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[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

1) I'm pretty much set on Lorelei. Daddy hates it. Daddy's also not super-involved with the pregnancy, and I can't guarantee he'll be involved when she's born. He's trying . . . but not much. Should I consider his opinion when picking her name?

2) I need an Irish middle name, but unfortunately, not many of them flow with Lorelei. I'm thinking Madigan, Talena, Grace, or Abigael, but does anyone have any other suggestions? I've looked at Irish/Gaelic names for hours on end, and my eyes are starting to cross.

3) Just for kicks, how do you feel about Lorelei? Everybody has told me they loved it, which makes me feel relieved. But I think a community of people who don't know me gives me a better shot at any negative feedback. 

Edit: Thanks for all of the suggestions! I now have a bigger list to work with. :)

Comments

[tauruschick.livejournal.com]

personally I love the name. It was on my original lists, but my husband doesn't like it.

Not sure about middle names though.

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's hard!

[ohhvelocitygirl.livejournal.com]

I love the name and to answer #1, hale no.

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'm leaning toward not giving him any input, but everybody and their brother says it'll help him bond with the baby. It feels good to know other people agree with me.

[he1ena.livejournal.com]

What about Lorelei Shiobhan? (pronounced Shi-vahn. It's a popular irish name)

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

I liked Siobhan a lot actually, until I realized her initials would be LSD. (I probably should have clarified no middle names beginning with the letter S, lol.)

[feelslike-2day.livejournal.com]

i LOVE lorelei. If the father's not too keen and you don't think he'll be around; go with what you want. If he is still around he won't dislike it as much on his child. :)

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

I like the way you think. :) Now that you mention it, my mom HATED my brother's name when he was born (Dad named him), but now she loves it because it's a strong, Irish name. You're right - he'll get it over it.

[jexia]

I love Lorelei.

[pixietangerine.livejournal.com]

Lorelei is very pretty! Lorelei Madigan is nice. Or: Lorelei Niamh, Lorelei Aisling, Lorelei Grainne, Lorelei Quinn

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

Ooh, I like Niamh. I'll have to add that to the list. Thanks!

[shinydisc0balls.livejournal.com]

I tried to include baby daddy in the name picking at first. But once I realized his involvement was/is going to be minimal, I said fuck it. His loss for not contributing.

I love the name Lorelei. It sort of reminds me of Gilmore Girls, but not everyone will think of that haha. I think Talena is a pretty middle name.

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

A couple of people said it reminded them of Gilmore Girls, but I don't mind that in the least. (Popular show without trashy skanks? Yes please.)

[mrsduryee.livejournal.com]

I am sorry that you are going through the pregnancy (and potentially parenting) without help from dad. My advice is always to give people grace and consider their opinion, as being heard is an important part of being motivated to be a better human being in general, which is better for everyone (baby especially).

That being said, what is he gonna do, or not do, if you pick the name? If he isn't taking the birth of his child (it took two this time) seriously, then the name probably doesn't actually matter that much to him. Lorelei is a lovely name and has lots of nn potential.

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

Ah, he just doesn't want her having a "whack-ass white name." (He's Dominican, I'm not.) He left when I was about five months along and since then has been rude, degrading, and just all-around mean. I tried to get him involved with things, but he always ended up skipping out. So I was excited when became interested in her nam, until I realized he didn't like ANY of the names I picked out.
I think you're right - I think the name itself does't matter, just WHO names her. Thank you for your insight on this. :)

[harinakshi.livejournal.com]

I LOVE Lorelei. Very pretty and girly. No help with middle names, those are always hard for me, too.

As for the baby daddy, screw him, lol! My son's father flat out refused Elijah and demanded Dameous...was going to be Damien, but that wasn't good enough, he totally would not budge and the names he picked were the most god aweful ridiculous stupid names imaginable. Once it was pretty obvious we wouldn't be doing things together I was rather happy to be able to name MY son what I wanted! Didn't give him his name either...heck, by the time he was born I didn't even put him on the BC. And I am thankful for all of those situations. If you don't think the father will be around don't budge, it's your child. My son's father even started out supportive and there and everything but the farther along I got the more we drifted. He pays child support to avoid going to jail and has never met MY son; I would have hated myself for going with his naming choices.

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

That's how it is with him. He wanted names that were all nouns (Skye, Scarlett, Summer) and I don't want to give her name that is also a word. There was another name he was nuts about (Kiana) that I wasn't keen on, but he pushed for it every day and when I looked it up, it was Irish, so I told him we could use it as a middle name, but he sees that as a waste. If I KNEW he'd be around, I'd give him more say, but he's JUST starting to warm to the idea of having a baby, and I can't wait forever on him. As it is, I changed the name I was calling her (and that I used to bond), but apparently that doesn't count. *rolls eyes*
I think I will end up sticking to my guns, but I also don't need to hear it how I gave her a "retarded, bitch-ass" name every day for the rest of his involvement.

