks old tomorrow and i've still not warmed up to her name. naming her was a huge ordeal which ended in me locking myself into the bathroom at the hospital. i won't go into details but needless to say, neither of us got our first pick of names. we named our daughter ... scarlett june. now, i love scarlett and was surprised that he okayed that but june is to honor a family member and neither of us are crazy about it.

here's my question...

how many people think it's too late to change the spelling of june to joon? i suggested it in the hospital but he was so over the name that he couldn't process the alternative spelling. now, he and i both wish we had spelled it like that.

we're not real conservative people and walk a little on the wild side. hell, she was almost named michi calypso (mee-chee) so "joon" just goes better with our family than boring old "june".

whaddaya think?

Comments

[moldycelery.livejournal.com]

Joon looks pretty awful. And it won't be pronounced any different than June, so why bother?

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

aawww, i think it looks nice. thanks for your input!

[xanya.livejournal.com]

Personally, I don't like Joon because it kind of looks silly, but you know, I think it's acceptable. And if that's what you want, then go for it. It reminds me of Benny & Joon, but even that was short for Juniper and wasn't a standalone name. I don't know. Maybe I'm slightly biased because my sister's middle name is June (named after our grandmother, whose name was actually Mary-Agnes but called June). If you both want it that way, then why not?

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

yeah, i hate the benny and joon connection.

i just wish i could warm up to june.

[xanya.livejournal.com]

It's not such a bad movie. Johnny Depp's pretty good in it.

Do you think you will? Because if there's no chance, then maybe just change it. Middle names aren't that important anyway, and there's no problem with a slightly "strange" one like Joon rather than June.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

it's getting a little easier but i've been calling her "junie b." or "junebug" sometimes, trying to get used to it. i guess it's working a little. i just think if we're to change it, it needs to be done soon.

[anapology.livejournal.com]

why do you need to get used to it by calling her junie?.. if she's going by scarlett?

middle names really aren't as important as people make out...

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

hmph, i'm not really sure....

**thinking**

[morphinae.livejournal.com]

I really wouldn't worry about it, to be honest. You have a gorgeous first name to go by, just..ignore the middle name. That's what I do with my son, I'm not crazy about his middle name, but I barely think about it now. It hardly comes up anyway. And at least it serves a purpose for an interesting story. Just push it aside and enjoy your little one. That's my two cents anyway.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

thanks...i'm sure this panicky feeling will pass. it took forever to name her and i'm still second guessing, it sucks.

[zodiacstargazer.livejournal.com]

Joon seems more ethnic to me, esp. since I'm Korean and I know a bunch of people with Joon as either the first or second character in their names. How about Jun, if you don't like June? More aesthetically pleasant.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

well, we're total white bread, far from ethnic so that's strange to think about. jun is interesting, i've never seen that. thanks!

[sarahrose.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's too late. At least it's "just" the middle name.

I might sound harsh here, but... she's only 12 weeks old and it's just her middle name. Who cares? Change it if you want.

[tokossel.livejournal.com]

agreed. change if you want to! joon is sweet.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

thanks! that's how i see it!

[scouty.livejournal.com]

AGREED !!

[mountain-nest.livejournal.com]

Right, it's just the spelling of the middle name, change it if that is what you and the baby's father desire!!!

[straight-outta.livejournal.com]

Please leave it June. I love your name you chose. It's classic and very, very beautiful.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

awwww, thanks.
somedays i really like it, too. it's just so stressful to name a child and my bf has never really been onboard about the name and very vocal about it. maybe it would sink in if he'd just shut the hell up!

[girlsknowbest.livejournal.com]

you want the baby name group to come over and knock him around a little? cause we can, if you want. just say the word.

[lneef.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's too late to change. No problem with that.

That said, June is LOVELY. Joon looks like goon and makes me think of a retarded Johnny Depp (yes, I know that was the sister, but that's the main association since I don't even know who played her).

By the way, love Scarlett! We considered it, but out last name is also a color and it made a strange combination.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

just like jack white's daughter, scarlett white!

[hotchpot.livejournal.com]

I'd keep June. It sounds the same as Joon, and it's not boring at all. It's a nice retro quirky name. Plus Dr. June Yourlastname will thank you when it comes time to hang her diploma in her office for all the world to see.

My husband just mentioned "Benny and Joon" and said the guy was retarded so that might not want to be the image you evoke with your daughter's name.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

thanks. ya know, until tonight, i never realized just HOW strong the "benny and joon" reference would be in using joon. although, i agree that i really don't want that image, it's kinda funny though.

it definately is retro, i haven't seen it used much lately. my boyfriend thinks it's an "old lady" name.

