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[cairtirnin.livejournal.com]

My husband and I have had baby names picked out since September, but I'm still a little stuck on a second middle name question.

The background story is that I kept my own name when I got married. I don't regret it, but I do feel a little odd that the baby won't have my last name. Hyphenating is out because the name would be stupid long (Bukowski-Mangefrida) and because I just don't really like hyphenated names. So I thought that maybe I would use my last name as a second middle, just so that it's there, but not something that the baby would be saddled with using on a daily basis. Do you think that it's still too much? The name would be Aurelia May Bukowski Mangefrida or Dominik James Bukowski Mangefrida if I did it that way. All and all it really wouldn't be the end of the world if my name wasn't there, but it's something that just keeps niggling at me and with less than ten weeks left, I feel like I should really make a decision.

*Thank you guys so much! I'm feeling a lot more confident about this now!

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[b-gum.livejournal.com]

i don't think it would be too much :)

you have great names picked out :D

[celebrate.livejournal.com]

Both of my daughters have my maiden name as a 2nd middle name. I wasn't married when I had them and wanted to make sure that my name was in there somewhere. Their full names are long, but like you said, they aren't saddled with using them on a daily basis. The only instances where we actually use their full names are at the doctor's office and on SS cards. So, I'd say go for it if it's something that's important to you. This is one situation where I wouldn't worry about the length.

[waitingonsunday.livejournal.com]

I think it's a nice idea.

[stormqueen280.livejournal.com]

You know, that's exactly how it's done in Portuguese-speaking countries - name plus mother's surname plus father's surname. Sometimes the kid ends up with three or four surnames...

I never thought this tradition of using only the father's last name is very fair. Go for it!

[laminy.livejournal.com]

I'm friends with a family and all of the kids have their mother's last name as a second middle name. I don't think second middle names are ever too much, but especially not when it's for that reason.

[aquilinum.livejournal.com]

Couldn't your kids get your last name?

[kaoriz.livejournal.com]

I have a double-barreled last name too, unhyphenated. I say if you do it, definitely go unhyphenated, it looks more regal like Sacha Baron Cohen or Helena Bonham Carter.

It's a fun thing to have and it makes me feel special, but it's also caused some problems for me just with administrative issues and people wanting to hyphenate it and then computers thinking that I was two different people. But... I don't think I would change it for myself.

Mine is also shorter than yours - my last name is three syllable name, then two syllable name, so it's not too much in my opinion. Anyway, an option I'm considering for when I have kids is to just use my last name as a second middle name, that way, it's part of their name, but it's not too cumbersome. Or I might just give them my last name anyway. IDK yet haha.

Sorry for rambling... hope I helped a bit! I love the names you have picked out and the middle names are simple enough to balance out the entire name. :)

[corielcries.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's a problem. The first and middle names you've picked out aren't extremely long to begin with so I think it would be fine. If it was something more like Christopher Nathaniel Bukowski Mangefrida or Elizabeth Wilahemina Bukowski Mangefrida it may look like a bit much. The child wouldn't be going by his or her full name often so I wouldn't worry about it. =)

[sarahness.livejournal.com]

I think it's a bit of a mouthful. But if it's important to you, who cares what I think, ya know?

I love the names you've picked out!

[gipro2003.livejournal.com]

I don't plan on changing my name either when I get married, so I really like your idea. I don't think it will be too much.

[pegasus2o5.livejournal.com]

I think you definitely should! Yes, it's a long and awkward name, but a second middle name is something he/she can (and will) leave out whenever it's more convenient. If it were me, I would *want* to have both parents' names, especially if my mother felt strongly about it. Besides, I think the long names like that sound like royalty. :) Also, I LOVE both Aurelia and Dominik!