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[three-two-zero.livejournal.com]

I have a name etiquette question....

I won't be having children for a few years, but I love thinking about names anyway.  I've come up with lots of options, but I always keep coming back to the same name for a boy: Julian/Julien.

Now, the problem: my name is Julie.  Is this tacky?  It feels like I'm naming my son after myself, which I am strongly opposed to - I would never agree to a Junior using my husband's name.  I am really attached to my name - I absolutely love it, and I think it fits me perfectly.  I want my kids to have names that they feel this way about too

I don't know how likely it is that I would actually want to use this name when I do have kids, but it's always something I've thought about.  What do you all think - both about the name itself (and which spelling and possible middle names) as well about the problem of similarity to my own name?  Thanks!

Comments

[th3-unicorn.livejournal.com]

I'd be more concerned about the practical aspect of it.
I bet it could be very confusing to have two people in the same house with basically the same name.

You could still use it as a middle name, that would be fine. They'd still get the name, and if they wanted to use it, it would be the kid's choice.

[camilleyun.livejournal.com]

I don't see anything wrong with in. In my opinion, Julie is very different than Julian and it's also very different than being a Jr.

[blosmbee.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's tacky, but most people will probably assume you named your son after yourself.

[kitchen-poet.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's bad. My husband's name is Matthew, and we're planning to name our first daughter Mathilde. I'm actually looking forward to being able to say I have two Matties. ;)

Plus, I agree with the above posters, Julian is much different from Julie, but people will probably still assume he was named after you.

[velkoria.livejournal.com]

Maybe it's because of my culture but I am named after my mother and my brother after our father... my younger brother is named after our grandpa and my sister after our great grandmother. My sister and I have variations of the names (I am Monica Eloisa, my mom is Monica Elena and my sister is Irene Mariam while our great grandmother was Maria Irene) buuut our brothers have the same exact names, first and middle. It's the way our culture is though, it's acceptable for us to be named the same here. But it does hget a little tiring answering the phone and going "which Monica?" or typical, my dad calls out "Moni!" and me and my mom both go "what!?" so yeah it does get confusing but I don't think it's bad even if you were naming your son after yourself...

[velkoria.livejournal.com]

buuut our brothers have the same exact names, first and middle.
they have the first and middle names of their namesakes (Eduardo Emiro and Edgar Omar) not the same name between them... that ia a bit much.

[lilacmermaid.livejournal.com]

For me, it would be too similar, they're essentially the same name. Whether or not it IS the reason for you, it would look like he had been named after you. It would be one thing for two cousins (i.e. I'm Stephanie and I have a cousin named Steven), but for two people living in the same house, it's a bit much. It would be totally fine to have Julian as a middle name, however.

And I love both names. Julie has been on my list for a really long time, though, so as much as I also like Julian, I'm not going to be using it.

[makeitstopjamie.livejournal.com]

That can be confusing..

My uncle and my cousin are both Tedford. My uncle is Ted and my cousin is Teddy, but lately Teddy has started to go by Ted. I ended up having to address his graduation card to Teddy because of the confusion.

[laminy.livejournal.com]

When I read that your name is Julie, I literally said, "oh, wow." It's not actually tacky, because that's not your reason for liking the name, but it would look really weird.

[babyjess8.livejournal.com]

If you spelled it Julian it would not be as weird, imo.
My boyf's name is Aaron and his Mum is Sharon... I always joke about it, saying she was so high on the drugs she was attempting to sign her own name on the birth cert and that's how he was named. It didn't happen like that. She just liked the name, and it's different enough not to be noticeable straight away

[mrandmrschippy.livejournal.com]

You say you're 'really attached to your name' so I think it's fairly obvious why you're drawn to Julian/Julien. It's not just a wild, freaky, coincidence.

That said, I see nothing much wrong (& certainly not tacky) in giving a child a similar name to yours. It's pretty normal for kids to be named after a parent, especially fathers/sons. But I'd go with Julian and call him Julian, no nn. I don't think the problem is other people's confusion, but a boy would need to feel separate from his mother after a certain age so it's important to keep the difference well-defined.