[ugottafriend.livejournal.com]

It's never really too late, I guess, but Joon isn't my cup of tea. For sure. I love Scarlett though, and think that Jane would be a great middle name. Congrats!

[newsbean.livejournal.com]

I have crazy parents who thought it would be cute or more authentic or something to spell my name untraditionally. I hate them for it. If you're prepared for that - go for it...

[widgetchick.livejournal.com]

Can't you change it now though?

[newsbean.livejournal.com]

Sure. But it's a little late for that. I'm through all the years where people teased me about it. Now, I just use it to test whether my mail is from a solicitor or someone I know...

[widgetchick.livejournal.com]

How do you pronounce it?

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

Um... sorry, but what's the point? Joon is still June, only now it's spelt wrong. It's not like it makes the name more exciting.

[widgetchick.livejournal.com]

Change it if you want.

I often wonder why we actually have to chose the name before we know the person that's in front of us. I know that *I* can't even name a cat without knowing it's personality first. I think that if you feel more comfortable with Scarlett (SUCH a pretty name) Joon, then that should be her name. If it fits her and your family better, then why not?

It is just her middle name so even the a little off the wall spelling isn't too silly.

[godmod.livejournal.com]

Hell, you could probably change her first name right now with no lasting damage.

Change it if you think it suits her better. Most people will say they prefer June and have the connection with Benny and Joon, but....it's your daughter.

[juniorfan29.livejournal.com]

Considering the fact that you probably rarely see the name in print...and it's more that you don't like the name June...why only change the spelling?

At only 12 weeks old, it's most likely not too late to change...however, why not change it to a name you actually like, rather than just changing the spelling of a name you don't like? No matter how you spell it, it's still the same name and will be pronounced the same.

[jordle.livejournal.com]

My sister was named Brooke at birth and then when she was about 6 months old my parents decided that her name 'Brooke Jane (One syllable last name) was too short so they changed it to Brooklyn.

I think you could still change the spelling. It isn't going to affect her when she is this young.

[girlsknowbest.livejournal.com]

i think you are entitled to do whatever you want. either way, it's fine. if you don't change it you can later share with your daughter the anxiety, etc. as a funny story of how you ALMOST did. if you do change it, you can share the same story of how you DID. give yourself 5 days and then go for it or drop it and embrace June. How hard is it to change a name? Have you found that out yet? You may decide it's such a hassel you'll just leave it. Good luck. And Joon or June are bother super cute to me.

[miss-tee.livejournal.com]

keep it the way it is.

[bohemianvegan.livejournal.com]

This is my experience:

I changed my name when I was 13 years old. My entire family changed our names for a reason. Our birth certificates could not be changed. Therefore, if you change her name to "Joon", the birth certificate may not be able to be changed.

[bohemianvegan.livejournal.com]

oh well, at least that's the law in Massachusetts. I was born there.

"June" is a month of the year, and that's how the name came to be popular. People wanted to name their kids after that lovely month.

It's true that "Joon" is also very Korean. I worked in Korea for over a year. I met up with many Joons. They were all men.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

at this age, we can still change it and the birth certificate. in ohio, it's only like 70 bucks to change it.

[sageharper.livejournal.com]

Congrats :)
It's a very pretty name. I much prefer June, it's charming in a retro sort of way and has the fresher association of the month itself.

My own middle name has a variant spelling (Clair), and it's been way more trouble than it's worth. 90% of people will still spell it June, and it's essentially the same name anyway, so can't the point.

[pinkslit.livejournal.com]

oh, sageharper, if i had my choice, one of our daughters would have been Harper Quinn. in fact, that's the name we had been using for months and he only said that he didn't want to use it while i was in labor!!!! seriously! is your first or surname harper?

after posting this and seeing the replies last night, i'm starting to think that june will stick. i've never been one to care much what others think about my choices but this board has helped and brought up points i hadn't thought of.

[sageharper.livejournal.com]

Oh right, that is a gorgeous name :)
Ugh what a shame.
Neither actually, I use it as a surname, as an online pen name (in honour of Harper Lee). I adore it as first name too.

That's cool, it does help to get those extra insights.

[seksimaggie.livejournal.com]

a) I think as long as she hasn't learned to spell it yet, it's not too late to change the spelling, because the spelling is not at all part of her personal identity.

but,
b) I don't know why you would want to spell it Joon.

[rojostressa.livejournal.com]

I quite like it as Jun.
June or Joon are just fine, and since they are all pronounced the same - it's not much of a difference.
My baby's father and I are fighting over names as well, so I understand the stress!