Some questions...

[moosforyous.livejournal.com]

I have a quick question...or two I'm not sure if this has been posted about before, so I'm sorry if it has been. But what do you all think about giving a child a first name and a middle name, but preferring the child to be called by their middle name? I have met several people in the past few weeks, including a girl named "Tochi Crystal" who is called "Crystal," and "Salvatore Tad," who is referred to as "Tad". What do you think of this?

Also, what do you think about naming a child specifically so you can call them by a specific nickname? For example, my friend is one of three, and her parents picked out each child's nickname first, and then matched the nickname with a first name. For example, they decided on the nicknames "Mandy, Tori, and Erick" before they decided on the first names, and now they only want their kids to be called by their nicknames. Personally, I find this to be strange, if you want your child to be referred to by a specific name, why don't you make it their first name? But I wanted to see what you all think! Maybe you have done the same thing, and can give me some insight into this practice...

Thanks!

Comments

[queenfionnuala.livejournal.com]

My mom goes by her middle name, so it seems totally normal to me. I think a lot of times what happens is that parents like a two names together but the name they want as the first name sounds better in the middle, so they put it in the middle and then just call the kid by their middle name. (Like with my mother, they wanted to name her Christene after a grandmother, and Frances after my grandfather's sister. But they thought that Frances Christene sounded better than Christene Frances, so that's how they did it). It can be kind of annoying to always have to be correcting people at school and such when they call you by your first name, but I don't see a problem with it.

Same for the nickname question. I think most people like to give their kids more dignified, longer names rather than just giving them a nickname. (i.e. James instead of Jimmy). A lot of people use nicknames, so what difference does it make if it was planned from the beginning or not? Also, the problem arises where Jimmy or Bobby, for example, are cute for little kids but when they grow up they'd rather go by James or Robert. So it makes more sense to give them a full name instead of giving a nickname as their first name.

[fgrovergirl.livejournal.com]

"I think a lot of times what happens is that parents like a two names together but the name they want as the first name sounds better in the middle, so they put it in the middle

That's how my mom was- She wanted my name to be Nicole, but didn't like how it sounded as a first name with my last name, so I ended up with the name Lisa Nicole. I've always been known as Lisa though, although for years I wanted to be Nicole