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[lava-sharks.livejournal.com]

This probably has been asked plenty of times, but if you've been pregnant, did you ever keep names secret? I mean, isn't that safe?

Also.. my cousin just found out she is having a girl and is naming her Pearl. Middle name unknown. Don't know if I like it or not, but it doesn't matter.

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[farting-nora.livejournal.com]

I told everybody what I planned to name my son, and everybody made fun of it so I eventually found another name I liked just as well.

My son was originally going to be Damien Tobias, he ended up being Adrian Maxwell.

[farting-nora.livejournal.com]

There are pros and cons when it comes to sharing a name vs. keeping it a secret.

If you share, people may like it so much they copy it, or people may not like a name and try to talk you out of it. That was a problem with my leading girls name. I love the name Agatha, but people kept trying to talk me out of it because it sounds like an old lady name.

If you share it, people might point out issues with the name that you hadn't considered. (When I said I wanted to name my son Damien, everyone immediately brought up The Omen, and I really didn't want my son to have to deal with that his whole life).

[makeitstopjamie.livejournal.com]

I just have to say that your icon is awesome!

[amspeck-myworld.livejournal.com]

I have two children (and now TTC) and we make a list of a couple of names per gender and pick after the birth rather than have a deadset one beforehand.

I'm glad I shared the list with my mum (she lives 3000 miles away and we rarely talk) because I was strongly leaning towards Louisa (after my late grandmother Betty Lou, may her memory be for a blessing) and my mum said if I did she would call her Lou-Lou...which I hate. My daughter is Alexandra, whom my mum and her family call Lexi which I also dislike but not as much as Lou-Lou (particularly as a well-known TV dog here is Loula).

And I've found keeping a name secret doesn't make it safe. I've had family members tell me the full names of my children are bad (I had one tell me my son was going to get beaten up because of his middle names) and we had a situation where one of my husband's cousins kept their name secret and turned out they named her Alexandra 4 months after we had ours (and if they had told his mum, they would have known beforehand. Now it isn't a big deal and we all find it kinda sweet - at the rare get togethers we get shots of the two of them - but at the time it felt awkward for all parties).

You take your risks either way, really. I quite like Pearl but I know many see it as too old fashioned. Can't please everyone.

[taraemily.livejournal.com]

We kept our sons name secret. I didn't want to give people the opportunity to pick on it and say they hated it before it was attached to a baby! And they would have, they're all admitting 8 months along that they weren't too sure about it at first 'but now love it!!!', lol.

[adamantplatypus.livejournal.com]

If I ever have a child, I will share it. Why? Because so long as my Baby-Daddy and I are happy with it, I don't give a shit what other people think.

[intothefireugo.livejournal.com]

Right on.

[so-there.livejournal.com]

I told them the first time around, but got some crap for it, so I kept them secret for my subsequent pregnancies. but then, people know my taste by now, so it's less surprising than it was the first time.

[lovetokate.livejournal.com]

We told everyone our name as soon as we chose it. I saw no reason to hide it.

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

I've never been pregnant, and I have honestly no idea about hiding/revealing name if I were.
Now that I'm not pregnant, I keep my chosen names a secret (except for you guys in this community!), because I don't want people to "steal" them. But when it's about an already-existent baby, I think that sets people back a bit from catching the "inspiration".

And I DO find it a bit annoying when a pregnant woman wants to keep the secret lol mainly because curiosity takes over and I want to be all "awww" over her

[poohbaby.livejournal.com]

i just had to comment here...when i was pregnant with my 2nd baby, we found out it was a girl and immediately chose a name. All of my co-workers referred to the baby by name (Sierra Alyssa). There was another coworker there who was due 3 weeks later than me...she wanted to keep her name secret for whatever reason. Anyway, she went into early labor and what did she name her baby??? SIERRA ALYSSA! I was so pissed...and everyone else was shocked lol But it worked out because the new name we chose for our daughter fits her perfectly (Skylar Nichole) So I said all of that to say this: some people are just rude and they will steal your name!

[kellyjoy.livejournal.com]

That is so ridiculous. Did she ever say anything to you about it?

[laminy.livejournal.com]

I've never had kids, but in my head, I've thought about whether or not I would want to tell people the names or not. I think that it'd be hard, because I'd be so excited, but knowing me and what I'm like, the names would probably not be decided on until I was being forced to, ie- when I had the kid. Keep it a secret, and you don't have to tell people every time you change it and you don't get made fun of it if people hate it.

I know a girl named Pearl. Well, it's not her actual name, but it's the name that she chooses to go by. I hate it, it's like the ultimate old woman name. It sounds ugly.

