baby names, what else

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Okay, so I mentioned a few months ago that I was talking to FSIL about baby names and they liked the name Rosalind. My deceased daughter's name was Brenna Rose-- that's her full first name, not first and second. Anyway, many of you understood my discomfort and others of you pointed out that it's pronounced differently and I don't own the name and it wasn't her whole name anyway, etc. Anyway, you were all right, I don't own the name and it is pronounced differently, but it does make sense that it might make me uncomfortable. My main concern had been her having similar nicknames(like 'Rosie') to our daughter.. it would just be very hard on me and my fiance to constantly hear that (we all live close by each other and see each other ona  regular basis). Some of you suggested if it bothered me that much to say something-- I didn't want to tell them not to use the name or anything, but some of you suggested just telling FSIL which nicknames were sensitive to me. Anyway, it's now 3 weeks from FSIL's wedding, I know they haven't been using any protection for awhile, and so babies comes often in conversation-- we're getting married ourselves in 11 mo and plan to TTC again soon after the wedding. Anyway.. FSIL was really not feeling well today and we got on the subject of pregnancy.. everyone kept asking her if she was. Anyway, names came up again and this time she said they were thinking of Rose. 0_0 Okay.. so if my look of shock didn't tell her how I felt, I don't know what will. I brought up to her that they had said before they like Rosalind, but they said they'd since decided it didn't go well with their other R- name they know they definitely want for a boy. Then she mentioned some other names she liked and she liked them because they were family names. I mentioned that when we used Rose we didn't know it was a family name, but it's their paternal great grandmother's name (she didn't know that eithe; maybe I should have kept my mouth shut, but I was trying to interject my daughter's name into the convo.). Anyway.. WDYT? This time I feel almost like I might feel okay saying something. I could see her not making the Rosalind connection, but c'mon, Rose? Before I felt like I might be over stepping to even mention that it made me uncomfortable, but I dunno..ugh. Maybe her mother will say something. Maybe I shouldn't worry until they're actually pregnant, but I don't want her to get her heart set on it ant then us tell he it'll upset us. I also don't want to come out like I'm forbiding her to use the name, so what to say? I know some of you before said I didn't own the name and it's not like she wants to use Brenna or something. I wouldn't tell her not to use it, just maybe that I'd rather she not.

Now I am rarely whiney and am never lame enough to say "Please don't be mean and make me cry", but if you have something to say, please be nice, even if what you're saying is it's not my name or child and I should have no opinion or say, don't use mean words.. this is a sensitive subject for me. (Sorry.. just lately getting a lot of people thinking they're not being offensive when they're being really rude.. not in this comm really).


Their other name was Barbara May. I found this amusing because my fiance and I like May as well, but I would want to spell it Mae and his cousin has a little baby, almost 2 mo., whom they named Eleanor Mai. I was a little dissapointed when I heard her middle name, but figured, what the hell, at most we'll end up with third cousins with duplicate middle names, spelled differently. I'd find it highly amusing if 3 of May's great-grandchildren end up with her name for a middle name! Also wondering if there's a third unusual way to spell it. Eh, I dont think if his sister uses it we'll use it though. And she's welcome to Barbara (maternal grandmother)!


Okay--last thing. I know I've said to people before they should never let themselves be forced to use a name they hate-- compromise is great, but both parents need to be happy with the name. Well, my fiance loves, loves, <i>loves</i> two names-- Mary and Alice. Mary is just out-- my name is Meredith and I don't want a daughter named Mary ( unless I have twins--Mary and Edith? Wouldn't that be horrible? :) ) Well, I don't want to be a total ogre, so I'm trying to warm up to Alice and I'm coming to terms with using it as a middle name but not as a first name. Gah, it would help if my fiance liked more names! He's said he's liked these names since he was young and really wants to use them (he really wants to use them together-- Mary Alice.. it just sounds so nasally  to me).

Anyway, any idea of names that will go well with Alice? Preferably for Alice for a middle name. Other names we're liking are Jonah Edward and.. well, keeping the first name secret, but ends in '-lyn' and Esme (Ez-mee) for a middle name. We also.. guilty pleasure.. like 'Prism' and I suggested Prism Alice to my fiance.. he seemed to like it. Suggestions?