Baby Raymo

[lifehitmeoneday.livejournal.com]

Thank you for all of your help with helping me name my baby.

Sadly, she was born at 15.5 weeks, stillborn.

We were lost. At the time, they couldnt figure out gender and we didnt have any gender nuetral names we liked. We now know that baby was a girl.

Because of not knowing at the time of birth, we simply named her Wolverine Raymo. Her nickname and her last name.

I have caught a lot of flack for that. Apparently I didnt take it seriously. Trust me, every ounce of my being takes it seriously. But she was always baby Wolverine and we kept it. Why randomly pick out a name just to put on a death certificate.

Opinions?

Comments

[adamantplatypus.livejournal.com]

I say whatever you decide is best for you is what you should do. *hugs* I'm sorry for your loss.

[aqualectra.livejournal.com]

sorry for your loss. and really.. f*ck what people say. it sounds like it was her name. whatever helps you. I also kinda like Wolverine! xxs

[lovetokate.livejournal.com]

Whatever means and makes the most sense to you is what you should call her. I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss. :/

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

:( I'm so sorry for your loss. If Wolverine was your nickname for her, and it's the name that actually meant something to you, why not put that name on the certificate? I can't believe people would criticize you for it... how could you not be taking it seriously? There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you did.

[jordle.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry you lost your little girl. I don't think anyone has any right to tell you that you aren't taking it seriously. In fact the thought of it makes me pretty bloody angry. If you knew her as Wolverine and you want to put that on her death certificate then you do it. That honors her more than, as you said, picking a random name.

[sevensevenfour.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. I know that must have been a hard thing to go through. I think the most appropriate name for her would've been the name most associated with her. I definitely agree that picking a random name wouldn't have meant as much and it certainly wouldn't have meant you took it more seriously if you had. If she was always baby Wolverine to you, she should always be baby Wolverine. I don't think it's right for anyone to criticize you for your decision on this.

[lovablemess.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry that you've caught flack for choosing such a name for your own child. How anyone could criticize your name choice after such a traumatic and terrible event is beyond me. Take care of yourself.

[sophie-louise89.livejournal.com]

If Wolverine was what you referred to her as, then it's a perfect name for her, and I agree, it would be stupid to attach some meaningless name to her just so it would be acceptable to everyone else. It's absolutely none of their business.

Im extremely sorry for your loss. xo

[murderprotocol.livejournal.com]

I agree with everyone who's already posted. If that's what you called her, then by all means, call her that.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. xox

[amspeck-myworld.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you're dealing with people who can't be sensitive to your family's needs at this time - I think it's completely insenstive for people to give you flak on a name in this situation :( *hugs*

[orbg.livejournal.com]

I'm so, so sorry. I can't imagine how painful this is for you. I think you were right to name her what you did, and if it felt right to you, boo to everyone else!

[krosp.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry for your loss, and I am also sorry that people are not respecting your decision. I can fully understand why you named her Wolverine - I gather from what you have said that you did plan to give her another name, but since you hadn't done that yet, it makes perfect sense why you would give her her nickname rather than choose a random name that never actually belonged to her.

[azelmaroark.livejournal.com]

You aren't taking it seriously? What about the people who, instead of offering comfort, are criticizing something so totally not-their-business like the name you chose?

I'm very sorry for your loss and agree with everyone above that you have every right to name her what you wish, and your choice makes sense to me.

[nothingtolose19.livejournal.com]

I'm just going to basically repeat what everyone else said:

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I agree about the nickname, it makes complete sense. People should learn to butt out.

Again, so sorry for your loss :(

[perfectcherry.livejournal.com]

First of all, let me offer my condolences; I'm very sorry for your loss.

You knew her by that name, so I think you decision was perfectly justified. If you and your partner are satisfied with the name you gave your baby, don't listen to anyone else's criticism; they're being ridiculous, anyway, and it's cruel to say you aren't taking it seriously when you're obviously grieving right now - I don't know what they think gives them the right.

[blueblackautumn.livejournal.com]

If it's something that you called her, for the entire time you were pregnant, it's appropriate.

However, Wolverine is surprising, and definitely a unique name. But that was her name!

Also, sorry to hear about your loss. It's definitely a tough time in a couples life..... My thoughts are with you.

[colliemommie.livejournal.com]

I have a 14 week, in utero baby Predator. Your baby was your little Wolverine, that's the relationship you built with her, and that's her name.

So sorry for your loss.

[lifehitmeoneday.livejournal.com]

Random.

But the baby I had miscarried before Baby Wolverine was called "Baby Predator". I think its cute.

[colliemommie.livejournal.com]

After seeing those ultrasound pictures, there was nothing else to call it. The resemblence is really funny.

[americandiva.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss. If you called her Wolverine, then that is prefer for her...without a doubt

[girlsteve.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you picked a beautiful name x

[ifancylust.livejournal.com]

aw. i'm sorry. :(
i think it's great that you gave her the nickname rather than thinking up another name. i hope things get better. <3

[mrsduryee.livejournal.com]

How brave of you to ask opinions. :) I totally agree with you to go with the nn. That is the place you were with your little one - deciding on a name and calling "it" (at the time) Wolverine. Your statement, "But she was always baby Wolverine and we kept it. Why randomly pick out a name just to put it on a death certificate" sums it up for me.

Also, what an interesting nn! At least it wasn't Cletus (the fetus)...

I am sorry for your loss.

[seksimaggie.livejournal.com]

I can't imagine that a person with a working mind could experience that and not take it seriously. I wouldn't normally think that Wolverine was a name, much less a girl's name, but in this special circumstance, if it meant something to you and helped you to cope with what happened, I think it's perfectly acceptable. No one should mock you for it, that's disgustingly insensitive in my opinion. And I am so sorry for your loss.

[poespretty.livejournal.com]

I am also going to echo what others have said. That is who she was to you. If I'd been in your position at that gestation, my daughter would have been Broccoli.

anyone who would dare say anything like that you has no heart. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know there are probably no words that could bring much comfort right now so I'll just send my thoughts for you.

[cube1of6.livejournal.com]

f*ck what other people say! i'm 22w pregnant now with a boy..i know that for sure. but i still haven't picked out a name. I've called "it" Baby Baseball from day 1 and if something happened, i don't know that i'd want to pick a random name out of a book for a piece of paper either!