yeah no... sad thing to be changing your sons' middle names because tour husband makes fun of them... Not going to go into the whole 'it'll scar the child if you change the names!' because I doubt but the reasons you're going to change them is pretty lame. The kids had the names before your hubby and they are family names. I understand changing a child's names sometimes but because someone thinks the name is 'funny' and makes fun of them? Your husband needs a smack... that or a serious course in respect. Unless your kid'0s middle name is Asswipe or something equally along those lines he has no business bashing the names or making you feel embarrassed about them.
He's Elijah Rafe Bodien. I was considering Elijah Henry or Elijah Henry Rafe. Henry being one of my husband's family names. My son doesn't know his middle names so it wouldn't scar him or upset him. I still want to change his last name no matter what, simply because I would like everyone in our family to share the last name, he doesn't know my husband isn't his father and I'd like to keep that as long as possible and make sure even when he does find out, he knows it doesn't matter, cause besides being a bit of a jackass, he is a great father.
like I said, I don't know your kids' ages and I don't mind name changing too much (depending on the age etc) and I truly doubt there's much scarring on these things but the reasons you're doing it are lame and I don't want to say anything on his parenting since you yourself described him as a jackass but the thing I think is sad is that you're changing the names because and only because he makes fun of the names. I bet if he didn't you'd not change the names right? sooo that should tell you something.
I think the name Elijah Rafe Bodien is fine, I mean I don't like the name Bodien myself but it's not Elijah Rafe Asswipe... then I'd say 'go change it... now... for the well being of the child's sanity and high school years' I know these are YOUR kids and it's YOUR decision but the thing is that at the moment your decision is because their 'good father' makes fun of the names...
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Date: 2009-12-05 05:20 am (UTC)I think the name Elijah Rafe Bodien is fine, I mean I don't like the name Bodien myself but it's not Elijah Rafe Asswipe... then I'd say 'go change it... now... for the well being of the child's sanity and high school years' I know these are YOUR kids and it's YOUR decision but the thing is that at the moment your decision is because their 'good father' makes fun of the names...