Okay, I know we usually do first names here, but let's talk last names. I just can't decide on a last name! My maiden name is Brown. My married name is Hand. Spillane is my mother's maiden name. I was engaged a long time, had a child before marriage, and all that time I thought I would hyphenate. About 6 mo. before my wedding I finally decide to take Hand as my last name (everyone telling me what a horrible combo it is finally got to me) and either drop Brown or make it a second middle name. Well, here I am two years after my wedding and I still haven't changed my name. This is largely in part because I just can't choose.
I have various reasons for (dis)liking each name. Frankly, I don't care for either Brown or Hand. It wouldn't be as hard to choose if one stood out from the other (hmm.. color, body part? body part, color?). Hand does have going for it that it's not anywhere near as common as Brown. Also, my husband can trace his lineage on the Hand side back to the Mayflower. Me, eh, I can trace my Brown lineage back to West Virginia early 1900s. ;) I'm a bit attached to Brown simply because it's always been my name. On hyphenating-- my daughter's name was hyphenated. I could change it but she is deceased and I don't feel right changing her last name posthumously. I always wanted to share it with her and my children, so I was set on hyphenating for a long time. My biggest reason for wanting Hand is that I want to share a name with my family and my husband doesn't want to change his name (he's flexible on what we name our children, though). Spillane-- my mother changed her name back to Spillane when I was three. I've never lived with my father and have never been close to him. I've wanted to incorporate Spillane into my name for a long time and wish I'd changed it when I was 18 or younger. I was talking to my mom the other day and apparently even at 3 I wanted to change it when she did. I'm worried that all three would be too clunky, worry my dad or brother might be offended if I drop Brown. I wish my husband would take Spillane with me, but he's pretty set on staying a Hand. Anywho, vote away! :)
*ETA*-- A lot of you are suggesting which name to use based on the book I wrote up there, but I also don't mind you telling me what you actually think of the names. ;)
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