Discarding names

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

Today I had an argument with my SO over "peculiar" baby names.
We were discussing the names that have been given to babies in a community we both are part of, and specifically we came across the name Sibilla (italian for Sybil).

He doesn't know, but it's one of the girl names I've been toying with recently, I don't have any particular attachment to it, but it certainly a name that holds potential to me. Instead, before I even said anything, he started on a rant about how the name is too "unique" and rare and that the kid will be constantly teased because of it. Of course, I replied everyone gets teased for whatever reason, and I'd rather teach my child how to stand out proudly for him/herself rather than bail and just name him/her something "normal" just so he/she peacefully goes with the flow. Not counting that kids in the next generations will already be accostumed to "weird" names to the point that maybe Maria one day will be frowned upon.

But he wouldn't have it. He was teased in school because of his last name, which has really nothing wrong to it, it's kind of common too, it just contains a word that translates into "snore" in italian (but also into "russian", for that matter).

So now I'm kind of bummed because I know with his kind of reasoning, if we were to name a child together, I wouldn't have a chance of naming my kid something that has personality, like a name that is rare or is a bit out there.

Did you guys ever had to give up names like this to accomodate your partner?
If so, what were those names?
Let's share the misery lol

Comments

[lneef.livejournal.com]

Yep. There was one girl's name I was set on my entire pregnancy first time around and I truly felt it was hers. There were all sorts of signs and signals (to me anyway) that it WAS for her.

And while he didn't hate it, he just didn't feel it like I did, and it absolutely broke my heart. The morning after she was born he said we could name he that if it would make me happy, and I said no because she needed to have a name we both felt right about.

We picked Catherine together shortly after that. And that's her name now (though I still sometimes wonder if the other name would have been more right... who knows, it doesn't matter). But I fear this all happening over again as soon as we start working on names for the one we're currently cooking.

It sucks, having to compromise on things you feel so strongly about, but the baby deserves a name both parents love. Even if there are very few of those. We have totally different tastes in names and it is HARD, but there are a lot of names out there and it has to be done.

[biancasablancas.livejournal.com]

now i'm curious :P
what was the name?

[anapology.livejournal.com]

heres to hoping you only have one son.. rest daughters!
I just couldn't use a name I didn't love.. guess you have to compromise though. :-)

[anapology.livejournal.com]

What about Sybella?
It seems more normal somehow, with the 'bella' ending.
I think it's very pretty.. one of my best friends middle name & she came to stay with me this weekend :-D

Hmm no, my boyfriend loves my favourite names for girls.. but is dead set on naming hypothetical first son Ian, which is just not happening.

[cherrysorbet.livejournal.com]

Actually, I'm pretty lucky that my SO loves every name I've suggested... apart from Stephanie which is a name I really love but he really hates.

[bobinwales.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend hates all my favourite names [Theodore, Imogen, Edward] except Gethin. Which he doesn't love, but we can work on that!
He finally told me what names he likes, and he told me Sara, Erin & James. I knid of like Erin, have completly gone off Sara, & love James, but it's my brothers name, so I don't know if I want to use it!

[waitingonsunday.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend is set on naming his first son Anthony Lee, after his deceased father. I don't mind the Lee part, but for some reason, I've never liked Anthony. Since it's to honor his father, or more specifically, since it's to honor his DEAD father, I don't see refusing him that, and the name has actually grown on me considerably. I did, however, talk him out of wanting to tack on a "Jr." He's not a junior, he's a namesake!

Plus, he said that if we do have children and we have more than one (or the first one's a girl), I get naming rights.

Very premature discussion, in our case, but still interesting to speculate on.

[gidget1012.livejournal.com]

Audrey is the only girl name that my husband likes. I've always like the name Rebecca but he shot that down pretty quick. We're still undecided on boy names but we have similar taste there.