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[anapology.livejournal.com]

Has anyone had any problems with the issue of family names?

I have names on both my side & my boyfriends that should be used for boys names, Charles on mine and John on my boyfriends- but he prefers the gaelic version, Ian I'm being very selfish though, i dont mind Charles as a middle name so much but i can't stand John/Ian. Especially Ian & he wants to use it for the first name- (is obsessed with the idea)- i have an uncle named John who i dislike an awful lot, he was named after his brother who died as a baby- for those two reasons i dont think it's appropriate.
I know its hugely selfish but if I hate the names with a passion then I have to put my foot down! Right!? There should be compromise but he couldnt have picked worse names for me to agree too...I wouldnt make him agree to a name that he absolutely hates.

I'm thinking Ethan Alexander (Alexander is his brothers middle name so its sort of a family name & Ethan isnt popular in England...I'm hoping it wont catch on from America!)
Ethan Sebastian
Joshua ""
Lucas ""
He refuses all my names because i dont like his, wow we're stuck!

Comments

[politicking.livejournal.com]

if you don't like the name then put your foot down!!! seriously, because you do NOT want to name your child something that you don't like.

[viva-la-moo.livejournal.com]

yeah, both of you need to compromise somehow. neither of you should have to name your child something you really dislike. and i like the name Ethan Alexander.

[anjoganjo.livejournal.com]

I understand what you are going through. My sister when through the same thing with both of her kids. And now I am with my husband. Every male in his family has Joseph as a middle name. I have never liked the name Joseph. I don't want to have it even as a middle name. So I told him that the tradition has been carried on by his sisters and I am going with his first name as a middle name as a compromise.

[krazyhippie.livejournal.com]

My partner wants his grandfather's name somewhere on one of our children. I dislike the name (Jerome) but as long as it's a middle name, and I get a family name from my side as the middle name for the other child, then it seems fair to me. They're middle names so it won't matter all that much, and each of us gets to pass on a name that's important to us.

[morphinae.livejournal.com]

I sort of went through that with my boyfriend, we have a boys name picked out, but he really, really wanted the middle name to be after his grandfather, I happen to dislike the name myself, but it doesn't sound awful, and it's just a middle name afterall. But it's a compromise, I think he more or less settled for the first name, I can do the same for the middle :) Good luck!

[semi-sweet.livejournal.com]

I have the same problem. I also have to use John as a first name for a boy, because it's tradition. I'm guessing I'll get free reign over the middle name though, which is good.

John is such a common name, are there any other versions that you like? How about these:
Evan (Welsh form of John, very close to Ethan)
Ivan (russian)
Jack
Janos (polish form)
Johann
Jonas (lithuanian)
Giovanni (italian)
Sean/Shawn (irish)

[so-there.livejournal.com]

I just said flat out, the first names will be names NO ONE has, and we'll use family names as middle names. even if I don't like them much, they're just middle names so who cares?

[evelet.livejournal.com]

my partner and I just had a baby boy who we named Jude htinking that no one else will use that name. well, so far we have come across 2 other baby Judes!!! And also at least 3 Ethans. We live in Greenwich in south London and people seem to be quite experimental with names round here so i suppose it depends on where you live in teh UK but don't assume there are no Ethans!

[youngin1615.livejournal.com]

i was going to name my son maxwel ian robert. my dad is jon and for some reason his birth certificate was changed to ian so i was going to name my son that but his dad hated the two middle names so we just did maxwel robert.maybe if you spell jon like that it wont remind you of your uncle so much or try to find a compromise maybe with other family names maybe mix some letters