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[clementine-tea.livejournal.com]

so im due in 2ish weeks, and the father of the baby and i cant agree on names.

we're not together and hes not sure yet how much involvement he will have, so i feel like i should just go with what i want? does that sound reasonable? i have been open to suggestions from him the whole time, but his suggestions are pretty damn ugly and he just pulls them from no where, they mean nothing to him. anyway, im about 90% sure on...

Finn Rafferty Wolfe

(Wolfe is my last name, his is Grant - which i have suggested we use, but he doesn't seem interested, and my name is better anyway hehe)

what do people think?

The name Finn means alot to me because my dad who passed away when i was 3 used to call my brother that as a nick name, even though his name is David. no one has called him Finn since he was about 10, so there wouldn't be any confusion etc. i just feel like it would be a nice way to honor my dad and also my brother (who has been an awesome male influence in my life)

so bring on the opinions.........?

Comments

[pollita85.livejournal.com]

I love the name Finn!

As for the father, he still deserves some say in the naming of his child. You both have to agree on a name. I mean, if he expresses no desire to care about what his child is called, give yourself the freedom to call him what you want! Otherwise, he should have an equal say - neither of you should name him something you don't want.

[silvergirl22.livejournal.com]

I have to disagree...if he's "Not sure yet how much involvement he will have"
than I don't think he should have much say at all in naming the baby.
If he were going to be an active part of his child's life and take on the responsibility of it than yes, I'd say he deserves a say as well...but this *iffy* stuff doesn't sit well with me personally.
Good luck to you, the name sounds great!

[clementine-tea.livejournal.com]

ideally i would love it if we both agreed, but he isnt even giving me valid suggestions! he just says "meh i dont really like finn, suppose its ok"

so it seems like he doesnt really care, but at the same time he wont just let me be happy with the name i love.

ive organised everything, paid for everything, plan to look after the child the majority of the time, so i just dont think he has a right to have an equal say. if anything i feel like im being nice letting him have a say at all! which he has also acknowledged and will sometimes say "yeah do what you want"

its just a tricky situation to be in. im trying to be encouraging so he will have more involvement, but at the same time if he turns around once hes born and decides he cant handle it, and ive given up naming my child a name that means something to please him, ill be really heartbroken.

haha sorry for the ramble! :)

[ashleyyynoel.livejournal.com]

you definitely have the right to name the child if you will be the primary (if not ONLY) caregiver in the child's life. if he doesn't want to step up as a parent, he doesn't deserve the chance to name the child.

[krosp.livejournal.com]

It sounds like he's ok with you naming him Finn really. He hasn't said otherwise, by the sounds of it- just that he doesn't particularly like the name. Which is not surprising, it is rare to get two parents who actually like the same names lol