awwww, poo.....

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

So, I'm due in 3 weeks (probably less) and I was talking about names on a due date community.

It got me thinking about the name thing pretty hard, and I was all excited because I thought I'd settled on the name combos that really made me happy. My husband and I have only really discussed the name thing a couple of times and haven't managed to agree on anything much... but I think he's going to leave it up to me, with veto power if I pick something he really hates.

I was in bed later and it occurred to me then that the initials on those name combos that I liked are totally, utterly unacceptable.

S.H.T.

argh.

Now I have to either sacrifice the middle names, or come up with a new first name (the one I picked is unisex, with different middle names for boy/girl).

Comments

[thorabrighid.livejournal.com]

i never seen anyone made fun of because of their initials, most people don't even know other peoples middle names. if you really like the name, i say go for it, initials be damned.

[bluekoala.livejournal.com]

most people don't even know other peoples middle names

That's true, but most backpacks for little/elementary school-age kids have their initials on them. I always wanted my backpacks to have my initials. My friend in first grade used to get teased about her initials spelling JAM, and that's not even, like, a bad thing. It's just jam. But it was still pretty embarrassing for her.
However, at that age I didn't even know the word "shit", so who knows if they'd see anything in "SHT" anyway. My main point is that it isn't a totally outlandish worry--but it's also not something to give up a really good name over.

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

I have, unfortunately.

Mine aren't bad... JMP is definitely word-making, but nothing to tease about. (maiden name)

Hubby's are MET, which is a word, but no big deal.

I don't know... I'm contemplating adding another name, and just going with the 4-name route instead of 3.

Or I could just tell hubby I'm giving the kid my last name instead! ;D

[omgzits--tam.livejournal.com]

I agree with the above commenter.
If you absolutely love the names you have picked out, then go for it. I don't think one day the kids will be sitting in class, putting their initals together and then laughing at a funny result.

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

I do, but having been the kid in class that got teased mercilessly (albeit for other reasons), I don't want to give any extra fodder to those that would use it.

:(

[after-the-ashes.livejournal.com]

Your kid is going to be made fun of in some way shape or form no matter what. Why not make it something stupid like SHT, which isn't even that obvious?

[sageharper.livejournal.com]

To me initials are only potentially problematic if they literally spell out a word with negative connotations (like A.S.S or something).
Even then initials are pretty overrated, for all my years of name geekdom I can only think of a couple of times when initials have ever been noted, if they make for a nickname.

So either way those seem totally fine to me. Only thought of it because you discussed it in that context, then gave it some thought. It's really not that obvious.

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

I know my sister will point it out IMMEDIATELY, she notices stuff like that. And if she does, then others probably will too. I'm contemplating other options, but nothing's jumping out at me so far.

I probably should have started this process in seriousness much sooner. *laugh*

[girlsknowbest.livejournal.com]

while i agree with the other comments posted. i have to admit. a name i loved initials turned out to be L.I.E. and i just couldn't deal with it, so I understand. :)

SHT is not bad, really. and if you are in the habit of monogramming, it's sTh. and as far as the kids go, it's just ST.

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

Not in the habit of monogramming, so that's not a worry.

I'm thinking of maybe adding another name in there, the one the soon-to-be big sister picked out.

Most folks I know that have done the 4-name thing, though, have done it for all their kids, not just one. heheh

[girlsknowbest.livejournal.com]

while we're sharing, my initials are ACE. not too shabby. i got the long end of the stick there, i think.

yay for homeschoolers. i see you're involved in that. super interested here, just afraid to jump.

sounds like you've already made a decision about the name.

[jesus--suburbia.livejournal.com]

Who cares? No one pays that much attention anyway.

What are the names you picked out?

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

Some do, though I wish that wasn't the case. If I KNEW for certain that I would be homeschooling my kids for the duration, it'd be less of an issue. But while I'm doing it now, I don't know that that will always be the case. :\


Sheridan Hope T_____ (girl)
Sheridan Hart T_____ (boy) Hart is my dad's middle name as well as his dad's and grandad's, btw.

The last name is very common, two-syllables.

[jesus--suburbia.livejournal.com]

I really don't think kids will mess with he/she that much. Especially when they are younger. And by the time they grow up, well, kids will be mature enough.

But if you are uncomfortable with it, maybe you should change the middle (or first) name.

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

I'm going to be the voice of dissent here and say that initials can be a problem. My sister's initials are SLT, and yes, people DID pick up on it. Add a u, and what have you got? Luckily she's a good sport about it, but still. My initials are AST, and if I ever marry a guy with the last initial S, I won't be able to take his last name, because then my initials will be ASS.

[geeki.livejournal.com]

*nods*

Mine were TAG, and I got teased :)

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

No... my first name begins with an A, my second name begins with an S, my last name begins with a T. If I changed my last name to something that started with an S, it would make my initials ASS.

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that's the time to hyphenate, I'd think. ASTS is no big deal. :)

[geeki.livejournal.com]

my initials spell TAG (or did before I got married) done ON purpose by my father.

and yes...it was a family nickname....

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

Interesting that it got picked up on as a nickname. Hubby's are MET, but he never got any grief about it.

Now, I did say that we couldn't name a boy after him because then the kid would be MT the 5th.... or Empty the Fifth. And, well, as we have long lines of alcoholics on both sides, I didn't want to tempt fate. ;D

[geeki.livejournal.com]

yup...

tag, tagalong....

And my uncle....still....calls me that.

[geeki.livejournal.com]

although technically I'm TAP now :)

[godmod.livejournal.com]

Some brothers I know are BAD and GOD. They are young still but I hope BAD doesn't have issues once he figures it out.

[jenmarie.livejournal.com]

eep. Yeah, that wouldn't be so quirky if not for the fact that they're siblings. In that case, it's just kind of wrong. heh

[ugottafriend.livejournal.com]

I'm KNB, and believe it or not kids made fun of me for about a year because we had a drug store called K&B at the time. I was called a druggie and who knows what else. They stopped teasing when I started playing along. HA.

[regretfulsmile.livejournal.com]

I really don't see a problem. I wouldn't worry.

[aquilinum.livejournal.com]

Mine are TV. No middle name. Nobody noticed until I pointed it out, like a moron.


It only caused one problem, ever, and even that was short and funny: I'd initialled a note to my supervisor (during a stint as hotel receptionist). She thought the note referred to a TV and went looking for broken TVs in the hotel before finally asking me what on earth was the matter. We chuckled; the end.

I did NOT change my last name when I got married, because I happen to like my name. It is, by definition, my name.


SHT doesn't even MEAN anything. You'd have to add a letter! If you don't want to use it, don't, but seriously: your kids will survive.