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[nothingtolose19.livejournal.com]

I know this has been talked about before, but I'd like to ask it again:

How do you guys overcome when a close family member/friend doesn't like your choice of name?

This is purely hypothetical on my end, because I don't even have a boyfriend at the moment lol, so obviously babies are a long way off.

But I am, of course, obsessed with names. My family knows this, but generally the only person I tell is my sister. However, last time I was home, I was playing a board game with my mom and sister and my sister blurts out some names that I like and my mom is all *screwed up face*. My very favorite girl name at the moment is Alexandra, which she likes, but one of my very favorite is also Gwendolyn (might even be my second contendor at the moment) and she thinks that it's too 'old-fashioned'. I tend to like names that are older, while I think she would prefer more up-to-date names, which .. no thanks. I'll have to remind her that MY name is Julianne, and she obviously didn't think that every girl in my class was going to have my name, so.... :p

But yeah. How did you guys break the names to people who may not have liked them, and how did it go?

Comments

[schexyschteve.livejournal.com]

You just don't tell them. They can't really say anything about it once a baby is born.

Okay, they can, but that's kind of jerky.

[nothingtolose19.livejournal.com]

Haha, good point. I can't imagine my mother screwing up her nose when I presented her with a living, breathing, cooing baby with that name :D

[lustdumpster.livejournal.com]

my grandma hates all the names i like, she thinks they're all too old fashioned too. they're really not, like she even thinks emily is an old persons name. i'm just like whatever because i think she has bad taste in names too. oh well.

[kjerlandsen.livejournal.com]

When I was pregnant with my first, I was going to name him Ezra. Every time I told some one, they looked at me like I was insane. I eventually got so sick of the looks and negative comments that I ended up naming him Lukas.

However, 10 years later, baby boy #2 came along and his name is Ezra. Every one LOVES the name now. I guess it just took time for them to get used to it. lol

On another note, when my sister was pregnant with her second, she loved the name Maya. I hated it, but kept it to myself. Now, I love my niece and her name suits her well.

It's not like the names you have picked out are hideous.

[miss-tee.livejournal.com]

I don't tell anyone besides my husband, or this community, names that I want to name my kids :)

[theljfromheck.livejournal.com]

I pretty much knew no one would like my name choice but I just don't care I guess. My kids are named Harvey and Luna(then Jonas on the way but everyone likes that name.)

[cremepuff.livejournal.com]

For the record, I LOVE Luna! :)

[cremepuff.livejournal.com]

I made the mistake of mentioning the name Fiona to my dad (even though hubby and I are years away from having bebbehs). Dad laughed. Hard.

I've pretty much decided at this point to keep our choices to ourselves until the child is born.

[zombiemombie.livejournal.com]

I think its pretty funny to look back on my pregnancy now and remember telling my family that I wanted to name my daughter Aida and they basically all hated it, said it was too old fashioned, etc.

Now my daughter is a year old and they all go on and on about how much they love her name, nothing else would suit her, its so elegant, blah blah blah. I pretty much just tell them to shut up, haha :)

[sunshinelucy.livejournal.com]

Think "So what?" and move on...
There's also a good chance I don't like their favourite names.
My mom hates pretty much all the names I like. I don't like my given name soooo... too bad for her.
And names do grow on people. My favourite boy name has been Edmund since I was 7 years old (I'm 23 now). I only started talking about names with other people (not online) when I was like, 18 or 19. My mom haaaaated Edmund when I first started mentioning it, but a couple years ago she told me, "You know, I actually really like it now!" and when there's an actual baby attached to the name, people will think of the baby and not a stodgy old man or a somewhat bratty character.
I like it when other people are like, "Hey, great taste in names!" but it also doesn't bother me if they hate them.
I do listen if people have a legit point, though (like discouraging something like Hitler or Gorgonzola).

[mrssubee.livejournal.com]

with my daughter, we didn't tell anyone our name choice until she was born
so they had to suck it up and deal with it
I think they really grew to love it because they only think of her now when they hear/see it
with my son, we warned everyone ahead of time..."his name will be......so, if you don't like it, keep your comments to yourself"
no one has said anything negative to us
they actually all loved my son's name because his 1st and middle are both after deceased grandfathers(on both sides) so everyone saw it as a good thing

[coffeecup37.livejournal.com]

My family is really close (in terms of my parents, siblings + grandparents, not so much cousins, etc.) and I love them to bits, but I really do not give a shit if they dislike the names I like. At the end of the day, my kids are mine and their dad's, not my family's to name. I might be upset if some of them really dislike the names we end up going with, but I think I'd be ok with that.

Fortunately my family is pretty respectful of name choices and they aren't the sort to say super-horrible things about names. They would say they aren't too keen on it, but they wouldn't be really awful about it, at least not my face. :p I mean, I wasn't too keen on most of the name choices of my brother and SIL (they went with Tyler John in the end), but now that little Tyler is here that is SO his name and I like it now, because I love him to bits. I just couldn't not like that name when it belongs to him, who is so adorable and happy and just the best bundle of fantastic ever!

[unaccepatable.livejournal.com]

Names are something I don't fuck around with. If a family member/friend doesn't like my choice, I really don't care and I just tell them so.

[mimicocopuffs.livejournal.com]

No one liked the girl names I picked. I came up with the worst horrible "how could you do that to your child" name I could come up with. The names I liked started to look a whole lot better.

[taraemily.livejournal.com]

I didn't tell anyone until both my children were born.

[requiem-morrow.livejournal.com]

First let me say I've never had to actually do it lol but I have developed the philosophy that if they dont like it they can have their baby and name it. My taste does seem "out there" to most of my family, which is why I don't talk names with them any more lol. Of course, everyone hated it when my cousin named her daughter Landry, but you what, they got over it.

I'm really leaning toward constellation names lately - beautiful clear skies lately and I like the idea of being able to look up in the sky with my child and say there you are lol

[requiem-morrow.livejournal.com]

Oh, but my mom completely drew the line when I told her I was going to name her grandson Jayne....in that conversation it turns out that a granddaughter named Ruby Tuesday would be preferable lol.

[jessicann00.livejournal.com]

A friend of mine wants to name her (as of yet hypothetical) second son Jayne. :)

[duckduckcaboose.livejournal.com]

I'm in a similar situation, no boyfriend/no kids in the near future. Sometimes I will mention names I like... sometimes my parents think I'm crazy, sometimes they like the names too. Either way, it doesn't much matter.

[jessicann00.livejournal.com]

I don't care. My babies, my names. I don't like anything too ridiculous anyway. My taste is fairly traditional, maybe a little trendy, depending on what the current trends are.

Anecdote time - my mom likes to criticize my 'trendy' name choices. HELLO! My name is Jessica! Second most popular name the year I was born, and probably in the Top 10 for the entire 80's. Moms are such hypocrites sometimes. :-)

[http://users.livejournal.com/___heyvanity/]

My mom doesn't like a lot of my name choices and I don't really care. She named my sister and myself Jennifer and Emily in the 90's so CLEARLY we don't have the same naming style.

I LOVE Gwendolyn by the way! It is such a pretty name.

I've told my mom about my love for the names Archer and Desmond and she tries to be as tactful as she can be by saying that she doesn't like them.

But honestly, once the bb comes, everyone will probably forget about the name or make up a cute little nickname for the child.