Is this okay?

[aintlifesosweet.livejournal.com]

I had decided on a name for my soon-to-be daughter, and now I sit here nearly 39 weeks... and I have a very strong feeling that I am going to change my mind when she is born. I feel like I'll know for sure when I see her, but my mom is making me feel really badly for even considering changing the middle name.

Is it okay to change the baby's name when they're born from the name you "decided" on prior to that? Even if you told EVERYONE?

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Comments

[bornto-fly.livejournal.com]

You're the one whose daughter it is, you're the one who holds the responsibility of naming her. Forget what everyone else says - if the name you've chosen doesn't fit her, change it.

[aintlifesosweet.livejournal.com]

Thank you, this is so relieving... my family is making me feel like a horrible mama for saying this!

[bornto-fly.livejournal.com]

It's not technically her name yet and until you sign the birth certificate, that name's not set in stone, no matter how many people have embroidered it onto things.

[aintlifesosweet.livejournal.com]

:D

[miss-tee.livejournal.com]

What's more important naming your child a name that you know is 'just right' or inconveniencing people who may have gotten you named themed gifts?

[red-inuzuka.livejournal.com]

Sure it's ok! Wouldn't you rather be happy with the name than always be thinking 'you should have been a ____' when you look at your daughter? I think you should tell your mom, and anybody else who gets upset, that nothing is ever offical until the birth ceritficate is signed and sealed and if they have a problem with it, they should carry and name the child to their liking instead ;D

[omgzits--tam.livejournal.com]

Absolutely.
My mum was set on naming my sister Elaine, but once she came out, my mum decided, "No. Annie suits her more. She's definitely more of an Annie." This was totally on-the-spot, but it DOES suit her. I cannot see my sister being an Elaine.

I think if you believe the child isn't what you want to name her, then it's absolutely fine to name her something different. Pay no mind to what the people surrounding you are saying. :)

[alluminor.livejournal.com]

Ha, we changed our daughter's middle name in the hospital :) Luckily, they hadn't called the birth certificate information in yet.

[politicking.livejournal.com]

we didn't agree on ANY names for our son until i was 39wks... up until then it was a fight because we have really different taste in names. anyway, we thought we had decided on a name, first-middle-last, the whole thing.

but i went to 41wks, & i had an appointment the day before i went into labor & on the way i threw out another name & it stuck-- 25hrs later we were naming him a name we had NEVER mentioned the entire 9m! & honestly, a name i never even thought of naming my son ever lol.

in all honesty- do NOT let ANYBODY make you feel bad about naming YOUR CHILD! that is what i did & i ended up naming something i really wasn't in love with, like i was with other names i had come up with.

[aintlifesosweet.livejournal.com]

Thank you sooo much

[miss--nikki.livejournal.com]

Of course! It's your child and your decision, but I would like to add you may be a bit emotional, overwhelmed, etc... directly after having a baby. Be careful not to choose a name in haste after such a huge event. Also, if someone was silly enough to embroider the name... well I think people should do that AFTER the baby is born just to be sure. My aunt got my boys ID bracelets, but left them blank and offered to get them engraved after they were born. Simple as that. :-)

[kitchen-poet.livejournal.com]

My mom had a name picked out all along, and then changed her mind as soon as I was born. Believe me, mother's instincts. Her original name would not have fit me at all, but I love my name now! Go with your gut, that's why you're the mother.

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't worry about your mom or family being upset about a name change. When the baby is born everyone will be so delighted that the "old name" will be immediately forgotten. This is your baby (and the father's of course) and if you want to meet the baby first, do what feels right to YOU. Good Luck!

[alexandria-skye.livejournal.com]

it's not set in stone until the legal papers get filed, right? and it is your decision down to the wire.

my mom would always embroider things for people... but she usually wouldn't add the name until either the birth, or if the parents were definitely sure of the name.

good luck and congratulations :)

[aymen.livejournal.com]

I think the only time it's too late to change the name is when you've already turned in the birth certificate lol Who knows, the name you've already picked could totally not match her sweet little face once she's in your arms. They'll get over it, so don't worry too much about it. :)

Just one more week and she'll be here! Congratulations!

[emilyintheglass.livejournal.com]

Who cares if you got an embroidered gift? Would you let that person's choice of gift dictate the naming of YOUR child? You are the parent...pick something that fits you and your child, not what others like.

[thefirethorn.livejournal.com]

then you can point to the embroidered gift and tell the child the story -- just like my little brother's piggy bank. It has the wrong birth date on it. The lovely lady who hand made it put his due date, 3 days before he actually made it into the world. But did we change his birthday just to please this lady? Please! Actually, I don't even know who that gal was --- it was 24 years ago ----

[ugottafriend.livejournal.com]

Anyone who has a problem with your decision is selfish. You have every right to change your own child's name, especially since she isn't even born yet!

[thefirethorn.livejournal.com]

Screw everyone! This is you and her and the rest of your lives -- everyone else can go fly a kite.

WE (my husband and I) both agreed after the baby was a week old that we needed to change his name. He was John Michael, but now he is John-Michael Edward. Sadly the birth certificate was all ready passed, so now we have to pay for a legal name change, but oh well. We're happy.

[in-the-starlite.livejournal.com]

It's your baby. Name her whatever you want. I'm sure people will understand.

[aquilinum.livejournal.com]

Name her what you think will be the BEST NAME for her, the rest of her life (not what will make your family smile for a month or two).

Unless it's just the pregnancy hormones and the baby everybody thought was going to be "Elizabeth" is suddenly "Eugeniferrina"...

I kid! Sorta. Really, is everybody upset because you're changing it, or is everybody upset because you're changing it to The Name You're Now Using? What ARE the names we're talking about here? Can't believe nobody's addressed this...

[aintlifesosweet.livejournal.com]

okay, my mom is the one who is upset. The name I had decided on was Audrey Scarlett Burrow, but now I am sick of the name Scarlett, and there are SOOOO many Audreys. I chose the name because it's pretty, but it was also my great-grandma's name, but she actually went by her middle name Edith.

I just have never felt comfortable saying it.

I have a few other names on my list, but I really don't want to say until she's out.