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[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

Last night I was discussing names with my husband and these are the names and some combos that top our boys list. We like a couple of different combos and so I thought I would turn to you guys, my trusted name critics, for some opinions. Here are the names individually, and the combos that we prefer:

Titus
Elijah
Aaron (will be used only as a middle name, as it's my husband's middle name and 2 of my cousin's first names, so using it as a first would be confusing at family get togethers)
Adam (my brother's name, so again, only a middle name)
Isaac
Ian
Malachi (only considered as a middle name)

Combos:

Titus Aaron
Titus Adam
Titus Ian
Elijah Aaron
Elijah Adam
Elijah Malachi
Isaac Adam
Isaac Aaron
Ian Elijah
Ian Adam (really not sold on this one)

I personally also love the name Silas, but my husband is completely not sold. Silas Adam has such a nice ring to me, but alas. =)

TIA for your opinions. Are there any other combos you think would sound better? (Feel free to toss in names that arent on this list that you think sound good with the names that are.)

Comments

[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

Yea, We've been through the possibilities. At first we considered Tidus to stray from him having tit in his name. In the end, I've settled on the fact that the name should be spelled properly and it's a strong name that can stand on its own, in my (any many others) opinion. I do appreciate your suggestions, but if he's not teased about his name he'll be teased about something else. It's a rite of passage, and eventually they'll grow out of it. If our future son is anything like his mother, he'll be sarcastic and secure enough to handle teasing, whether it's because of his name, the way he looks, or the fact that his father is a band director.

I actually did a poll of both my friends, college age males I know, and a few random ones I found online, and everyone said that they liked the name Titus and (in college) would probably be over making fun of the name-- except one, who said he'd only make fun of it when he was drunk. =)

[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

Hmm.... "did a poll of both my friends" sounds like I said I only have 2 friends... I polled 1.) my friends, 2.) college males I know, and 3.) a few random people online.

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

well, hopefully the people you were polling are now old and mature enough to not make fun of peoples names, but do you really think 12 year old boys aren't going to make fun of a kid with the word tit in his name? especially if your kid turns out to be unpopular for whatever reason. hopefully adults would refrain from such teasing, but i don't think you can credit junior high kids with that same maturity.

[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

If you notice in the first paragraph, I said, "if he's not teased about his name he'll be teased about something else. It's a rite of passage, and eventually they'll grow out of it." Likewise, in my first reply I said, "Actually, I was more worried about his middle school years and the fact that he would have Tit in his name." So it was I who first noted the fact that we were hesitant to use Titus because having the word "tit" in your name in middle school is almost a shooin for teasing.

Nevertheless, I see Titus as a very strong name, one that will grow with him into adulthood and he's only going to be in middle school a short time compared with how long he will be an adult.

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

Sorry, but I hate the argument of "well he's gonna be teased about something, anyway!" You're still giving the kids ammunition. Why name him something you KNOW he'll be teased about? I hope that after being teased all through school, HE thinks it's a strong name that suits him. Most people I know who were teased about their names hate them.

[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

I'm not justifying giving my son a "teasable" name by saying he's going to be teased about something anyway, but the truth in the matter is, kids tease kids. If he's not teased for his name (even WITH the name Titus), he's GOING to be teased for something. It happens. That's when it's a parents responsibility to teach the child about self-esteem and self-respect.

You assume that having the name Titus inherently means he WILL be called titties or tight ass or something else in a negative connotation. This isnt necessarily true. Is there possibility he will be teased? Maybe. But as I mentioned before, he will most likely go by Ty anyway. Yes, there are downfalls to the name Titus, I'm willing to admit that. But my point still stands that he will be a child much less time than he will be an adult. And my opinion on the matter wont be changed. The decision to go ahead and use the name Titus wasnt made in a matter of seconds. My husband and I have discussed it extensively-- including the possibility of teasing and variations of the name for that purpose. It stills remains that we love the meaning/story behind the name, believe it to be a strong name, love the name itself, and will use it. It's not like he's going to be the first boy in history to ever have the name Titus. I'm sure there are plenty of well adjusted men named Titus who made it through puberty and all that goes with it just fine and still like their name.

[sotypical42483.livejournal.com]

Okay, fine, if you like the name use it. Whatever.

Why did you ask for opinions if you were just going to jump on anyone who had one that wasn't the same as yours?

[ashadelic.livejournal.com]

I didn't intend to jump on you, but if that's how it seemed to you, I do apologize. I just wanted to make sure it didn't appear that the name was considered without any forethought as to how it might affect him growing up. I absolutely and completely see every point you made-- I thought the same things and had the same reservations myself, and openly admitted them as well. Our opinions dont necessarily differ, just our conclusions. I was just trying to show some of the rationale behind why we would still use the name.