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[cxtxc.livejournal.com]

Isadora

WDYT? I saw it on a book today and really liked it.

If I ever used it, I would like to have a sib set -- Isolde and Isadora.

Comments

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

I second this. It's proven by psychological research that this has a negative effect on the child's sense of self, especially in twins.

Isadora is starting to grow on me, but I don't think I'll ever like Isolde.
In Italy a more common variant (although the name is not so common altogether) is Isidora (which in English would sound like Easy-dora)

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

I think they do it in order to underline the fact that they're related, specifically that they were born from the same parents, so that's a similarity they apparently want to echo. As for twins, the goal there would be to enhance the fact that they look alike, so therefore, they give names that sound similar. They just don't realize that the association between the kids should speak for itself, and that it's harmful to the kids to force an assumption of identity based on the relationship with their sibling. It's most often an obstacle in the process of acquiring a sense of self, which is connected to self-esteem, eventually.

[krosp.livejournal.com]

I totally agree - and also, I don't see why people name twins any differently from typical siblings. If you wouldn't name your newborn Philip if your three year old is Philippa, don't do it if they're born together. Even if they were identical twins and therefore much the same genetically, I would still tend to think of them as individual siblings that just happen to be the same age... rather than think of them as two little halves of each other or whatever

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

that's exactly the point on which developmental psychologists insist, when addressing the issue.

[cxtxc.livejournal.com]

Most people believe twins are connected in ways other siblings aren't. I'm sure parents giving them similar-sounding names is just to exaggerate that connection, but sometimes they want to be annoyingly cutesy.

[cxtxc.livejournal.com]

Well, acquiring a sense of self is an obstacle within itself.

Names are ID tags; they don't define who we are. I would say they are the least detrimental to our person than other factors.

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

Exactly because it is no easy task itself, complications can occurr. And names are part of them. Of course, they shouldn't define us (although parents already would like that, giving us a name because it "sounds fierce" or "sounds sweet" and so forth) and they're trivial compared to more complex life experiences, but if you think about it, our name is one of the first things that people start repeating to us since we come to the world.

A name also always vehicles meaning, not for the name meaning itself, but in the way parents use it, and it sometimes helps coaxing the siblings' personalities. Ever noticed how sibsets (especially of two) tend to grow to be opposites in various aspects of life? For instance, the eldest in not so good in school and the other one excels academically? What they're doing there is they're "polarizing" (as in "spreading out to the extremes of a continuum") because of the constant (subtle and oblivious) comparison to one other (coming from themselves or the social environment). Names that are similar to each other offer a common ground for comparison.

Not to mention, they're downright confusing to twins in their early years, and that's where most of the research is based and has proven results.

Sorry if this reply was too long!

[pixietangerine.livejournal.com]

agreed.
i like them both. i think isadora is prettier when said aloud, though. i have always liked isadora.
no matchy sibsets, though. my sister and i don't even have matching names, just the same first initial, and it always drove us crazy.

[bobinwales.livejournal.com]

I'm not a fan of the name Isadora
I like Isolde though

[fleckerbug.livejournal.com]

Like it, but do not care for the Is__d-Is_d sibset.

[turn-it-upp.livejournal.com]

i really like both of those names.

[babyeraserhead.livejournal.com]

I love it.

[kiwinerd536.livejournal.com]

reminds me of isadora duncan. love it as well.

[sandtree.livejournal.com]

They're fairly nice names, but they're way too matchy for siblings.

[bluekoala.livejournal.com]

Usually I'm all over the "Augh! Matchy!" train, but I think Isolde and Isadora would be awesome

[mystickiwi.livejournal.com]

Really don't like the matchy, and really don't like Isadora (its the -dora part I don't like, don't know why) I think Isolde is fairly pretty though