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[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Hi. I've posted once before, but this is my first wtf? name post.

I was standing in line at Toys R Us today and the woman in line behind me kept singing to her little girl of maybe 6 or 7 "Bella, Bella, Bella Desirella". The tune sounded familiar, but I was assuming she'd changed the words to her daughter's name.
*so*-- Bella Desirella -- Thoughts? I'm hoping against hope the middle name is Desiree or even perhaps Desirella is the last name, as my brother suggested it might be.




*edit* I have a question and didn't want to post a whole new post. How would any of you feel if a close family member used a name similar to your child's, if your child was deceased? My husband's sister is getting married soon and we were talking baby names. She said Roseline was one of the names they were thinking of. I told her, truthfully, that we liked that name too, but wouldn't/couldn't use it as it was part of our daughter's name-- Brenna Rose (2 name first name, Rose is not her middle name). I don't know if she got the hint. What do you think? Disrespectful? A nice way to honor her memory? I just know it would be hard for me to call her by name or if I heard my MIL use the same nickname as my mother had for my daughter. Sorry if this is the wrong place for this. And I'm a tired.. my posts get odder when I'm tired.

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[apple-seed.livejournal.com]

there was a commercial last christmas for this stupid kids' dance tape called "bella dancerella," so maybe it's that? i sing that to my cat whose name is bella XD

anyway, that's awful if it really is her name, LOL.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Hum, maybe that is it. I don't have television or children, figures I wouldn't know anything about it. I'm really certain they were saying 'Desirella'. I wonder if they changed it or if they just heard it wrong.

I too have a cat named Bella :) Belladonna.


I saw a badly named toy today at Toys R Us. It's this cartoon mouse named Diddle. OMG. I couldn't believe they named it that (I think it's foreign, which explains it, probably doesn't have the connotation in other parts of the world). But the also came out with another mouse, looked more recent-- Diddlina.

[sarahrose.livejournal.com]

My first thought before I even read your ending was that the middle name was Desiree.

[confusedanswers.livejournal.com]

perhaps she's just rhyming her childs name.

We do Ava Pava, Koti Woti, Brianna Macedonia... in the class I teach. It teaches children rhyming in a non formal manner and it's kinda fun to see what you can come up with. It is quite possible she was simply rhyming her childs name with the first thing that came to her mind.

[imyourrapunzel.livejournal.com]

I agree. To me it sounds like she was just singing a song and making up a name to rhyme. When my brother was little my mom and I made up a song and we called him "Lukey Dukey Kalamazooky."

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Perhaps that's what is was. Maybe it was the standing in line 20 minutes and having it burnt into my memory 30 times that irritated me so.

[krosp.livejournal.com]

I think to some people it wouldn't click that Roseline and Rose are essentially the same name.

When you said that you couldn't use it because of your daughter's name, she might have just thought "yeah you wouldn't want to use the same sort of name twice" and not have even twigged that perhaps it's because it is painful for you to call another child by that name...therefore she probably didn't think that it was inappropriate for herself to use it, but just for you to.

I think she is just completely oblivious about it and probably isn't either honouring your daughter or being specifically disrespectful. If it's going to be too painful then you might have to be more direct. She may only think it's MORE reason to use the name... like "well at least my brother won't be using this name" or something... I don't know.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

Yeah, I guess I didn't think she was thinking of our daughter's name either when she came up with it. Maybe I'm the only one who would see the similarity. I'm not sure if I would tell her; maybe I would have my husband do it if it becomes an issue. Maybe she won't pick it. LOL, I should just encourage the other names. Hehe, I also told her I thought the way she spelled it it would be pronounced Rozlyn, which seemed to turn her off of it a bit.

If it was a cousin (he's close to hsi cousins) or something, it wouldn't seem so bad, but his sister? Oh well, we'll see.

Luckily the other names are so different from our possible future-names, we'll probably never have any overlap.

I have the same problem with my brother, he wants to use names we want to use, but not any similar to our daughter's name. With him, it's basically up to who gestates first.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

I am on the fence regarding family names. I think they should usually be names of people perhaps a few generations removed, if you're going to do it at all. We are thinking of using my deceased uncle's name, but the only person who would have a problem with it-- my mom-- loves the idea. I guess it seems somewhat different when it's your child that died, as opposed to an older relative. I think re-using a similar name within the same generation is just too much.

It actually turns out Rose is the name of my husband's maternal great-great grandmother, but I don't think his sister knows that.

My husband is a III, but that will probably die with him. I think he is getting more attached to the name, though, because his father is very ill.

[ginky.livejournal.com]

My daughter has videos that are Bella Dancerella....if it's not a nick name it's a bad choice of names....because the bella dancerella song is very catchy.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

I'll have to listen to it and see if it was the same tune they were singing!

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

I wasn't saying it did. I'm not even sure if she got that it did until I told her I thought it was so similar to our daughter's name. It can still bother me, though. I'm was just wanting other's opinions if someone did that. As others said, perhaps she didn't even realize-- still bothers me, though. I don't know if I'd ever say anything, though.
Thanks.

[dellswife.livejournal.com]

Maybe she was just using a play on words......

[blissurrenderd.livejournal.com]

I think if it would be hard for you to call her by that name you should tell her just that. That's easily understandable, and maybe she could still use it for a middle name or have another nickname.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure if I would tell her. Sometimes things that seem they'd be easily understandable aren't with our family :( I think maybe for a middle name wouldn't be so bad. Maybe I'll suggest that to her. As I said to someone else, I think I might try and push some of the other names she really liked. :)

[ewaeva.livejournal.com]

I understand it might upset you, but I don't think her name choice has anything to do with your daughter, and I would not call it insensitive. It's a different name, first of all. And I don't think it's really fair/reasonable to say that your family members should understand that all the names that sound remotely close to your daughter's are off limits.

[septembergrrl.livejournal.com]

I agree. I understand the wound is raw for the parents, but I don't think that should mean no one close to them should use any Br- name or any Rose name. If the suggested name was Brianna Rosa, I would understand the problem, but as it is Roseline is a very different style and feel from Brenna Rose.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[sleepherealone.livejournal.com]

I don't know with the sister situation, but I LOVE the name Brenna. I forgot about it until now. (recognized it from a book character)

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :) I love it too. I just saw it once while going through baby-name sites and it stuck. It's also Irish and I wanted an Irish name. I of course didn't stop to think that I have an aunt named Brenda and a cousin named Brennan when I picked it out. :) Don't know why I didn't make the connection. Well, I guess if I didn't make that connection, not many in our family would make the Rose-Rosealine connection. :)
I miss using the name..