Personal Name Taste

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

So.. I find my personal name taste seems to change drastically.

I find myself thinking that even if I have names set in stone, when I finally HAVE children they will most likely change because I doubt my kids will look anything like I picture the children of the names I like looking like.

It seems more than likely that despite picking names ahead of time, that quite a few people probably are stumped when they're handed a baby that looks nothing like little Jacob Xavier Thomas Cruise, or whatever.

That aside, right now my name taste is..

For boys, I'm still really stuck on Sirius Arthur. Possibly other variations that include either Sirius and/or Arthur, but I would really love to honor my grandfather and my father with Arthur as a middle name. I couldn't use it as a first name, it's a little too old-fashioned for my first-name tastes.

For a girl I really have no idea. I honestly love Remi Christine, but I think that, being as my girlfriend is blonde and will most likely be the biological parent (So far I'm carrying the baby, she's providing the egg. She's blonde and brown eyed, so baby will either be blonde, or if dad is not blonde.. whatever dad is?), I don't see Remi as a little blonde girl.

Comments

[elemmennope.livejournal.com]

Sirius is the name I like least here, and that's mainly because I just hear "serious." It's ok though.

I think Remi Christine is very nice and would be just fine on a girl with blonde hair. Not that it matters, but that's actually what I was picturing.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Yeah, most people don't like that name. And.. that's sort-of the reason I'll be using it, but not quite. I just like the name and what it represents. Stars are awesome. Lol.

As for Remi, I like the name. But I really just don't see it as a blonde-haired little girl. Maybe a blonde boy. But I mean, that's just a personal preference, and that's the thing.

-I- don't see that name fitting a little blonde girl at all. But you do. Lol. But yeah, it is a very nice name. Maybe I'll just pick out a dark-haired sperm donor and hope for the best, lol.

[thalionhiril.livejournal.com]

I have to say that I really really love Sirius. It looks both beautiful and masculine to me. Also, Arthur is a great one. Great name combination.

Remi Christine is not my style, but I still find it pretty. I actually can see a little blond haired girl when I think of this name.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I mean. I get that a lot of people are going to be all 'omg don't like it, wtf harry potter?' .. But.. yeah. It's a really masculine name. It's actually a star, and is commonly nicknamed the 'dog star'.

Arthur is for my grandfather who passed away when I was almost 6. I was his favorite, and I wish I could remember him better. =/

I actually see Remi as a dark-haired little girl, but I guess we'll see when I pop the kids out, lol.

[emtotherescuee.livejournal.com]

I love Sirius, but it always makes me think of Harry Potter:[ And then with Arthur (Ronald Weasley's father, btw) it's kind of like...overload:\. But the Sirius connection isn't a bad one, Sirius was my favorite character! I really love the name though, and the star.

As for Remi Christine, well, Remi doesn't seem like a "full" name to me, just like a nickname. But I think it would fit a blonde girl really well. But it all matters what you and your girlfriend think, and if you really can't see it, then I would suggest going with something else.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I realize Arthur is Ron's Dad's name.. But it's also my grandfather's name, and since for the most part kids don't use their middle names, I figured the connotation wouldn't matter as much except for when people see it on paper. And really, fuck those people, lol.

When I think Sirius, I think stars. *shrug* I guess I'm the only person left in the world that DOESN'T think immediately of HP, though. My girlfriend likes it because when we have a son and he says 'I"M SERIOUS!' she can go 'I KNOW, I NAMED YOU!' .. But she's kinda obnoxious like that, haha. In any event, we both actually agree on that name.

Remi is a full name, but traditionally a boy's name, haha. I suppose I could always hyphenate it, Remi-Christine? .. Lol. But I kinda like that it's short and choppy, but still two syllables long.

I just don't know if I see it as a brown-eyed, blonde-haired girl. But that's probably because I'm picturing MY genetics, and genetically my kids will most likely have dark hair. It's a shame I won't be using my own eggs, but our children will be better off in the long run.

[duckduckcaboose.livejournal.com]

The only Remi I ever knew was blond, so it doesn't seem that big of a deal to me.

I might rethink Sirius Arthur... I actually like the name, but... I don't know, I feel like it's just too much. Your little anecdote above made me think of a joke my 8th grade teacher used to make... when someone would say to him "Are you serious?" he'd say "Dogstar." It was so cute.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Ah, I guess it wouldn't bother me as much if I knew a Remi. But I don't, I've never met one in my life haha. It's traditionally used in French areas, though, so if I DID use it it'd be with the flippin' accent over the e. For sure.

Yeah, I'm not a HP nerd so I never really thought of the Arthur thing, and someone else brought it up.. But honestly, that name has to stay. It's non-negotiable, I WILL use that name for my first son, and it will be his middle name, lol.

That's funny, haha. But yeah, that's why she likes the name. That and the HP character.. God I am NOT looking forward to waiting in line to see that movie. @_@

[justuschickens.livejournal.com]

Y SO SIRIUS

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Exactly. XD

'I'M SERIOUS!'

'We know, we named you!'

We both have that sort of cruel sense of humor, though. I mean, not cruel enough to name my kid something HORRENDOUS, but cruel enough to name a boy Sirius, which sounds exactly like serious. Hah.

