funny convo with my father

[breathbox.livejournal.com]

when i revealed to my dad that we'd be naming our son ocean he had this to say:

"please. no. a boy named ocean in los angeles? he's going to be SUCH a c**ksucker."

my reply?

(laughing hysterically from shock) "i know, isnt it great?"



my dad makes me laugh and laugh. i know the name ocean will impart a sense of originality as well as mystique in a person. he'll be set apart (teased, im sure will be part of that...but who isnt) as well as objectified by the reference of his name...and my whole life i have been drawn to the sea, its in my blood and the name, to me, is a symbol of something that resonates in my heart...

but hearing my dad's reaction really got me giggling. leave it to pops to really put it out there.

becky*

Comments

[calixbat.livejournal.com]

Do you have a middle name picked out?

I like Ocean.

[ex-ollivande895.livejournal.com]

LMAO. Dads are great.

[krosp.livejournal.com]

lol how's that for brutal honesty!

Not that you asked for opinions but I guess I'd be afraid to use a name like that just in case i happened to have a child who wasn't very confident and hated standing out. Like you never know who you're going to get....some kids could pull it off awesomely but others would hate it for the rest of their life, so I'd be more likely to use a name like that as a middle name instead.

But it's not a bad name or anything.

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

i know the name ocean will impart a sense of originality as well as mystique in a person.

HAHAHA, um... I wouldn't count on it, sorry.

[fullofgrace40.livejournal.com]

the name is not my style, but if one would use it i would see ocean as being a girl's name, not a boy's.

[ber-waves-of.livejournal.com]

I like Ocean. Good choice! :)

[ex-bluebonn.livejournal.com]

I like Ocean, but not for a boy. I knew a wee thing named Ocean Bailey.

[waitingonsunday.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't have picked those exact words for it (though it's hilarious that he did), but I sort of agree...although I can see the real surfer type pulling Ocean off.

[spikes-sexkitty.livejournal.com]

tee hee hee. i like your dad already. :)

i agree your son's name should mean something to you. (but, um, he IS gonna have a middle name right? mayhap something more mainstream america?)

i think it's funny how most dad's from previous generations are all:" i like james, and john and sarah, etc" ya know? simple names. usually monosyllibic. mom's were usually more creative.

mine was the opposite. my mom HATED all the 'out there' names as she called them. Dakota *if i'd been a boy*, Paris, Austen *instead of Austin for a boy*, .... and those were the more normal of the names she could remember. lol. artist dads are bizzare.

[morphinae.livejournal.com]

Having to agree. I don't understand why you'd be willing to put a child through that teasing KNOWINGLY? Seems cruel to me, especially just for the sake of it just being something that's a symbol to YOU.

[kissxmexsweet.livejournal.com]

=/ Er...not my favorite either.

[breathbox.livejournal.com]

well i wasnt gonna answer the first reply cuz its all a matter of opinion, but the act of giving a child a name is a representative of how the PARENT sees the child. i doubt that after a few hours or even after nine months of me carrying the baby, he's going to come out with many persuasions and personality traits and a request for a name that means something to HIM. so yeah, i guess im gonna go w/ what moves me...thanks.

as far as asking for teasing, i kinda put that comment in there because i get that as a reaction to his name. OH HES GONNA GET SOOOOO TEASED. well guess what? everyone i know gets teased for something or another. my name is rebecca or becky. my husband's is lucas. and we BOTH got teased for our names...so do what you will with that. its in people's nature to tease and that doesnt worry me. you do embody your name. you just do. and with a name like ocean, i can see great things for a person.

becky*

[aquilinum.livejournal.com]

I like it. Actual, correctly spelled nouns are NIFTY KEEN in my nontraditional book. I'm also, sorry to say, on the camp of "your kid will probably not be particularly enhanced by the name" (meaning I doubt he'll be much more mystical or in tune than if not named Ocean), but who cares? Your kid could be just as airheaded and c***s***erish if named Bob.

Ocean for the win!

PS - Fully in support of nontraditional names, I am nonetheless of the opinion that "normal" middle names are a great solution in case my children wind up being not so brave and weird as their mother. Heck, no guarantees. Might as well give them an escape route.

[eleanorgrace.livejournal.com]

I think what she's trying to say, which I agree with, is that the name won't change the kid's character like that.
Naming a kid Ocean won't make him more unique than his friend John, except that the teacher will notice that he has an unusual name.
Aren't all kids original, anyway? Isn't that what all parents are kind of striving for?

That's nothing against the name itself; just a comment on your explanation of it.

[breathbox.livejournal.com]

yeah, i think what i meant was in the eyes of others. he could be a totally "normal" and "mainstream" person and still when people hear his name is ocean, it will be a spark of interest...i know if i met a boy named ocean i'd think he was cuter/more interesting at first than a boy named bob. haha.

no offense to the bobs out there.

becky*

[fruhlings.livejournal.com]

I like Ocean as a middle name.

[breathbox.livejournal.com]

i suppose it would just be something like o or osh (long sound)

thx, btw!

[starrkissed.livejournal.com]

lmao your dad is hilarious. ;x
no offense! i mean, who would've expected that reaction? lol

i really don't like the name. but i'm more for trendy names, i guess. i think it would make a cool middle name, though.

[sageharper.livejournal.com]

LOL :)
My dad would probably be like that too, though not in those exact words. But then my parents think Lisa and Ethan are unusual names. So I'm not quite sure how they're going to take having grandsons named August & Lennon (or something equally offbeat), but it's not his choice to make. My brother & I live with their naming choices, so they'll have to live with ours [though my brother is way more conservative than me].

There are so many factors that influence a person that a name doesn't necessarily have a huge impact (my given name is really common and look how I turned out, lol); but if you're the kind of person to go against the herd mentality when it comes to naming, then that'll probably carry through with other aspects of raising your son and such.

It's wonderful that the name has so much meaning, I try to do that too. My middle name isn't something I'd necessarily like in the abtract; but it has a lot of meaning to my parents, and hearing the story helped me grow to love it.

Backing it up with a more 'mainstream' middle name does seem a good idea, so he'll have more options in later life.

So kudos to you :)

[breathbox.livejournal.com]

thanks for your sentiment. i love the names august and lennon (two names i proposed to the hubs for this boy).

his middle name is actually going to be white. its a family name. so i dont think he'll have much choice as far as mainstream goes...but im confident we can figure something out. i thought of double middle naming him, but the hubs is slow to agree...

becky*

[sageharper.livejournal.com]

You're welcome :)
Cool, it's great to know people like my names (but not too much, don't want them getting trendy :)).

Ah I see, that's cool too.