Baby Names

Those are really great ideas and I wish I could do that, but my mom and I are really close and I tend to tell her everything. I can't help it! If I can wait til she's born, I will.

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My father has a very uncommon name and any time I mention a name, he dislikes it and insists I never name my kid that name. And like you, I never have very outlandish name choices.

I think your mother would get used to it and just concentrate on being a grandma.

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FWIW, I think Lucille is pretty and feminine. It was my grandma's name, too, and there is nothing unusual or stupid about "Lucy" for short, if you wanted that.

But this is why my husband and I do NOT share our name ideas with anyone until it's on the birth certificate. We did kind of "feel around" with family for what names to avoid, like my dad's aunt who committed suicide 60 years ago or something, we decided not to use that name. But when we did decide, no one knew until Delivery Day.

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Has anyone ever had a family member refuse to call a baby by the name you gave him/her?

Yes.

Did they eventually get used to it?
No. To this day they refuse to acknowledge the name I chose. They call my child something else.

I waited til after birth to reveal the name thinking it would be better. Thinking they would have to just deal, that nobody could turn their noses up then. That surely they'd realize that's my baby's name, and deal with it. Seeing how opposite things turned out, I now regret holding off revealing the name til birth.

I say pick something you are absolutely sure on, love above all others, and tell whoever matters, BEFORE your baby is born, what the name is and that you aren't budging on the name, regardless of what their opinions are. That he/she is your baby, so it's your choice.
Knowing what name you've chosen at least a month before hand, will give people time to get used to it before your child is born. It will take the baby from just being a yet as known, anonymous fetus inside of you, to an actual person, with a name that they can associate with him/her.

The sooner they have a name to associate with your baby, making it more of an actual person to them, the sooner they'll become adjusted to it and once they see your child knowing it's name already, and hear you calling your child that name, it wont seem so off.

Otherwise, having no name to associate with the baby til it's born, they will look at your new baby as still a blank canvas that if they don't like your name choice they will still think another name would be better and instead of sharing in the joy of birth, they will be as critical as ever and voicing it rudely.

That's my two cents.

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just out of curiosity... what's the name your family refuses to call him/her by?

and I also agree with telling the family ahead of time, that way everyone has a chance to get their bearings and get used to the name. :)

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chirpygirly.livejournal.com

Hi.

You probably will dislike the name I chose for my second child. You quite likely will think it is ugly, stupid, and that it's no wonder the in-laws have refused to recognize it.

Alot of things that are new, to those it's new to, at first, it can seem unpleasant. Some new things need to be tried more than once, to get a real full feel for them. I think that's where the phrase "an acquired taste" may have come from. Some people in my family upon first hearing the name didn't know how to take it. But the more they heard it, the more they rolled it around their tongue, the more they realized it really isn't a bad name. It's just different. Not necessarily their taste, but not horrible. Everyone has their own tastes. That's what makes us individuals. There are some doozies for names out that there people name their kids. So far, the in-laws are the only ones that to my face have been negative about it. By others, from all walks of life, I've received positive feed-back. I've even been told it's a beautiful name. So I have peace about it.

It's a name I created from the biblical name Adonijah, which is pronounced "Add-oh-nye-uh".
I didn't know that at the time, wasn't exactly a scholar in whatever language it originally is of. I thought it was pronounced "Uh-dawn-uh-jah". Which I wasn't really a fan of. I wanted to see if I could create something I liked better. So, anyway, me and my preference for names without any repeating letters, came up with Adunijeh, pronounced "Uh-done-uh-jay" influenced from my family surname and a trait of my homeland.

That was years ago. I recently adjusted it to "A(as in add)-done-uh-jay", for my son. The full version of a first name, especially a long one isn't always used as much as a nick name off of it is. I intended to use one of two nick names more, thereby keeping with the name I created and loved, but hoping to lessen it's full impact on more traditional people. I came up with Adun, or Jeh(pronounced Jay) I asked my husband which nick name he wanted to use. I wanted to use Jeh(Jay) he wanted to use Adun. Since he was agreeing to the use of a name I created, I decided I'd agree to use Adun for the nick name.

I felt confident going with the nick name we'd mostly have used, Adun (similar to the "A-done" sound when saying his full name, but said more pressed together, so it sounds closer to Add-in, as in the last part of the name Aladdin.) To the father and I, it's like an in-between of Adam and Aidan, just different, uncommon, but acceptable.

In our opinion, there are far worse names out there. I have siblings with foreign names that to me sound more weird, and they never had any problems with them growing up. I had hoped the in-laws would give the name a chance. Unfortunately, they deemed it not just ugly but evil because of the religious connotations, Adonijah having done 'evil', thus though Adunijeh isn't the same name, it's too similar to it, to not somehow also carry the evil connotation.

So, they call my son the name my husband and I had chosen for 2 months of pregnancy only: Jacob. The name I found out is the most popular boys name. :( I grew up with a very popular name too. I hated it. Didn't want to do that to my kid. I wanted him to have his own identity, knowing no one else had his name. I thought it would help make him feel more special. Now he will be one of many Jacobs.

Sorry this was so long. I just feel it comes across better with more details.

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I do not dislike it, nor do I think it's ugly or stupid! I think your in-law's are crazy for disrespecting you like that and you have every right to call them out on it.

The thing is, this is YOUR child. YOU are naming him what you wish to, and it is no one's decision but your own and your husbands.

What they are choosing to do is disrespect you, your husband, your child, your knowledge, and are being very rude and pretty much overbearing.