[mrandmrschippy.livejournal.com]

With all due respect, I think you should be sensitive to the unconventional scenario you are intending to bring a child into, and giving them a 'cruel enough' name in addition to this isn't exactly fair unless you are sure in advance that they share your sense of humour. Which is obviously impossible to know.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Um, please explain how my situation is 'unconventional'.. Because I don't see it as unconventional or not.

And as for the name thing? It's a joke. We both liked the name, and hey, what do you know, it happens to have something amusing that comes along with it.

Most children at least before they learn what their own sense of humor is, share their parents sense of humor. They laugh when you laugh, etc.

Regardless of how politically correct you were trying to be, you went about it in a bad way. I'm gay, not unconventional. I still want a wedding with a dress and my father walking me down an aisle. I just don't happen to be physically stimulated by men, or bound by the standards society has set forth of who we are allowed to love. That doesn't make my 'situation' unconventional. Sorry.

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

Good for you. My aunt is a lesbian, and she is married to a wonderful woman, and has been for years now, and they have an awesome little boy (named Cameron Alexander, which I love, haha), who is smart, funny, and very, very well-adjusted. I think he has a more stable and 'conventional' family life than many children of straight parents. Just because you happen to be gay or lesbian, doesn't mean your child will have some kind of wacky, confusing upbringing. I wish more people could see that.

ANYWAY. XD

As for the name itself, Sirius is not bad, although (and I know you've heard this over and over again), most people will immediately think of Harry Potter. He also might get a bit of grief over the Sirius/Serious thing, but I'm not sure it would be that crazy. My name is Alison, and every once in a while I would get people saying, "Alison Wonderland, lolol" but it never really bothered me. Maybe Sirius as the middle name would be more convenient for him, though.

I love Arthur, too.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Seeeeriously. It really irks me that because I choose to not have penis in vagina sex, I'm somehow being 'unconventional'. Wtf. Seriously. Get the fuck over your backwards thinking, people. Homosexuals raise some of the most well-adjusted, and OPEN MINDED children ever.

Sirius is actually a fairly common name over in European countries. I guess that makes sense, seeing as JK is.. like.. brittish or whatever the fuck.

My mother's name is Allison. My name is Alicia. I used to get teased about my last name.

I definitely wouldn't trade it in for a middle name. It's very important to me that Arthur be my little boy's middle name, what for my grandfather and all. I mean, most people want to name their kids after their family, and use it as a first name. But I don't really like Arthur as a first name. However, I do believe it flows wonderfully with Sirius. And my girlfriend has to have SOME say in the name stuff. ;)

[mrandmrschippy.livejournal.com]

Srsly, I don’t give a fuck whether you like penis or vagina, having three parents - two or more of whom are homosexual - isn’t conventional. Kids know this, and kids can be cruel.

My comment was simply suggesting that you might consider choosing a less ‘cruel’ name, one that isn’t an obvious pun and haha joke, to decrease the existing potential for bullying. That’s it.

It was not, as you seem to have interpreted it, a critique of your sexuality, your adherence to nuptial tradition, or of the child-rearing skills of homosexuals, etc.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Whether you choose to agree with it or not, it's not unconventional. Children have many different home lifestyles and it is no different than being jewish or muslim and adhering to those policies created by those religions.

Sirius is a common name in europe, it is not strange or cruel in any manner and wasn't picked to be such. However we see it for the possible laughs it will have when our child is old enough to appreciate a sense of humor. It will be frustrating but then again a parent's job is to frustrate their child. Part of life is dealing with that feeling, and personally I'd rather teach it to my children rather than have them go through life without knowing it.

Our child also won't have three parents. I do not intend to have a man present in our relationship. Therefore your point on unconventional environments is moot.

[justuschickens.livejournal.com]

I want to name a girl Jinx. I feel your pain, sister.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Lol. Not really my style for kids, but I'd definitely name a pet that. xD

[blue-suspenders.livejournal.com]

Sirius Arthur is not really my style...but I like it.

The only Remi I know (except she spells it Remy) is dark haired. I can't really see it on a blonde either.

[leaveitalone.livejournal.com]

SIR ARTHUR!
was the first thought that came to mind.
Which was what we used to call our 6th grade teacher.

Sirius & Remi

[crossingthesea.livejournal.com]

I like them both. They have what-have-become classical references, but stand on their own. Joking or not.

Congratulations to you and your girlfriend. (Although I'm confused that you say she will most likely be the biological parent when she is providing the egg-- you mean that that's the plan and it hasn't happened yet?)

Re: Sirius & Remi

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Yeah we aren't making babies yet.

Biologically it'll be her child, but I'm going to carry it inside me? Does that make more sense? Lol.

Re: Sirius & Remi

[crossingthesea.livejournal.com]

Sure does.

[0o-faerie.livejournal.com]

As some others have mentioned already, Sirius Arthur really reminds me of HP, but that's not a bad thing...and I like the name =).

I'm not very fond of Remi, but I like it paired with Christine.

As for babies who don't look like their name (if that makes sense)...I think babies don't look like anyone, because they change so much every day =).

Anyway...way to go you & your gf! =)

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know they don't really look like anyone when they're first born, haha. But I mean, I've seen some babies that are born and the name just DOES NOT fit with them at all.

It'd be like (for me) naming my blonde-haired little girl Remi. Does not compute.

I'm sure I will end up changing names fifteen million times once we're pregnant. xD