In response to an earlier post...

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

Aside from naming babies after family members or close friends whose passed on, I can't imagine saying this WILL be my child's name no matter what. For instance, if you are dead set on the name James, and your SO's last name is James, you might have a problem. Or if you are dead set on the name Mary, but your SO was abused by a Mary and so on.

As much as I love talking and thinking about baby names, I know that it is going to be a whole different story when I am pregnant and discussing names with my SO (and probably to a much lesser extent, my family). I am not saying is is bad to really love certain names and be "set" on a few I am just wondering about the practicality and process of actually naming your child that name.

I am curious if anyone on this blog picked a name as a child or teen, stuck with it through adulthood and pregnancy and named their child against their partner's will, as several people stated they would in response to a post from a few days ago.

Comments

[mimiwrites.livejournal.com]

I picked the name Thomas Michael as a kid, it's a family name. Thomas Michael is due next month. I would be willing to compromise on a different first name if my boy hated it, but I would have used Thomas and/or Michael as a middle name whether he liked it or not.

[classiestkid.livejournal.com]

it's a tradition in my fiance's family to name the first born son after his father and so fourth, but alternating middle names so there are no Jr's, meaning that our first born son is destined to be Ronald Thomas, and I absolutely hate it, I don't know what to do, it really means a lot to him.

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

It was the same deal with my boyfriend's family. His father and all of the first borns were George, with alternating middle names that started with C. His mom refused to have two Georges in the house, but also hated the two middle name options. My BF ended up with the name George Christoper, and goes by Chris. See if your SO is flexible about the middle name and think of names that start with T that you like. You could always name the child Ronald Thomas (name you like) and call him by the second middle name.

[classiestkid.livejournal.com]

hmm, that is true, I'm not even a huge fan of Thomas, ugh.
My fiance is Ronald Lee(and his dad is Ronald Thomas), which I like better, but it needs to alternate, apparently.

[istytehcrawk.livejournal.com]

Ronald Lee is my dad's name, heh.

[samaside.livejournal.com]

I'd never go along with a family tradition like that. I mean, it's nice and all but I just don't like them. I'm okay with my dad's family tradition of the firstborn son's middle name being his father's name. But I just can't buy into that whole same first name thing. :-/

[lilacmermaid.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I can see this becoming a problem for me. I'm not remotely close to having kids of my own yet, but in the last couple of years I came up with a list of names that I'm kind of desperate to use. It's already problematic enough that there are about 10 names on the list, and I'm clearly not going to have ten children, but the thought of there being any of them that I don't get to use makes me really sad.

I feel like I could probably compromise on the boy half of my list, but I am super attached to all of the girl names.

[nothingbuthp.livejournal.com]

Everything you said is what I was thinking!

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

I don't really get it, either. I can't imagine forcing my significant other to use a name that he hated. It's completely unfair. If I don't get to use a name I love, I'll just use it on a character, a sim, or a cat. I already plan to name a future cat Ptolemy. :D

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

I agree. I really don't understand the "I push it out, I name it" mentality.

[dustkitty.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I think that belongs more in a situation where you don't care who put it there for you to push out.

My SO and I are both foregoing some of the names we love in order to compromise. It's worth it.

[aballard23.livejournal.com]

Well, in all honesty since the father can just up and walk away at any time and leave the mother with the baby, it makes sense.

I told my boyfriend that I got to name our kids, but he disagreed and we bickered a bit about it (all in good fun, of course).

But since we agree on names, it isn't that big of a hassle. If my SO didn't agree, I'd find common ground, but I would NOT use a name I hated on my own offspring, since I will be the one who has to carry it in my body (which is stressful) and then pushes it out. *shrug*

[so-there.livejournal.com]

I picked names in my late teens and stuck with them, used them on my first two kids.. but I would never name my kid something my husband hated.

[lolzabeth.livejournal.com]

My son was going to be William Alexandar in some shape or form for years. He was born last year and was named Theo William Alexandar. I told my fiance that both names had to be in there somewhere and luckily he liked them as long as neither was a first name.

[lneef.livejournal.com]

Yes. You're 100% right. To take it a step further, I can't even imagine spending the time and effort to come up with a detailed list of definites and favorites, not until you're doing it with someone you're talking about having kids with sooner or later... I think you're just setting yourself up for disappointment.

I had a list of favorites when I was around 12 or 13, but they were names I used in stories and such... by the time I was old enough to actually be seeing kids in my future, the list had become a vague unwritten collection of likes and preferences.

Which is a good thing, because when I got pregnant, we discovered very quickly we had very different tastes in names. It was hard for me letting go of names I loved for a month or two... I can't imagine letting go of names I was sure I'd name my child forever.

And I would absolutely not name my child something my husband hated. I wouldn't even push for something he was unsure of, as hard as that was at times. The whole time we were going through the process, we had as our mantra that it had to be a name we both LOVED, and that there were enough names in the world that we'd find it.

We did, about 18 hours after the baby was born... and this time around we're not even discussing it until we know a sex.

[http://users.livejournal.com/____tonightt/]

so what did you end up naming your child?

[lneef.livejournal.com]

Catherine Juliet.

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

That's funny, because I've noticed that it's mostly women pushing their favourite names on men, and the men end up not having much of a say in the matter. I guess it all comes down to experience.

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

I am not saying it is fine for either parent to "force" their name choices on the other. I think it is selfish both ways. There are no men on this blog (to my knowledge) so I was just addressing the question considering the baby_names following.

[sarahness.livejournal.com]

My brother is Omer Bill III. I asked my mom why she agreed to that horrible name, and she said she didn't mind the name and my dad really wanted it. My brother is DEAD SET on having Omer Bill IV, but so far I don't think the fiancee agrees.