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[morningapproach.livejournal.com]

What do you do if you have had your heart set on a name for YEARS (since before you met your SO) and then your SO tells you that he doesn't like that name combo, and for no particular reason that he can name?

I LOVE the names Madeline Rose, or Mersea Rose (pronounced either Mer-say-ah or Mercy, since it was a made up name from my childhood). My SO, on the other hand, does not like them, and for no discernible reason.  He just says that he doesn't like them a whole lot. 

He has his heart set on naming a child after himself (so the child's name would be Boy Ryan Lastname) and after his father (Boy Patrick Lastname). Unfortunately I dislike the concept of naming children after your parents or any relatives.

Have you had a situation like that? How did you handle it?

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[n0onz.livejournal.com]

Just a random comment :)
I love your writing!
All the best <3
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[morningapproach.livejournal.com]

No, not pregnant now, likely waiting until mid 2010 to start TTC :) So we do have time to wait.

[aquilinum.livejournal.com]

No child deserves a name that one of their parents hates. That's what veto power is all about! But it's only fair that for every name you strike down, you have to suggest one you honestly love in its place.

He doesn't like Madeline or Mersea? Fine. Don't blame him. But he has to pick two girls' names he likes. If you then veto both of his, you'll need to pick two more, and so on and on.


For the couples who aren't approaching this with the usual, slightly more open-ended mindset of "I'll make a list and you make a list and we'll see where we meet" — if you both have very strong notions already — veto power may be the only way you agree in the end.

[intothefireugo.livejournal.com]

I was kind of in the same boat. I say both of you drop your favs (since the other person doesn't like them) and start from scratch.
I agree with the commenter who said no child deserves a name one of his parents hates. I'm sure there's a name out there both of you like.

[hoochiehoops.livejournal.com]

I'd leave the guy before making my child a Jr.
Thankfully my BD doesn't want a junior.

[sarahness.livejournal.com]

BOY? I thought Guy was bad enough....
No offense, it's just such an odd thing to name your boy Boy.
How about Girl for a girl? Heh...

I basically had to give up all of my favorite names when naming our daughter (he hated them all :[). We agreed on Amelia, which I now fully adore and wouldn't change for anything. I think you both will have to compromise when it comes to naming your children. And hopefully you'll end up adoring the name that you BOTH agree on. :)

[morningapproach.livejournal.com]

LOL, we won't name our children Boy or Girl, we just have no idea what the first name will be, I put that in as a placeholder!

We like traditional names, so we are trying to work on compromises :)

[snoglobel.livejournal.com]

Haha, ok - Boy as a place holder is much better. Boy as a name just made me think of Boy George

[morningapproach.livejournal.com]

ugh, no way!! LOL.

[sarahness.livejournal.com]

oh, haha, i'm stupid. i blame pregnancy.

[tunknut.livejournal.com]

Honestly, it's not really fair of you to suggest two names to your SO and expect that he'll like one of them. Come up with a longer list of names you like. You may not get to use your absolute favorite name, but it's better to use a name both of you actually like - there's got to be one out there.

[uberta.livejournal.com]

My husband didn't like the name Tina, the name of my childhood best friend. Our oldest is Benita, after her uncle, and Nita is the nickname. Nita is Tina with letters reversed. I win!

[http://users.livejournal.com/--r0mance/]

Madeline Rose is nice,
But Mersea Rose makes me think of MRSA which is scary,
is your SO in the medical field maybe thats what he relates it to also.

[rainylondonight.livejournal.com]

Yes for this. But I'm a RN so maybe it's more recognisable.

[http://users.livejournal.com/--r0mance/]

Yeah Im an Emt, lol.

[kilobites.livejournal.com]

Well, we've definitely had to do the list thing, coming up with ones we each like and then seeing where we can meet in the middle. We get veto power, too, because it wouldn't be fair for a kid to be named something that the other parent hated, even if they didn't have a good reason for hating it. If he doesn't like your names, though, he shouldn't just be able to say, "No I don't like it" and then leave it up to you. At that point, he should be suggesting some names as well, and then you can have the power to say yes or no on those, and then it goes back to you, and so on. That way each person gets suggestions and input, and nobody feels like they have to be fully responsible or use a name they hate.

Maybe just starting from scratch? If you both hate each other's favorite names, that might be necessary.

My partner has a naming tradition in his family that I'm not wild about (the first born son has the father's name as their middle name) but we've compromised around it, and said that if he gets the middle name after him, then I get to choose the first name.

[envyed.livejournal.com]

I had my heart set on naming my first born son Remington waaay before I ever met my SO. But, he didn't like it =\ So I chose Eli & he chose Walker for the middle name & we're both happy =]

[pyrokitten77.livejournal.com]

Tell him to kiss your butt and get over it. You're the one having the child. :P