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SIB SET!
I've been meaning to post this for awhile. They're not in birth order, because I always forget the birth order. My dad and his siblings:

Violet Ann
Grace Elizabeth
Dolly Jean
Tommy Lee (dad!)
Doris Marlin
Naomi Ruth
John Mark
Pauline Dawn
Paul David
Charles Ezra (nn Chucky)
Vanessa June
Betty Katherine
Lloyd William Jr (nn Buddy)

I've seen the comment, a couple of times, that people don't understand why parents get all kre8ive with spellings, because you say the kid's name more than you write it. Having a different spelling won't change the fact that when someone says "Hey Aiden.", every Aiden/Ayden/Adain/etc. will turn to look.

So, then, why do so many people get so down on how people spell their kid's name. Like it's been said, if it's still pronounced the same, then spelling doesn't make that much of a difference. So who cares if mom and dad prefer Kylie to Kiley. Or Elizabeth to Elisabeth. Unless they do something that makes it impossible to know what the name is, which will lead to problems later in life when teachers/potential bosses don't know how to say the name, (Ex: J'Ainn for Jane) then a slightly different than "normal" spelling shouldn't make THAT big of a difference, right?

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I really like Violet Ann, Grace Elizabeth, Charles Ezra and Betty Katherine.

Hmm. I agree with you somewhat on the second pont. I don't mind spelling changes like Elizabeth/Elisabeth, Lindsey/Lindsay, Sarah/Sara or John/Jon. But it is hard to know when to draw the line. Lindsey, Lindzey, Lindzy, Lyndzy, Lyndzee, L'yndzye. Where does it stop being an ok name? I think names that deviate more than one or two letters look unprofessional.

Personally, I like most of them. Except Doris Marlin. I have NO idea where grandma and grandpa came up with that one.

I'm not a fan of crazy whacked out spellings, either, but some changes aren't that big of a deal, to me. People get bent out of shape over things like extra 'y's in a name. My niece's name is Corynne...and I don't see what the big deal is that it's spelled that way as opposed to Corinne. My bro and sis-in-law decided they wanted a y in there. No biggie. It's still pronounced the same and it's not some crack baby version, like Khorein or something like that.

Variety is the spice of life, after all.

I agree on Corynne and names alike: that doesn't bother me either. And neither do variations like Aiden/Aidan or the ones mentioned above.
I just find it annoying when I want to pronounce names differently when I see them. For example; Addysyn sounds like Addis-sin when I say it, and Addison...well, like Allison with a 'd'.

Hmm. I pronounce Allison like Allis-sin.

Yeah, I suppose more people do. But I never quite understood that, because how can you get a -sin sound out of 'son'?

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Hahah =P.
Yeah, I guess that's probably it =)

Most of the time, changes like Elizabeth/Elisabeth, or Elliot/Eliot don't really matter, because both are accepted spellings of the names. But when people add random y's in, it looks really stupid, and someday when their kid's name is written on the door or on their resume, it IS going to matter. I say "it doesn't matter" as in, "it doesn't matter if you add in a y to the name Aidan, their name is still going to have the same name as half their kindergarten class."

But someday it WILL matter, because when you're applying for a job, the first thing an employer knows about you is your name. I could be wrong about this, but I'm thinking that if two people are applying for the same job and each is arguably just as qualified as the other one is, James has a much higher chance of being called in for an interview than Ayddyn does, just because people assume things based on someone's name - right or wrong, they do it.

Iawtc never thought about it this way, but I absolutely believe that you are 100% correct. Unfortunately stereotypes and assumptions on/about a name will (i think) always run strong. No matter how cute your baby is and how much you like their name, it will be their introductory label for the rest of their lives.

Certain names like James, John, or William are old as time and have had the time to build up a rapport. A name with an unusual spelling just doesn't seem as strong when put up against a name that seems timeless.

I think slight differences such as those listed above won't make much difference on most people's first impressions, but some creative names, like the ones with lots of unnecessary y's and double consonants are probably in for trouble when they enter the professional world. Since it seems it's becoming a more commmon practice, maybe by the time the kids being born today are starting their own businesses, it will be more accepted, but for now, I think in most people's eyes, it looks childish, illiterate, and/or unprofessional.

I just remembered, I overlooked the biggest problem, which is having to correct people who misspell your name. It's not that big a deal...my name is Stephanie, and I still have to correct people to this day...but it is annoying.

I heard "Elizabeth" was usually spelled "Elisabeth" until Queen Elizabeth I took the throne, then her spelling became fashionable. She was an awesome woman.

Your dad sure came from a large family. My great-grandmother came from a family of 13, my mother's father was one of 11.

Elisabeth/Elizabeth is fine, they're both perfectly normal legitimate spellings just used in different countries.
i doubt anyone in this community would say anything about names like Katherine/Catherine or Marissa/Marisa.

It's when spellings are botched up to look cool, mae up from no basis..to look unique and will end up giving the child a complex about their name being spelt wrong that bothers me. Also, when random A/I/Y/Z's are added in that would, gramatically, change the pronunciation of a name.
I think it looks trashy and immediately makes me think that the parents must have an IQ of zilch.

on the playground your Aydynn may be "Aidan" but in the classroom your Aydynn will be "my mom is illiterate".

Paul and Pauline? I could never do that to siblings..

It doesn't make it much better, but Paul and Pauline are twins. So...they're not just randomly given such similar names.

I don't think I'm one of the culprits in the "kre8tive-hating" group you described, but I'll throw in my two cents. Some names just look ridiculous. I don't hate Kissawndra any more than I hate Faygen or Furtis. They're all equally stupid--it just so happens that Cassandra is a real name, and a fine name, so the parent could've just used that one.