Baby Naming Trouble

[loki-quinn.livejournal.com]

I don't know if anyone else has run into this problem, but I'll give it a shot.

Have you been afraid to tell your friends/family baby names you picked out because you didn't want to hear their negative reactions/suggestions for improvement?

I'm only fifteen weeks along and already my grandmother called with a suggestion my husband and I absolutely loathed. When I told her I didn't think that was what we were looking for, she got all huffy and asked what we had come up with. It's not that I'm superstitious about naming the baby before it is born or anything but a.) we wanted to be surprised by the sex of the baby at birth and b.) we wanted our name choices to be a part of that surprise for our family and close friends. It seems I have apparently not made anyone happy because now everyone is obsessed with knowing the baby's sex (for shopping purposes) and knowing what names we have picked out. Any suggestions?

Oh, and a big reason why I've decided against finding out the baby's sex is so that my child isn't confined to a world of pink or blue before it is even born.

Comments

[morphinae.livejournal.com]

First of all, I'd be offended to have people calling me up at 15 weeks with 'suggestions'. I'd tell them right then and there to back off, there's plenty of time for that, and you can very well ASK for advice when you damn well want it. I went through this with my son, my family and my ex's family were VERY pushy through the whole pregnancy, naming wasn't an exception. Finally I just decided to not tell them a damn thing through the entire pregnancy, but towards the end the first name slipped (corbin) and by then they had been trained with the silent treatment long enough not to criticize it to my face. No one knew his full name except myself and my ex until he was born. I suggest doing the same, eventually the curiousity will die down and they will butt out. You shouldn't have to deal with this junk now. Try the 'smile and nod' method, anyone gives you an idiotic suggest, smile, nod, say you'll consider it, and change the subject. Quickly. If that doesn't work, play dumb, 'oh, we haven't decided yet, there's plenty of time for that!' and change the subject again. Good luck :)