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Hi everyone! Got a question on name etiquette for you all:

My fiance and I are always talking about names for our future children. Without providing too much information, my fiance's name is something like John Edward Baker IV...but not as appealing. He goes by his 3 initials which make a not-so-bad name (better than Jeb.) Anyway, he is insistent that, if we have a son, we name him said name. Problem is I seriously dislike it.

We talked about it again last week and I mentioned possibly using my last name as a first name and his first as a middle name. It has a nice ring to it and it would be honoring both of our fathers. He really liked it and I thought I was in the clear. Until last night when he told me he wasn't sure he wanted to do it anymore and that we could use my last name for our 2nd child.

I understand the significance of it and I don't want to be disrespectful, but don't I deserve a say in what we name our future children? Am I just being selfish? Has anyone ever been in this situation?

I know that I am talking like we've already got a kid in the works, but it's just something I'd like to have resolved for the when the time comes.



Also, on the topic of funny/sad names:

A few years ago a doctor friend of mine told me about a teenage mother who gave birth at his hospital. She wanted her child's name to sound like "Ash-oh-ley." The nurses asked if she meant Ashley, but she insisted it should be "Ash-oh-ley." So when asked how to spell it, she said - A-S-S-H-O-L-E. Assh-o-le. Asshole.

I always thought my friend was BS-ing me, but my mom (who is a teacher) recently came home telling of a little girl that just enrolled and her name is Asshole. That is just AWFUL!

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[azelmaroark.livejournal.com]

These situations are tough, but I definitely don't think you're in the wrong here, OP. It's not just his baby, and it's definitely not his family's baby. Don't let anyone pressure you into going with a name you really dislike.