Deciding on who decides on names

[trivher.livejournal.com]

A bit of an odd question/poll. I have over the years in incountered alot of traditions when it comes to naming kids. Such as my husband will name our sons since he's a boy after all! or My partner gets to pick all the middles but I get the first names!

I tried to think of every possibility, if I missed something just select other LOL. If you are not married/with someone just select which one you think would appy to you.



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Feel free to comment with details and reasons as of why.

Comments

[trivher.livejournal.com]

I think names should be equally decided by both parents even if a top favorite hits the chopping block because one doesn't care for it.

[babycarealot.livejournal.com]

I think if its anything other than both making a mutal decision its going to bug the hell out of you. You should both actually be able to stand the names.

[anapology.livejournal.com]

I picked other, because although daddy will get to veto out names he really doesn't like the end decision will be mine.
After all I am a name geek and care far more than other normal people about names, and he likes ugly names that I don't like.
It's just easier for him to agree with me!

Girls names moreso, boys names I suspect he will get a bigger say as family names are important to him (not that i'm happy about that whatsoever.. baby Ian anyone? um no.)

[sleepherealone.livejournal.com]

I agree - whoever I'm married to can nix names that they really don't like, but I'm a fellow name geek, and I've already got my heart set on a few.

[space-monkey340.livejournal.com]

For boys names I have him two options and he choose which one and the middle name (his choices for our soon to be born baby were Tristan and Holden. He choose Michael as the middle name). I let him pick out the girl name because he's the one who wants the girl so much (Kimberly Michelle after a high school friend who was murdered). WIth our first it was totally mutual. Just depends on the child for us.

[ginky.livejournal.com]

We chose together.

[thunderofsins.livejournal.com]

My husband and I agreed 100% on both boys and girls names for the baby I'm pregnant with. We won't be naming our future children, as they'll already have names when we adopt them.

[bopeepsheep.livejournal.com]

I had to say 'girl names will be 100% my choice' AND '...100% mutual' because I came to the table initially with 'this is the combination of names I really like for this reason' and my husband agreed instantly. We did go over other options in case we didn't think the resulting baby looked like the name we'd picked, but each time we came back to my initial suggestion, so it was both my choice and a joint choice. I double-checked that many times, just to be on the safe side!

The name we wound up using for our son includes his top choice for first name and my top choice for first name, but my favourite is the one we actually used as the first name. :)

[sarahrose.livejournal.com]

I pick the girls' names, as long as my partner doesn't have a big objection to the names I choose. I don't really budge on that at this point in my life.

The boys' names will be more his or her choice, but kind of a mutual decision too. I love girls' names and only slightly like boys' names, so I just kind of need to not hate it. If I marry a man, this will probably come more into play (his choosing and me approving) but if I commit to a woman, the decision will probably be more mutual (even on girls' names... maybe I'll give her 2%, lol. ;-)).

[miss-tee.livejournal.com]

I generally come to my fiance with names I like and if he likes them too, if they just seem right, if we can talk about how one day we'll have a son named Asher Everett, then we add them to the list.
So it's a 100% mutual agreement thing, but he's not out there actively looking for names usually (Everett though was one he really liked and told me about).

[zante.livejournal.com]

My fiance picked our girls' first name, Abigail, and I chose her middle name, Imogene.

Neither of us could thing of a name to 'better' Jonathan Ezra (originally my choice), so that name has stuck, and it feels right, though we aren't planning on having our child for a couple of years.

[darabelle.livejournal.com]

i answered mutual for boys and girls, but i also checked off "girls will be 100% my choice" because i don't care what anyone says, i am naming my first daughter esme. :)

[mooselet.livejournal.com]

I answered "100% mutual" and "other". Most of my name list was quickly vetoed by my husband, and although I was disappointed, I didn't push. I wouldn't want to use a name he disliked, no matter how much I loved it.

The "other" part is because neither of us knows where the idea for our son's name came from. I know it's corny, but we say that Tucker somehow made his own choice known via the placenta.

[oh-snitch.livejournal.com]

both my choices for first and middle name get top billing. sorry, but if i'm going to be pregnant for 9 months, and have my body essentially ruined for the rest of my life, all while husband gets to gets to carry on life as usual...i, at the very least, get dibs on naming the bundle of joy.

however, i am willing to compromise. depending...

[super-bitch06.livejournal.com]

I'm lacking in a significant other, so my answer was that it would be a mutual decision cuz I don't really know, but that's the most likely one... but at the same time, I have a feeling whoever I end up marrying will probably veto the ones he doesn't like, but let me pick for the most part. I don't think I could be married to someone as opinionated and stubborn as me :-D

[corielcries.livejournal.com]

Both parents should have a mutual agreement on the name. I got lucky in that my SO likes most of the same names I liked, it was just a matter of picking our favorites from the list. Now we both love the names we have picked out for our baby due in March.

[poespretty.livejournal.com]

I picked an odd assortment of options here. lol

I do agree that neither parent should be forced to live with a name they totally despise. However, my husband admits he didn't/doesn't really like our first daughter's name, but compromised on it by getting to choose her middle name. Also, he knows how much it meant to me to use it and said he was planning on letting me do so even though he argued with me about it for 9 mos. and as the name geek, it DOES mean more to me than him, especially when it comes to the girl's names. boy names, we both always agreed on 100%. unfortunately, (in the sense of mutual agreement name-wise) we only have/are having girls. :)

[thetruefalse.livejournal.com]

Traditionally, in the Jewish faith, the father names all the children independently of the mother, and they're named after deceased, Jewish relatives. Since this does not make sense in modern America, my husband and I have agreed to name all of our children together, after relatives from both of our families who have passed on...not just the Jewish ones.

[seren.livejournal.com]

my husband and i have come up with names together - i can't imagine naming our child whatever i felt like without his approval, and vice versa. he'd probably pick something awful ;)

that said, i have been lucky. my husband never really has any name ideas of his own so he just tells me what he thinks of my choices. i've managed to get my first choice of name for our existing child and our soon-to-be-born child, as luckily he really likes them too! :) he wasn't sure about either when i first mentioned them but i think frequent exposure to the names has made him change his mind (ie i nagged him regularly until he said "actually, i do quite like that now you mention it.." - he has a terrible memory and i genuinely don't think he remembers not liking them at first!)