But it's MY name!!

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Hehe.

So, what would you do if someone who you'd talked about baby names with a lot suddenly announced that a name you had told them was a top and definite name for you was definitely going to be their child's name? If it matters, the name had never occurred to them til you told it to them. It's not an unusual name at all, but is a bit uncommon.

Would you use what you planned to be say your second daughter's name on your first daughter, just to 'lock it in'? Or would you just not use it at all? What if it's a middle name?



My husband has two favorite names-- Mary and Alice. I really dislike Mary, but have warmed up to Alice (he told me these names 4 years ago, I've had some time). His sister and I are both trying to conceive and so we talk names. I had told her that he loved 'Mary Alice', but although I didn't like Mary I didn't want to be a total tyrant so had told him we'd use Alice.
I wouldn't be bothered so much if this wasn't the name that I explicitly told her her brother absolutely adored and was one of only two names he had ever asked me for.

I've mentioned her before, she's the one who wants to use my husband's name (well, their father's; my husband is a 3rd). I told her we hadn't fully decided if we were using it, but we'd let her know when we decided. We're definitely going to use the middle name as either a first or middle name, though. She said if we just used the middle name that she would use the full name for a son. Also, although we'd like Alice as a first name, it goes really well as a middle name with another name we like (and the name we like is a little weird, so it'd be a nice alternative if she doesn't want to use her name), so we're not sure but definitely want to use it and it's important to my husband. So, I don't want to be all weird about the names, and I know some might say she has dibs since she wants to use them as a first name, but what.. our kids will all have her kids names for middle names? That's weird. She's also said she wants to use part of our deceased daughter's name (her name was Brenna Rose-- two name first name; SIL wants to use Rose) She's also using a boy name I told her I loved to name her next cat.

I wish I'd never talked names with her. When we first started talking names she liked such different names (Barbara, May, Pastoria, Roslin) that I didn't think it'd be an issue.
Should we just battle it out with our ovaries and see if they have daughter #1 before we have daughter #3 (daughter #1 is deceased and we're pretty sure we've settled on a name for daughter #2, but we want 3-4 living children, so'll probably have at least 2 living daughters)? I am definitely glad I've kept my unusual favorite girl's name secret.

Ugh.. I don't want to be mean and have a problem with every one of her name choices, but c'mon..

I'd just feel bad if my husband has to give up the one name he loves (since he was like 10) that I actually like.

I do think the name she's chosen is very pretty-- Alice Matilde. Their boy name is Frank Roland. :/


Here's hoping my next pregnancy is girl twins so I can use both of 'our' names!



edit*
Okay.. my husband, not knowing I was posting here, just randomly suggested we name our next child Queso Crunchwrap Hand. Maybe I need to worry less about people stealing our names and more about his sanity..