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[lheannon.livejournal.com]

Ok, I need help here.

We are finally pregnant after 2 years of trying, and now we can't agree on names at all!

We have already chosen Trinity Elisabeth for a girl. However, I'm not a huge fan of Trinity, and my husband always makes fun of Elisabeth (because of the way I choose to spell it) by pronouncing it "Eliza Beth". I'm giving up and giving him Trinity. He loves the name, and there is no talking him out of it. However, I am trying to come up with a better middle name that he can't butcher. Some of my favorite girl names are: Scarlet, Olivia, and Ruby. Any suggetions for a middle name?

Now the boy names..

My husband is adamant that the middle name be Stephen, to which I agree (It was his brother's name, and he passed away when my husband was very young). Now, remember that I've already given in on Trinity and Stephen, and I love the name Lennon. For awhile he let me use it as "the working name" but after a phone call with his mother he said that he didn't like it at all. I'm really quite downtrodden about this because I've done a lot of compromising on my end as far as names go. My husband wants to stop talking about it until we know the sex (which is still 9-10 weeks away), but I can't stop trying to figure out a name. I had finally come up with one we both liked, Parker, and then his mother pointed out that when he wrote his name last-name-first it would be Dodge, Parker. It made me hate it.

So, I'm open for suggetions here. I'm not a fan of "normal" names such as John, Michael, etc. My name is Renda and I've always liked the uniqueness of my name.

Trinity ___________ Dodge
___________ Stephen Dodge


Thanks so much!

Comments

[elemmennope.livejournal.com]

Trinity -- I do see where the stripper comments come from, though I don't think it's that bad. And an association like that is the first thing to disappear once someone knows an actual normal person with the name. So I wouldn't stress over that. I think the Matrix association is a bigger deal personally. Pop culture names tend to:
1. date themselves very rapidly, becoming dated names that everyone hates once the fad passes.
2. a source of annoying jokes
3. a little low class sounding

Parker Dodge I have to say, sounds like someone is "parking her Dodge." I'm ok on the name parker, but paired with a last name that a major brand of car... yeah, I don't care for that.

Lennon - I like it.

Scarlet - Nms but fine
Ruby - Adore it
Olivia - Fine, but very popular (in the top 5 in the U.S., I think)

I think your husband should get one name, Stephen or Trinity. And after he decides which one he cares more about, you should get to pick one of the names for the other gender on your own. The other two names in the combos should be a joint decision. (This being done before you find out the gender.) Again, jmo. But you should get your say too.

My other advice would be to keep the name discussion amongst you two only (and anonymous online people, lol). Don't let grandparents, other relatives, and friends be involved and only reveal your final choice after the baby is born. Because it is *impossible* for you to pick one name that pleases everyone, and the only thing that should really matter is what you and your husband think. Hearing unrestrained criticism from your aquaintances can be very emotionally trying, and can make you doubt your own opinions. Once the baby is here, everyone will shut their mouths and realize the parents knew best after and picked the name that suits the child perfectly.

My long list of names I like (http://elemmennope.livejournal.com/286257.html), for suggestions. Good luck! I hope you guys find something you both love.