[laminy.livejournal.com]

I personally hate it and would never use it, but it's not my kid.

[morphinae.livejournal.com]

Love it. Name her what you want. If he's not involved while it's easy, It's a distinct possibility that he won't be the one staying up with her till 4 am. I think it's ok to take liberties with her name :)

Good luck, hun :)

[bambiblake007.livejournal.com]

i say name her wat you want. if he's not taking it seriously (telling you his name choices are awesome and yours is lame is kinda immature imo)

i looove Lorelai (tho Lorelei is pretty too) but i had a siberian husky i named that and so i don't think it'll be on my list of potential names for a daughter anytime ;-)

Lorelei Rowan maybe?

[requiem-morrow.livejournal.com]

Love the name; tell dad he can name the one he births; suggestions:

Lorelei Ailish
Lorelei Adair
Lorelei Aine
Lorelei Alana
Lorelei Annora
Lorelei Aoife
Lorelei Brenna
Lorelei Breda
Lorelei Clare/Clair
Lorelei Dara
Lorelei Delaney
Lorelei Hanorah
Lorelei Liadan
Lorelei Lennan
Lorelei Roslea
Lorelei Rowan

[deadgirlzsoul.livejournal.com]

I really like those combinations, thanks!

[bloomingtulip.livejournal.com]

I love it. And if I was in your situation, I would name her whatever I want. Her name is not going to impact whether he decides to be involved and I would hate to "settle" for a name and then regret it later.

Lorelei Brenna
Lorelei Bridget
Lorelei Darcy
Lorelei Eileen
Lorelei Kathleen
Lorelei Moira

[sweetest-asylum.livejournal.com]

i love all your suggestions!

[sayfray.livejournal.com]

I love the name Lorelei and if the dad isn't very involved in your pregnancy and probably won't be around much later, then you should name your baby what you want. You will be the one waking up with her at 3am to feed her and change her and raise her. He doesn't get a say unless he is there and is involved. Sure a man can have a change of heart anytime but don't throw out a name that you love because half of her genes doesn't like it and maybe he'll be there for her later.

I love Lorelei Madigan btw.

[quinnthevixen.livejournal.com]

Personally, I love the name!

[quinnthevixen.livejournal.com]

p.s. I think a one-syllable name would sound really nice with Lorelei.

[kitchen-poet.livejournal.com]

What about Lorelei Maeve? Or Loreli Aoife? I also kind of like Lorelei Claire.

[duckduckcaboose.livejournal.com]

I think Lorelei is nice, just not my style. I have to concur with everyone else: if the father's not involved with the pregnancy, he's out of the naming process too.

Some potential middles that haven't been mentioned (I think):
Catriona
Ciara/Kiera
Fiona
Maeve
Maire/Mairin
Patricia

[pleasure-past.livejournal.com]

You don't have to consider his opinion if he's not going to be involved (though it might be a good idea to let him help anyway, just so he doesn't feel like he's being pushed out of her life), but... I would not recommend Lorelei. I guess I just don't see the appeal in naming your daughter after a monster that seduced men into (essentially) drowning themselves...?

If you do name her Lorelei, I would go with something common for the middle name. Lorelei Grace is pretty.

[pleasure-past.livejournal.com]

...Lorelei Grace is pretty.

Though a little bit contradictory, in light of my previous paragraph. Maybe Lorelei Erin?

[lilacmermaid.livejournal.com]

I LOVE Lorelei! I'm especially glad you're spelling it that way. I hate how it looks with an A.

I think these sound good:

Lorelei Grace
Lorelei Fiona
Lorelei Colleen

[frost.livejournal.com]

If the dad hasn't been around and/or isn't going to be, I wouldn't take his opinion into account.
Personally, I hate the name.

[pinkysmith.livejournal.com]

i love lorelei.
i like lorelei madigan as a combo.
i probably wouldn't put too much stock in daddy's opinion.

[duck-deluxe.livejournal.com]

i absolutely LOVE Lorelei. My husband does too, the only thing stopping us is that we have a Norah and a Lucy and it sort of reminds me of a bastardized mushing together of the two names.

and absolutely NO to the dad having any say in the naming.

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

1) Nope.

2) Lorelai is already such a long name. I'd go with a one- or two-syllable mn if I were you (so only Grace would work out of the names you listed).

3) I like it, but Gilmore Girls kinda ruined it for me. I absolutely hate the nn Rory.