If I were you, I would sit down and talk with them. Chances are it won't be a civil discussion and you have to be prepared for that. You need to get your point and name across. If they flat out refuse to call your son by his name, you flat out refuse to let them see him. It sounds harsh, but it will be a harsh realization for them. Either that or start calling all of them by other names and see how they like it.

Just be strong and stand your ground. It's ridiculous you're having to go through all this just to name your baby. I had a little gruff from my family over the name we have chosen for our son, but they're already used to it, so I don't hear it anymore.

♥ GOOD LUCK!

if you ever wanna talk, just message me, I'll give you my info :)

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Lucille? I'd get her a list of all the crappy names you see and maybe you'll persuade her that your classic, feminine, non-trendy name isn't so bad after all.

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well, i've surely gotten made fun of and asked if i was serious. but eventually it just grows on them and they get used to it. i'll admit, when my sister named my nephew Connor, i was thinking she was nuts, but the name totally fits him now and it's absolutely adorable. same thing with my boy, he's due march 1, but i'm naming him Archer. my family thinks i'm a little nutty, but like i said, it's growing on them!

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I think Archer is a cute name!

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thank you!!

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As a teacher, Lucille will be made fun of, but Luci/ Lucy will not.

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soul-inside.livejournal.com

As a teacher myself, I would say it's the other way around- with a very low probability anyway.

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I have had more than one Lucille and they get teased.. Lucy doesn't get a second look.

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My point to my mother is, everyone gets teased because of their name. She would go by Lucy anyway. My name is Allison and for about 10 years of my life I was Alice in Wonderland. It's going to happen to everyone.

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hmm funny I've never been teased about my name.

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meh, well most everyone anyway. You are one of the lucky few I guess. I dunno.

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queen-mab.livejournal.com

... How does one get teased for having that name? I can't think of any way anyone can twist that.

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Lucillleeeeeeeee...HAHAHAHAHA.. That is such a dorky name. Luciiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiileeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee... hahaha.. what a wierd name.. that's an old lady name. Luciiiiiiiiiileeeeeeeeeeeee.

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Oh my god, I would like to know who decides which names are dorky and which are not. Ugh, kids.

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I like the name Lucille. I have a friend with that name, and i can't think of a time when her name's ever been made fun of.
I'm having a similar problem as you, my family don't like the names i'm thinking of, and we're all close. but i've just stopped even mentioning it to them, even though i really want to. Because i'm really excited about chosing names, and they keep ruining it for me. Also, if you decide to go with one of the names that they hate, it might make it slightly awkward later on knowing that your family hate your child's name.

someone in my family named their daughter Tilly. and didn't tell us until she was born (not madilda) And at first everyone hated it, but when we saw her, it completely suited her, and everyone warmed up to it.

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My mom hates my daughter's middle name (Marilyn) and she's told me more than once that she'll never use it. Which is fine because, well, it's her middle name.

I'm not sure what would have happened if I gave her a first name that she hated. I'm sure she would have gotten over it. Most kids grow to fit their names anyway, how ever peculiar/old fashioned/whatever.

Personally, I wouldn't tell her the name you've chosen until after the baby is born. That way she can't object and once the baby is here and named, she probably won't say anything negative about the name of her precious newborn grandchild.

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celestinenox

Wow. Lucille is kind of an old fashioned name, I guess, but it's not a bad name at all, and if you call her Lucy, then what's to make fun of? Sounds like your mom is still bruised over her own name (which, if she hates it that much, why doesn't she get it elgally changed to something she likes better?), and is taking it out on you and your baby (I mean, she's probably convincing herself she's trying to look after her granddaughter, and maybe that's part of it, but if they were all, I can't see the problem she could have with Lucille).

There are so many worse names out there. I could name a handful off the top of my head, I see them so much in my job (and I've been accused of being racist, of pulling out urban legend names to further my racist agenda, but no seriously those are the things people name their kids). Probably the "best" one I've seen is Le-a, pronounced "Ladasha." ::headdesk::

So... yeah. There are worse, just let your mom know that. I think if you can find enough really out there names that are real names (celebrities' kids names are a good source), she just might see how Lucille isn't so bad.

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Yah i've heard of the Le-a story. It was a story circling the internet for a while. If it was ever try, it's crazy.

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celestinenox

Yeah, Le-a was actually in our NICU not long ago.

The "Orangejello" and "Lemonjello" twins are supposed to be an urban legend too, but actual twins named that have been spotted at our hospital. I don't know if people are learning about these names and thinking they're so out there they can't believe someone would actually named their kid that, or if the names actually start out as completely false urban legends, but people hear them and think they're great names and make them real. I guess maybe both at different times.

I'll swear by any god you want that any name I'll tell will be a name either I've seen myself, or that's been seen by my fellow birth certificate clerk or one of the nursery nurses. I swear I don't make this stuff up.

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LOL I believe you trust me. I work at a call center and call about 300 people every 5 hours and some of the names I come across just astound me. In fact, I think I'm going to post some of them on here....hehehe

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celestinenox

:D You should.

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so-there.livejournal.com

honestly, just ell her your choices, pretend you haven't narrowed it down, then pick one after the baby's born, and tell her what it is after it's on the birth record. I think Lucille if a fine name, and Lucy is cute and not old-ladyish at all.

I'm lucky in that I have 4 kids already, so nobody's gonna give me their opinions anymore. they just wait for it and keep their mouth shut. lol.

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I have a friend who recently named their daughter Noa and her mother hated it all while she was pregnant (said it was a boy's name). Her husband is Israeli and they wanted a nod to his culture plus they just loved the name. Her mom swore she would call her by her middle name (Jacqueline) but so far I think she's actually been ok with calling her Noa.

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