starskye.livejournal.comHey everyone. I have a question related to names. I would like some advice and opionions!
What's going on is this- My fiance's daughter and I have the same first name. Obviously he had her years before he met me. Her and I have different middle names (and different middle initials). His kids are on his health insurance, so in other words sometimes things come in the mail addressed to his daughter, because it's in reference to her health insurance. This raises some questions for when we get married next year. Obviously his daughter and I would have the same name (first and last, different middle). When we first discussed marriage I offered to keep my maiden name to avoid confusion, even though this makes me a little upset, as I am a tad traditional. He did not like this idea at all and he wants me to take his name, as I do. He said he did not care whether his daughter and I had the same name, so I started not caring much. But the more I got to thinking about it the more I wonder. When we are married I will go on his health insurance and all, so there would be two people with the same name....I just wonder if this will cause mix ups and become a hassle. His daughter has some health problems, so I would hate things like test results or medications to get mixed up or whatever, due to us having the same name. I would also hate to keep having to waste money on buying my own insurance plan and keeping everything seperate just because I am afraid of this. Maybe it's nothing to be afraid of? will the middle inital be enough to tell us apart? Maybe someone could offer some insight here? I know some mothers name their daughters after themselves. How big of a problem could this lead to?
The other idea I brought up which he is also fine with is me hyphentating my last name and his last name. I think this makes the most sense and it's what I would feel most comfortable with, I just have one question regarding this. If I hyphenate my last name and his last name, if we had a child, would their name have to be hyphenated too or could I just give the child his last name?
Sorry to have rambled, but these are the questions I need answers and opionions on-
- Would it be rude/disrespectful for me to take his last name and drop mine, therefore having the same name as his daughter (my instinct is yes, he insists no)
-Am I worrying too much about name issues in regards to health care/similar things? is the middle initial enough to differentiate us? am I only imagining things, as I'm sure lots of people in the world have the same name?
-if I hyphenated, would future children between us have to be hyphenated as well (I'm thinking they wouldn't but just making sure)
Thank You very much!