Calling child by middle name

[smallandneedy.livejournal.com]

This is kind of related to the post about grandparents and other people insisting on calling kids something else than what their parents have decided their name is.

I was wondering, is it considered offensive or annoying to call a child by their middle name even though their parents call the child by their first name?

Edited to add:

What if the situation was reversed, as in parents calling their children by their middle names but other people call them by their first? I know a whole family with 4 children where all of them including the parents go by their middle names and not their first.

Is calling someone by their first name when they go by middle less offensive than calling someone by middle rather than first?

Comments

[smallandneedy.livejournal.com]

But you named him the middle name too, so it wouldn't be a straight out refusal of his name considering his middle name is his name too, although he does not go by it on a daily basis.

What about consistent use of both names, even though he would only go by his first name on a daily basis?

[inmeggsyoutrust.livejournal.com]

While we chose both names, we chose the order of the names for a reason and since typically people only are called by their first name, one would assume that if that name were being passed over by a certain group of people in favor of the second name, then they're saying "we don't like what you chose to name your child, this will have to do as his/her name instead of what you decided on"

It's like saying, I don't care what you said I'm doing this instead and screw your feelings.

[smallandneedy.livejournal.com]

yeah I see what you're saying. Never thought of it that way to be honest, but that's exactly why I was asking in the first place :)

[so-there.livejournal.com]

I chose first names that I like. I chose middle names, many of which I don't even care for, to honor family members, on the grounds that no one ever uses their middle name anyway so it's pointless unless you make it significant. so yeah, the kid's name is their first name. calling them by a middle, in my case, is the same as calling them by their last name. it's just a family name, not their name as an individual.

[mirhanda.livejournal.com]

Haha, not "no one". I've been called by my middle name from birth. Also see: J. Paul Getty, among others. :p