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[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

We find out next week if we're having a boy or a girl. I'm really excited but having a hard time with names. My brother in law just passed away in July and I'm actually due a few days after his birthday. His name was Nathan and for a girl, we've decided on the name Natalie. It's a feminine version of Nathan and it means "birth day" so it's pretty perfect.

As for a boy...we're having some issues. We had our sons name picked out FOREVER and I guess we're spent on boy names haha.

We liked Derek at first (after the main character in American History X.) That character reminds us of his brother in SO many ways (jail, skinhead, then reformed into a good guy) but now we don't really LOVE that...

Then I thought when he was going to have a baby with his ex-wife they picked out the name Caleb if it was a boy...the baby never happened though and so I wondered if it would be wrong to take that name... plus my husband wants to spell it with a K because he is Kyle, his mom is Kathy, and our son is Kade and I HATE when people do that.

So, what do you think? Is it appropriate, should I ask my MIL and see if she cares/thinks it's a poor choice?

Thank you.

Comments

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

Kade and Kaleb? isn't that too close for a sibset?

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

That's what I said, I don't like the K on Kaleb, with a C I could deal, but Kaleb is too much.

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

In my mind, actually, even Caleb and Kade would be too close.

[tryyingtoevolve.livejournal.com]

Don't spell it Kaleb. It's tacky, and it looks too similar to Kyle, Kathy, and Kade.

I love Natalie.

What about using Nathan as a middle name for a boy, in honor of his brother?

Derek Nathan sounds nice.

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

But we decided we didn't like Derek...

and I don't like Kaleb either, but Caleb, I like. I just wonder if it's appropriate..

[tryyingtoevolve.livejournal.com]

Oh, sorry, I guess I didn't read what you were saying the right way.

I like Caleb, and I think if it was his EX wife (I'm assuming they divorced, and then he passed away?), then it shouldn't matter. I'd think it was inappropriate if they were still married when he died, or if she was still really a part of the family, but if she's not really a part of the family anymore, I don't think it's a big deal.

Caleb and Kade are still really similar, though.

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

They are similar, but not so much that it bothers me personally.

and the ex is NOT a part of our family. they split before he died but were still married.. but everyone hates her. ha.

I didn't even think about if she'd choose that name in the future...I'd really hate to have my kid running around with the same name as hers. She's a terrible woman and I'd prefer to not associate my possible son's name with her at ALL. blegh.

[tryyingtoevolve.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't worry about it, then. Use Caleb, but definitely ignore your husband and spell it with a C, lol. Caleb Nathan is beautiful. I actually think Caleb Nathaniel sounds better with a last name tacked on, but Caleb Nathan sounds good, too.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_meliska/]

Ooh, Torey, Caleb Nathaniel sounds awesome with your last name. I'd just be worried about the "Kay-Kay, I mean Kade, I mean Caleb!" thing happening all the time.

[joonluv.livejournal.com]

I think it'll be ok to name the boy Caleb if the two of you agree on it. As far as Natalie goes, I think it's a beautiful name and it's definitely on my top list for girls. And as far as Nathan goes, why not Caleb Nathan?

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

it's a possibility... Caleb Nathan.

I REALLY hope it's a girl...mainly because names would be exactly what we really like instead of "eh this'll work"

[morphinae.livejournal.com]

I totally understand this statement. (unfortunately) For what it's worth, I love Natalie :) Caleb and Kade are really close, not to mention I really don't care for Kaleb. How about Nathaniel?

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

Eh, I don't like it. Or naming the possible boy too closely to Nathan. I like Natalie..because it's different but not the same and the meaning fits, but nothing seems to work for us in a boy name. It's frustrating :\

[missmaxattax.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't settle for Caleb if it's just a "this will work"...
You and your husband will find something both of you like as a boys name. Just keep looking and thinking.
Look at other boy names that begin with K(not that you'd have to change to start with K).. Kevin, Keith, etc.

I think Natalie is a beautiful name, though. =)

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

see, *I* don't want a K name... my husband does and I'm just putting my foot down. It's too froo-froo for me to have all Ks. Sorry bud. But we just don't LOVE anything. With our son it was so easy, we'd had his name picked out for YEARS...I never planned on TWO boys haha...there's no rush to figure it out..it may not even BE a boy, but if it is.. we're screwed until we fall in love with something.

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

Kaleb and Kade are way too close. Why not use Nathan?

Natalie is beautiful.

[tableforfour.livejournal.com]

I'm not much for naming our children exactly after the person, and it's a type of situation where there can never be another Nathan Loftin. He was definitely one of a kind type of person.

I'm REALLY hoping this kid is a girl. Boy names are hard that aren't too trendy, not too weird, but not too similar to Kade. And I don't like Kaleb with a K, I'd prefer it with a C, so maybe that'd make it a little better.

[kitchen-poet.livejournal.com]

I really like Nathaniel! You could call him Nat. ;) Like Caleb Nathaniel or Nathaniel Caleb. I will agree and say with everyone else that I don't like like it with a "K" at all.
Good Luck!

[h-hope.livejournal.com]

I agree with Caleb instead of Kaleb. If you want to honor the brother and don't want to use Nathan, you could always use Caleb as a middle name and cross your fingers you and hubby find a first name that you both agree on and love!