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So I'm finally at that stage in life where I've decided I'm going to start having children in the next 2-5 years. Meanwhile, all my friends and people I grew up with are starting their families and having kids, for example one of the children in my neighbourhood who is 5 years younger than me. (Makes me feel kind of old.)

Anyway, I'm one of those who sorted out my future baby names at 14 and actually kept most of them. I've changed my #1 boys name and the middle of my #1 girl, but they've mostly stayed the same. I'm starting to realize that my fear of other people I know using my favorite names is increasing by each pregnant friend I see. Unfortunately my name choices aren't so rare that I can go clear of everyone else, but they're not in the top 40 either.

Would you guys use your favorite name even though one of your friends end up using it? Where does the limit go? BFFs, normal friends, friends you have on facebook and talk to once a year, or those you just hear about every now and then.

(I actually told one of my non-pregnant best friends that one of the girl names she liked was 'my' name. She laughed and told me okay. She has later decided she only wants short names for her kids anyway so it's out of the question for her now.)

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[roseofjuly.livejournal.com]

It depends on how close they are. I wouldn't use my best friends' children's name or even normal "outer circle" friends I hang out with maybe once a month or so. But if we're just Facebook friends, then yes, I'd use the name. I certainly wouldn't tell any of my friends that a name she is thinking about is 'my' name. It depends on who uses it first, based upon who has children first.

My cousin and I are the same age and we liked a lot of the same names. She used a name I liked for her oldest daughter (Sophia, which she totally ruined with the middle name Jaden) and a name I like, but wouldn't use, for her son (Gabriel). Another my cousins did take a boys' name I really, really liked (Isaiah - he's 8 now; this cousin is about 10 years older than me) but I have a lot of names I like, so I'll just pick another one. Family within the same generation is pretty off limits, although I would name kids in honor of other people.