still trying to figure out if he's joking.

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my fiance told me to make a pact with him.. that if we had a girl I could name her (in which I've already decided the name... Violet Isobel Simone) and that if we have a boy, he gets to name him. I'm scared, he likes bland names like Jonathon (!!! EEEK)

Is this fair? He's already said he liked the name I picked out.

edit: he WAS joking.

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[primarycolor.livejournal.com]

not fair. It should be mutually agreed upon, i think

[krosp.livejournal.com]

I don't think this is the best way of coming to a name. It is ok to make some compromises but I don't think giving either person total control over the name is a good idea. That's how you end up with sibsets like Isabella Rose and Radar Matrix.

I think a good way of doing it is, both people come up with a list, rate all the names out of 10 on your own list, then swap, and rate each other's names out of 10. When you add them up, you will find that the highest numbers would be the one that between you, you like the most. It may be that he doesn't like the name you give 10 to at all, so it only ends up getting 11 points, but everyone should still end up with something that they at least moderately like.

Not sure if that's how I'll end up doing it myself though when it gets that way :p but I do think it is important that each person likes the name they choose, even if nobody actually gets to pick their absolute favourite name because the other doesn't like it.

PS - I like Jonathan anyway :p

[composure.livejournal.com]

Well, if you already made the pact with him, I'd say it is fair. However, if you strongly opposed to a name he picked out, I don't think he should go with it, knowing you don't like it. How about, say, he picks 5-10 names, and you decide on the one you like the best?

If they're all horrible to you though, scratch the pact and mutually decide (as the poster above me suggests.)



Fortunately, my husband doesn't have a problem with my naming our future kids (first boy and first girl name already decided upon,) but if he REALLY hated what I've chosen, then I wouldn't feel right about sticking with them.

[gem-gam.livejournal.com]

We did that to begin with but now we have both agreed we will choose a name we both like cause its our child and it's fair, which means if the other doesn't like it you have to give up the name you have your heart set on. But I would rather we both be happy with something we both wanted

[glowing-dragon.livejournal.com]

You mean JONATHAN.

[hotchpot.livejournal.com]

I think a pact is a bad idea. You BOTH want to like whatever name you chose for your child, mutually. Not one or the other.

[desert-dog79.livejournal.com]

I also think that it's not too good of an idea. I agree with the other comments here that say names should be a mutual agreement. In my opinion, naming your child is a huge thing and you really don't want your child to have a name that you just don't care for.
I had the same problem with my husband. He likes ultra-traditional names (which to me isn't bad) but a lot of the names, I don't like for some reason or another. So I just told him how I feel about the names up front, so now we are trying to decide on a name we both like :)

[krazydiva.livejournal.com]

For me personally, I couldn't do that kind of pact because I think since my husband I created her together, we should name her together.
Of course it took us forever and a day to come up with the perfect name that we both agreed on.

[our-journey.livejournal.com]

For most people I think it's a bad idea since a lot of people I know pick these Caden, Brayden, Jayden types of names and I think they sound ridiculous. However I'd trust my husband since we both have the same taste in names (classic, biblical, and to us 'normal' sounding names...although my husband and I are naming our second son that I am due with soon something very different). So it just depends on the person and their tastes.

[satunian.livejournal.com]

I think since the kid is from both parents, both parents gotta like the name. So I'd say no matter what you should both agree on the name.

[trissyd.livejournal.com]

... you should still be allowed to veto names that you really don't like.