[simply-forever.livejournal.com]

With our first son, Kaleb, they told us we were having a girl so for like 4 months everyone walked around calling him "Ava" until the birth. With our second son, Chase, we kept it a secret, I dont remember if maybe we were scared they'd be wrong about the sex with him too, or what but yeah, it was hard to keep it a secret!
Love your icon by the way :D

[charlotteattack.livejournal.com]

Pearl is a lovely name.

I tell people what I want to name my future children, and I usually get positive feedback... but what matters most is what my future husband thinks of the name, and what names we both love.

[morning-glory47.livejournal.com]

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and we've kept the name secret from everyone except for my sister and mother. I don't mind sharing it on the internet, since I can throw any negativity from the internet right out the window.

We're naming her Madilyn Willow. At first we had chosen Eleanor Marie, and started telling people then we started to get a lot of crap from it.

We're keeping the name secret just so we don't have to hear opinions that may change our minds. Plus, I enjoy keeping people in suspense. :]

[sdjma.livejournal.com]

Eleanor Marie is a lovely name-- what was the problem? Is Eleanor too old lady or something?

[morning-glory47.livejournal.com]

Family members on my boyfriend's side kept making fun of it. I was tired of hearing the crap. But she seems more like a Madilyn to me now than an Eleanor. Plus Eleanor was my grandmother's name and I don't think I was close enough to her to use it, but it might be one of my future daughters' middle names, if I have more.

[http://users.livejournal.com/__sail_awayx/]

Our babies name is for sure a secret! we just really want to name him without anyone elses input. And we dont want people to steal his name.

Plus- It'll be a nice surprise when hes born.
the only people that know are my sisters, my mom and my bestfriend. and you guys. :)

[intothefireugo.livejournal.com]

GAH I love the name Pearl! It's the name of the daughter of the creator of funnyordie.com. She's in some of the skits with Will Ferrell; it's hilarious. So maybe she makes me like the name more than I would otherwise, but oh well!

We're sharing our name choices with everyone. Eva and Nicholas (possibly Nikolai). I don't give a crap if people like them or not, and people will share their opinions on what you should name your kid regardless, so what's the point.

[chirpygirly.livejournal.com]

I'm mixed about it because of my situation.

The first name my husband and I agreed on and told the family was well accepted, even though I changed my mind about 2 months later, when I found out how popular it was. Growing up with a popular name and knowing the frustration, I didn't want that for my child.

So I suggested some other names to my finicky husband, including a name I created. He actually agreed to it. Because it was created and very different, I figured most people would be taken aback by it, and didn't want to deal with people's negative comments and attempts to try to convince us to change our minds. So, I got my husband to agree with me to make them wait til birth.

It did not go well. To this day, my husband's family not only hates my son's name, they refuse to acknowledge it as his name and instead call him a nick name of the original name we had picked out! =/

[poohbaby.livejournal.com]

what is his name? if you don't mind me asking!

[chirpygirly.livejournal.com]

Despite the risk of criticism, sure, I don't mind.

His name is Adunijeh, pronounced "A-(A as in Attic, but softer)-done-uh-jay". At first when mentioning it in word to people I would just write "it rhymes with runaway", haha, as they weren't sure how to pronounce it. My family thought I was trying to give him a name to honor our last name which is where the 'done' sound comes from, and for my country, Canada, hence the 'eh'. But that wasn't the case at all!
I created it from the biblical name Adonijah. I changed the spelling as I have an obsessive preference for names with no repeating letters. Then with the new spelling I came up with a pronunciation I like, as I don't like the pronunciation of Adonijah.

His nick name is Adun - not Aiden which I'm not crazy about either, especially because it's trendy, but Adun, as in the ending sound of the name Aladdin.

[how-obscure.livejournal.com]

I've never been pregnant, but I would probably tell. I'm not sure about keeping names a secret. Input on names can be either good or obnoxious. Plus, keeping it a secret doesn't necessarily make it safe. Someone might coincidentally pick the same name, but might have stayed away from it if they knew it was someone else's intended name.

I like Pearl. I think it's sort of a guilty pleasure name for me. I like it because of Hester Prynne's daughter in The Scarlet Letter. ^_^

[ifancylust.livejournal.com]

i like pearl a lot.

[sxylilwitch.livejournal.com]

I didn't keep my names secret at all. I trust my friends and family. My family is actually so huge, we take dibs on names so no one steals them. The sooner the better lol. My cousin told me her names the year my daughter was born just to make sure I wasn't planning on using them XD