Calling child by middle name

[smallandneedy.livejournal.com]

This is kind of related to the post about grandparents and other people insisting on calling kids something else than what their parents have decided their name is.

I was wondering, is it considered offensive or annoying to call a child by their middle name even though their parents call the child by their first name?

Edited to add:

What if the situation was reversed, as in parents calling their children by their middle names but other people call them by their first? I know a whole family with 4 children where all of them including the parents go by their middle names and not their first.

Is calling someone by their first name when they go by middle less offensive than calling someone by middle rather than first?

Comments

[mirhanda.livejournal.com]

Can't you put it on the chart though? Benjamin "Ben" William Smith. It sure seems awfully ridiculous if you can't, it's just a couple of quote marks and whatever the name is.

[lissalynn.livejournal.com]

You actually can't on the EClinical medical records. It screws up billing and coding etc. It has to just be their legal name that is on the insurance.

Once we open up the computer chart (after we get in the room and start the history) there is a "yellow sticky" thing we can put their nickname on, and so if there is one, after that we'll use it.

But I think it is absolutely ridiculous to YELL at grown professionals helping to take care of your child for calling the child by their legal name. I think they should be embarrassed of themselves, to be honest.

[mirhanda.livejournal.com]

Absolutely agreed, they shouldn't yell. That's just rude, they should just say "he goes by Ben." and leave it at that. It just seems like there should be a way to include some sort of note on the chart about the preferred name so that you will know for next time and not keep making the same mistake (which would be grating if you go there for all the pediatric check ups and have it never remembered.)